Miscarriage support

abis21

Awww, MrsJ I'm so sorry for you.

Take as much time off work as you need. I work for my brother, so came in to work just a couple of days later, but I do still get down days every now and again and I took a day off last month cos I was in a v bad way over the blood tests. People understand. Don't rush back is what I am trying to say. You will easily get a sick note for 2 week+ if you want one.

Its such a funny time you will go through now. You will feel all sorts of emotions ranging from denial, shock, numbness, thinking you are coping ok, crying uncontrollably, feeling lucky (to have DH etc) feeling like the unluckiest person in the world, feelings of bitterness, resentment and jealousy, happiness, laughter, guilt for feeling happy/laughing.

Its all normal

And the world does officially suck. I can totally tell you that.

But given time, the world sucks a little less than it does right now.

Keeping talking and let yr emotions out, whatever they may be. Your DH, best friend, mum and the boards will all become invaluble at times (and other times no help at all).

Think thats all for now. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself.

xxxxxxxx

amus

Nothing to add but just wanted to say so sorry to hear of your loss xx

Metranil_Vavin

Really sorry to read your news mrsj28, there is nothing anyone can say, but this thread is a fantastic wealth of support from people who know what you are going through x

lilymay1

MrsJ...I am so so sorry. I hate this thread appearing as it always means bad news. When I read it was you that had posted my heart just sunk.

I'm so pleased you were looked after today and you will remain in my thoughts. Remember where we all are should you need us. Look after yourself.

Sending lots of love,

Lily xx

emylou

Sending you big hugs MrsJ ((())) didn;t want to read and run. Always come on here anytime of day or night there will always be someone you can talk to. It's so horrible that we are here at all though

Team Lowe please can you give me more information regarding the counselling? Was it free? Did your GP arrange it for you?

good_vibes

Mrsj *hugs* sorry your having to go through all this. Sending you lovely vibes

TeamLowe

MrsJ I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, please take good care of yourself and DH. It seems like from what you posted you won't need any treatment to ensure everything has gone so you can concentrate on you and coming to terms in your own time. I agree with Abis, don't rush back to work

Emylou I don't know if it's unusual but my EPU is linked to an assisted conception unit and the counselling service is provided for 'ward 2' as a whole so it is on the NHS and a smaller waiting list than what you would normally get, about six weeks. I was givenline contact number in my discharge notes. After I had a complete breakdown in work I called and after an 'assessment' which felt more like a first session, I was offered six sessions of what they call person based therapy, which is basically you talk and the counsellor listens, occasionally repeating or contextualising what you've said.
It doesn't sound all that useful but for me it really was. My mind was muddled from the grief and I didn't honestly know what I tout about it all until I was able to talk out loud for hours. And yes a friend or DH could have listened but I would have felt guilty for taking up so much of their time or self involved or worry about what they thought of what I said.

To me it really was worth its weight in gold and I I would encourage anyone who is thinking of having counselling to investigate how to are it happen. I kept thinking I was being silly and didn't need it bt it's like the lady said- no one walks through the door because they're fine x x

mrsj28

Massive thank you to everybody for the support today.

Not up to posting much tonight but wanted you to know ive been reading and hugely appreciate it.

I hate it that you all understand what I'm going through, but thank you for using your own painful experiences to support others xx

Kitten_Pie

MrsJ, I just wanted to give you my love and support. Be good to yourself and your OH and remember we are here whenever you need us.

abis21

Morning MrsJ. Glad you are reading and finding a little bit of comfort in that. Keep thinking of you and sending good wishes your way :A