Miscarriage support

Courgette

I kept thinking this can't possibily happen again because I've already had one and I'm not one of those women who have lots of miscarriages. What the !!!! is that even supposed to mean!?

TeamLowe

Courgette i'm so sorry for your loss

Denial is meant to be the first stage of the grieving process, isn't it?

Take good care of yourself x x

Courgette

My first loss was at 7 weeks. It was horrible and I felt so sad afterwards but after a time I began to feel okay and was able to think that it's only natural that there will be some early losses. This time around I had a bump and the loss itself was very fast and very sudden. The blood went everywhere, it was up the walls and behind the units because I was pulling apart the pieces of tissue I was passing to try to find the baby. Last time it got flushed down the toilet which always made me feel crap and I just wanted a cuddle. I now have severe anemia and can't even look after the children I do have. I have quite simply never felt so awful

Metranil_Vavin

There is nothing anyone can say. It's utterly, utterly awful and hideous and unfair and downright cruel.

I hope you have a good support network around you and your LO's are bringing you some comfort xx

Metranil_Vavin

Courgette that is awful

I remember fishing my baby out of the toilet and putting it in a tupperware dish, under the instruction of my mother who was on the phone. Awful, awful.

Have you been offered any counselling/support?

amus

Sorry to hear your sad news

amus

I went for a scan yesterday to check my uterus was clear (which I presumed it would be as the nurse who was with me when I miscarried said everything had come away).

She said there is still a sac (or fluid but she seemed sure it was a sac) there but Im really confused how this can happen when the baby and everything else has come out (the rest of my uterus was clear). I cant seem to find answers on Google either.

It wasnt a blighted ovum as the scan before my mc showed an 8wk fetus.

I have stopped bleeding now so am really confused what is going on. Just want it to be over with so I can get on with things .

Greener_Grass

ive been a secret lurker on this thread for a long time, Never did I imagine I'd be posting here.

After 27 months of TTC we found out we were pregnant on the 25th of June. We were elated of course, you could've knocked me over with a feather, i had all but given up hope of it ever happening. Anyway, since then i've been worried sick, everyone kept asking me how i was feeling and it was terrifying to tell everyone i felt fine.

On thursday night i went to the toilet to be greeted by huge amounts of dark brown cm. this unfortunatly later turned to bright red. I went for a scan yesterday to hear the dreaded words they can't find any obvious signs of pregnancy. There was something very small in my womb which could've been the baby or could've been blood. They took some blood and my HCG levels are 200 where 2 weeks ago they were 610.

I am numb. on thursday i cried loads, then cried after the scan yesterday but since then i cannot cry. I sit like a zombie just thinking over and over my baby is dead.

We have a 3.5 year old who is also devestated. hes been begging for a brother or sister for the past two years and was elated when we told him.

I don't know how to deal with this. I've had all the usual cliches from everyone - at least you know you can get pregnant, it was stress all the usual. I just want to tell everyone to F off and leave me alone.

We are getting married in 7 weeks and i stupidly bought a maternity wedding dress which luckily i've managed to cancel. I also bought tons of maternity clothes in the next sale on thursday afternoon which are now arriving one at a time just to prolong the torture.

Please can someone give me some words of advice. In some ways i'm shocked as to how normal everything is. to me its like the world has ended but everything else is still going on.

sorry for the waffling. I just don't know how to function just now

Kitten_Pie

Amus and Greener Grass I don't know what to say just big hugs.

Amus did the hospital say anything about the sac, are you going to go back for another scan. Without wanting to give false hope could there be the possibility of another pregnancy? I am not sure of the dates and how this would work.

Greener Grass, with my maternity and nursing clothes which I had bought in the sales. I put these in a box and into storage, many still had the labels on. It was heartbreaking but I kept reminding myself that one day I would use them.

It is difficult and there is nothing anyone can say or do to make it easier or hurt less. Just be there for each other one day or hour at a time.

QQuaver

Courgette, Amus and Greener Grass, I'm so so sorry (((hugs))).

GG, I couldn't look at the maternity clothes I bought (only bought one), so I gave it away.
But Kitten's suggestion of keeping it in a box sounds good too.

There's no wise words of comfort:( For me, only time healed my wounds.