Miscarriage support

portsmouthali

I'm so sorry for all of you going through this.

I'm in the same position as Nicki in that, almost a year after my last loss, I can't seem to conceive. Had all the RMC tests which came up with no reasons for my losses, and after getting pregnant 4 times in 2 years I thought it would be easy peasy to get pregnant again. Life seems to have a way of not going the way you think it will but I'm so so grateful for my son and try not to dwell on what might have been.

I still pop in and am always saddened to see new posts thinking of you all this evening xxx

skintchick

portsmouthali

OH and I had some trouble getting PG again and I put him on Wellman vitamin tablets. They take three months to improve sperm and sure enough, three months later I got a BFP. Might be worth a try?

portsmouthali

Thanks Skintchick certainly worth a try.

Hope you're bearing up OK. Seems so unfair that we have to keep going through this when it comes so easily to others *must not be bitter, must not be bitter*

skintchick

Oh I know. I work a lot with babies and newborns and I find it very hard sometimes, especially when they are moaning. But actually, we never know people's stories, we don;t know what they have been through to be where they are.

emylou

So sorry to hear more sad news from here I hope we all get our forever babies soon!

Sorry if this is a ramble but I hope it may help me with some advice or just getting it off my chest!?
On Tuesday it will be 7 weeks since my ERPC; I have had 2 episodes where I had blood when I wiped (sorry TMI) but other than that nothing. I hate waiting for AF to turn up (for once wanted it so could "start again" so to speak). I know everyone is different but really thought I'd have had a period now so I could start tracking cycle again. Me & OH want to start trying again and I even used Ovulation test yesterday but not sure if worth continuing with them daily or what?

I am also feeling like a completely horrible person as I found out last week that my brother & his GF (who had a mmc in Feb this yr) are expecting again. She is 10weeks so far but they have already had a private scan and I think are planning to announce it in next few weeks. I am very happy for them but also sad/disappointed/angry with myself, the situation etc as I so want to be pregnant & have my own family. My brother told me "show's you can fall again quickly" which I know was meant to be positive but seeing as I am feeling totally stressed & have hardly seen OH recently due to long shifts feels like it will never happen anyway! Also a cousin has recently given birth to her 2nd daughter 3 days ago & everywhere I look there seems to be babies & pregnant women & it's pretty much all I can think about! I just want to know that everything is ok with me & OH and that we will have our forever baby- anyone got a crystal ball??

Sorry for the ramble.
Sending lots of hugs to those who need them xx

lilymay1

skintchick wrote: »

Oh I know. I work a lot with babies and newborns and I find it very hard sometimes, especially when they are moaning. But actually, we never know people's stories, we don;t know what they have been through to be where they are.

You are so strong to be able to think like that and I really admire you. I wish I could be less negative.
I am very bitter about the things I have been through, almost to the point where I wish it would happen to other people just so they know the pain I felt. Totally wrong I know, but I just can't help it sometimes

TeamLowe

Emylou I wish I had a crystal ball too!
It's so hard to think the whole world is leaving you behind, there's a ttc after losss forum on babyandbump but I can't look there cos everyone else seems to get pregnant so quickly after, I get so jealous even though I know they've had pain too

This week hasnt been so bad, it think it helped that my hyscosy was Tuesday so I had that to worry about (everything is fine thankfully) as being a hypochondriac I was worried I'd had an infection after the mc which had messed everything up as my biggest biggest fear is that was that that was my only shot at having a baby x x

Thinking of you ladies going through it right now, it will get better from where you are but I know that might not be of any real comfort x x

thebaileys

Hi just popped by to say I hope everyone is doing ok, I know there has been a lot of sad news lately x

emylou-I know how you are feeling, my partner came home yesterday and told me that his sister is expecting her 4th baby.

Whilst I am happy for her, I am also a little sad, I lost a baby 7 years ago, and another last year. She seems to fall pregnant so easy and has never had any pregnancy problems.

I had sort of prepared for her becoming pregnant as she fell with her 3rd about 4 weeks after I had my son, and this time about 4 weeks after her brothers wife had there son.

She has 3 girls, so Im sure she really wants a boy, and I do hope she has one. I told my partner last night that I was a bit sad, and his reply 'Why would you be sad, that she is expecting' and I said well it's just because I know that we probably won't ever have anymore. Why can't men understand how we are feeling???

It's like he wants me to forget all about the 2 losses and never mention them. I am so thankful for my son, and feel awful when I feel like this....

Courgette

I had another miscarriage last week. I was 10+4. I feel utterly heart broken

Metranil_Vavin

Oh god Courgette

I am so sorry x