Miscarriage support

delain

Maire I'd imagine your relief is completely normal. please don't beat yourself up over it... Just work on feeling better now :grouphug:

rachelkate

I lost my baby six weeks ago at 16+5. I'd gone for a blood test in the morning - the quad test and then when i got home i wasn't feeling quite right. Went back to bed but i couldn't warm up even though DH said i was warm to touch. Should have started work at 2pm but couldn't move due to overwhelming feeling of sickness and shaking with cold. Was sick and started bleeding really heavily. Got taken to my local hospital and then transferred to another hospital by ambulance and had tests done to be told six hours later by scan that all that was there was clots.

Am lucky to be here because i had a nasty bout of septicemia and was pumped with antibiotics continuously. Since leaving the hospital i haven't really known what to do - doctor didn't even want to see me to give me a sick note - only the doctor in my work organisation has wanted to see me. Work organised counselling for me which has been helpful but i find it difficult to talk about it.

My family is not an emotional family - we have never spoken about things or really shown emotion and so i haven't even spoken to my mother. She had a miscarriage but hasn't spoken of it at all and i don't know how to bring it up in case of upsetting her but haven't got anyone that has been through it to talk to.

I know that everyone is different but how long does it usually take for a period to return?

emylou

Sending you big hugs (((rachelkate))) I had a miscarriage at 9+6 back in April. I had an ERPC on 22nd May & had my first period Thursday 19th July. I saw my Dr as I was worrying & he said it can take up to 6 months for periods to resume! I think it varies for all women; my sister-in-law had a mmc in February, started her period a few weeks later & then got pregnant again & is now 13weeks.

My Mum has also had a miscarriage so I have been lucky that I can talk to her & also my SIL although tbh that is now more difficult although I am very happy for her & my brother I am also disappointed that it's not me. It's good to have this thread to come to for support, I hope talking here helps you, take care xxx

Kitten_Pie

Big hugs to all,

rachelkate I lost mine at 31 weeks on 19th October and my first period was on the 10th December. I did originally have long cycles to begin with so wasn't much longer than it would normally have been. I was also lucky and managed to get pregnant that first cycle. HTH

Toooldforthis

Hi ... I'm nine weeks pregnant .. On Saturday started to loose brown discharge ...Sunday period like pains and more brown discharge... Sunday evening starting to turn red but not flowing just present when going to the toilet ( sorry if tmi ) have scan booked for Tuesday afternoon but is it a start of a miscarriage ?

abis21

Toooldforthis - Its not necessarily a miscarriage. Many women have spotting in pregnancy and go on to have perfectly healthy babies. Period type pains can be just stretching of the ligaments. The only way you will know is when you get a scan really I'm afraid. Try not to worry in the meantime. I hope it is good news for you.

Rachelkate - Sorry you have had to join us on here My period returned after 6.5 weeks, and it'll be 4 weeks since that one tomorrow - but I have no idea when my next one will be. Before the pregnancy I was quite irregular, so no doubt it will surprise me when I am least expecting it! How are you feeling? Its good that you have had some counselling arranged. I'm on a waiting list for counselling and they said it might be some time. I do have a lot of support from DH and my best friend tho - think I would crack up without those 2 in my life. You can come and chat to us whenever you like. Sometimes the thread is very quiet - but when it gets bumped back to the top of the page people will read and try to help. Hugs for you xxx

Marie - Oh huni - what an awful time you have gone thru I'm a little similar to you in that I feel I am only dealing with the emotional side of losing the baby now. Its hard I cry more days some days now than I did at the beginning. Don't feel ashamed or disgusted for any of the things you are feeling. I have some awful thoughts at times. Sometimes I am very jealous and bitter, which is not like me at all, but thankfully the feelings don't last long. One of the most useful things the consultant said was to be kind to myself. And its true. You have been on such a rollercoaster. You will be worn out physically and emotionally. It takes time to heal everything and it feels at the time like you will never feel better, but you do. And then somedays you will slip back and the world will be black again - but it gets better again. Its just sad and hard and horrible for any of us to go through. Big hugs xxxx

Bigmomma - Sometimes people just don't understand what we are going through And to be honest, in a way I am glad that they don't understand as I wouldn't wish them to have to go through this. But insensitive comments and things really do hurt. Losing a baby hurts like hell. Its not just the loss of the baby that hurts, its the little future you had planned with them that I found the hardest to deal with. People who haven't had a miscarriage don't understand this and often come out with useful gems such as 'well at least you know you can get pregnant' and 'it was meant to be' and 'you can try again now' etc. The thing is - they really all do mean well. Its just that they don't know how it feels or what to say. How are you feeling now?

I'm waiting to go for my blood test in a bit Feeling a bit nervous about the results. Couldn't sleep last night. Had a lovely weekend away and then back to reality last night and this morning. I have done another urine test as well, so will have the results of that hopefully tomorrow (altho the lab has been taking longer lately )

Part of my stupid optimistic brain last night decided that the levels were probably rising as I was pregnant :o:o:o We have to use condoms until we are given the all clear to try again - so why on earth I think that I don't know. I guess I just don't want to think about the alternative. Its gonna be another stressful week of waiting for results.

Hope everyone else is doing ok. Hugs for everyone :A

rachelkate

Thanks everyone - it's nice to be able to share and have some advice from people who have gone through it. I'm doing ok now. When i was in hospital i was so focused on the infection side of it and getting better that it didn't really hit me until a couple of weeks. Then i had some bad times but kept busy with DH who has been really good but he doesnt really understand. I know i should talk more to him and my counsellor says i should but i'm the kind that keeps things in to a point.
I'm going back to work on Monday and i am dreading it in one way - my boss is going off on maternity leave a week after i go back.

Toooldforthis

Thank you for the reply .. Just waiting til the scan, its the not knowing that is so hard

Thinking bout everyone else x

Ellejmorgan

Toooldforthis wrote: »

Hi ... I'm nine weeks pregnant .. On Saturday started to loose brown discharge ...Sunday period like pains and more brown discharge... Sunday evening starting to turn red but not flowing just present when going to the toilet ( sorry if tmi ) have scan booked for Tuesday afternoon but is it a start of a miscarriage ?

Try to relax if you can, I had serious bleeding with my daughter at 12 weeks pg, proper red blood I was certain she was gone..

Turned out there was a big clot next to the sac, she is now a cheeky 7 year old...

It may not mean the worst...

amus

Toooldforthis wrote: »

Hi ... I'm nine weeks pregnant .. On Saturday started to loose brown discharge ...Sunday period like pains and more brown discharge... Sunday evening starting to turn red but not flowing just present when going to the toilet ( sorry if tmi ) have scan booked for Tuesday afternoon but is it a start of a miscarriage ?

I lost mine at 9 weeks 3 weeks ago and mine started with bright red blood when going to the toilet. But this doesnt mean that it will be the same for you. Lots of ladies have bleeding in the first 12 weeks and go on to have perfectly normal pregnancies. My SIL bled everyday for the first 12 weeks (sometimes loosing clots and cramiping) and went on to have a healthy baby girl.

Hopefully your scan will be good news!