Miscarriage support

amus

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Amus and Greener Grass I don't know what to say just big hugs.

Amus did the hospital say anything about the sac, are you going to go back for another scan. Without wanting to give false hope could there be the possibility of another pregnancy? I am not sure of the dates and how this would work.

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No its definitely not another pg as we didnt BD whilst I was pregnant and havnt since the mc, I asked if it could have been a twin that didnt develop but they said they would have seen it on the first scan. Just dont really know how a fetus and placenta could come out without the sac?

I have to go for a scan in two weeks to see if has been absorbed or come out, if not they said I will probably need medical intervention

Took a pregnancy test today and one on Monday and todays line was a lot lighter so seems like hcg is coming down normally, so will just have to wait and see!

amus

Greener_Grass wrote: »

ive been a secret lurker on this thread for a long time, Never did I imagine I'd be posting here.

After 27 months of TTC we found out we were pregnant on the 25th of June. We were elated of course, you could've knocked me over with a feather, i had all but given up hope of it ever happening. Anyway, since then i've been worried sick, everyone kept asking me how i was feeling and it was terrifying to tell everyone i felt fine.

On thursday night i went to the toilet to be greeted by huge amounts of dark brown cm. this unfortunatly later turned to bright red. I went for a scan yesterday to hear the dreaded words they can't find any obvious signs of pregnancy. There was something very small in my womb which could've been the baby or could've been blood. They took some blood and my HCG levels are 200 where 2 weeks ago they were 610.

I am numb. on thursday i cried loads, then cried after the scan yesterday but since then i cannot cry. I sit like a zombie just thinking over and over my baby is dead.

We have a 3.5 year old who is also devestated. hes been begging for a brother or sister for the past two years and was elated when we told him.

I don't know how to deal with this. I've had all the usual cliches from everyone - at least you know you can get pregnant, it was stress all the usual. I just want to tell everyone to F off and leave me alone.

We are getting married in 7 weeks and i stupidly bought a maternity wedding dress which luckily i've managed to cancel. I also bought tons of maternity clothes in the next sale on thursday afternoon which are now arriving one at a time just to prolong the torture.

Please can someone give me some words of advice. In some ways i'm shocked as to how normal everything is. to me its like the world has ended but everything else is still going on.

sorry for the waffling. I just don't know how to function just now

Sorry to hear your sad news, like others have said its just a mater of taking each day as it comes. You will feel better as time moves on.

skintchick

Huge hugs for Courgette, Amus and Greener Grass.

It is just so terrible, nothing can make it easier and it is such a shock.

Keep talking IRL and on here, and it will get easier.

Well, I say that, I know it will because it has done after my other four but this last one I am struggling so badly, it's just awful. I have a friend for whom the fifth mc was the one the broke her, and I feel the same way. Somehow having had five just seems like it is ME who is broken.

I started a new thread, not sure if you've all seen it, it's for people who have had multiple miscarriages and now need some kind of tests or other intervention to help with TTC.

You can find it here https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/54497341#Comment_54497341

I know not many of us fit the category, thankfully it is rare to have three or more in a row, but if any of you reading it do then please pop over and post.

Hugs to all xx

emsywoo123

Courgette I am so sorry for your loss

emsywoo123

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Courgette I am so sorry for your loss

And I am very sorry for the other ladies as well of course, but I know Courgette of old.

delain

Courgette your post had me in tears, I hope you start to feel better soon. My mc in 2005 got extremely messy as well and it haunted me for a long long time. Even now I can see the blood everywhere

Make sure you get plenty of sleep and take some iron. Massive hugs to you :grouphug:

ETA: Skintchic, my mum had 5 miscarriages and went on to have me and my brother. I know that won't help much but its not the end of the line. Medical care is much better now and the tests much more advanced than almost 30 years ago.

skintchick

THanks Delain. It helps to hear stories like that. I do so much want another child.

Ellejmorgan

Hi Guys just to say it does get better..

I lost my little girl full term during delivery and now a few years on I only think of her on her anniversary..
Every year on that day I sit in the garden at 11am and light a candle, I also try to get my thoughts down on paper which helps..

I've also had 3 mc's...It gets easier, the pain lessens I promise..

For those of you that are struggling, please have counselling it will help to talk...

Please ask for tests to be carried out as to why after 3...

Thinking of you all

Metranil_Vavin

So sorry to read about Amus and GG's losses.

GG - I know exactly what you mean about life going on around you whilst for you it has stopped. I used to feel angry and bitter at the fact that people I knew and even people I didn't would be smiling, laughing, getting on with their lives. You feel as if something so horrendous has happened, everyone should be acknowledging it. It's horrible.

Really the only wise words I can offer (and they're probably not that wise), is that it does get better with time, but it can be a long road and you have to expect there will be dark days ahead.

It's a bereavement after all, whether or not those who have never experienced the pain think so or not.

JoJoB

Maire and skintchick, so sorry for your losses. Maire, we both had same due date didn't we? I'm so sorry I didn't see this had happened, thought your scare had worked out ok in the end then I left the 12 week thread when mine ended in ectopic.

Having a strange time dealing with mine maybe just because I was so grateful to get through it, glad surgery didnt kill me, glad it didnt rupture, glad it didnt happen further down the line, glad I already have one child, glad I still have one fallopian tube left etc etc.

I think I have been so focussed on reasons to be cheerful that I'm totally out of touch with how I actually feel about the loss. Its only reading your stories now that I'm feeling any emotion at all, especially Maire as I thought we would be due date buddies.