Miscarriage support

thebaileys

skintchick- I am so sorry to hear what you are going through xxx
Life is so bloody cruel, thinking of you xxx

thebaileys

Mairie1-So sorry to hear your sad news, It's so hard to stop yourself getting excited, I have also had two miscarriages, its so hard, and when you have no answers as to why it happened its even harder.

Take care, and lots of love xxx

TeamLowe

Skintchick i'm so so sorry
at least if you go in to the EPU you'll be looked after and get some answers
take very good care of yourself please x x

abis21

Glad you can have a bed and a cubicle - it makes such a difference. I had a private waiting room whilst waiting for my scans and it was so much nicer. And I had a private room with my own toilet while waiting for the ERPC.

Will be thinking of you and your OH. Is he able to go in with you?
xxxxxx

skintchick

Yes OH is coming and DD is going to a friend's. I just passed a very grim thing like a red and White jelly poo. Shudder. It wasn't the baby. No idea what it was.

Kitten_Pie

Oh skintchick I am so sorry you are going through this again.

micwil

Skintchick - so sorry you are going through this, hope you get some answers at EPU. Am thinking of you.

Marie - so sorry to hear about your news, nothing I say can makes things better, hope your OH is giving you all the support you need.

I have suffered what I think was a MC at the weekend after getting a BFP a couple of weeks ago. Light spotting last week turned into heavy bleeding and cramps at the weekend. Rang GP this morning and they suspect a MC. Told me that EPU wouldn't really be able to do anything, so I should just let nature take it's course.

I just don't know why things need to be so difficult. I had a MC in Jan 2010 before having my DD in March 2011. We decided that we'd like to try for another one at the start of the year and it took ages for my cycles to get back to normal after being on the pill for a few months. Was so excited to get a BFP in June, can't believe that less than 2 weeks later, it's all over.

I knew I shouldn't have got so excited about it. After the MC in 2010, when I got BFP with my DD, I refused to let myself think about what might happen, I practically ignored the fact that I was PG until after 12 week scan. I knew I should have done that this time but I just thought that after having DD, things might be better this time, so I allowed myself to think ahead, being pregnant, having another baby. I should have known better.

Don't really think I'm really asking anything with this rambling, just trying to make myself feel better I suppose. xx

Nephthys

micwil - I could have written that back in January! I know it is no comfort at all but I understand what you are going through. I had an mmc in November 2009, had my son in Oct 2010 and then had a mc in January this year after trying for a good few months. Like you I hadn't allowed myself to think too far ahead with my DS as i was terrified of it happening again. And like you in Jan I let myself get excited at the thought of having another one and hoped it would be like with my DS. I'm not sure if my hurt would have been any different if I hadn't got too excited if you know what I mean. But who knows.

You aren't alone although i know that won't make you feel any better. Come on here, have a rant, have a cry - whatever helps.

abis21

Big hugs micwil.

I think its so hard to find the balance between being excited and being cautious with your feelings in case anything goes wrong.

I am such an optimistic person - I can't help but think that everything will work out ok and get overly excited about things before they all work out. Its a really good trait to have most of the time - but then I sometimes find that I have further to fall if things do go wrong as I am just not expecting it, and find it harder to cope with.

Theres nothing at all wrong with being excited and planning your future with your bump - its a natural thing to do. But it does make it harder when that future is delayed

I had already thought out what we would do at christmas, that we would be a family of 4 with a newborn baby - and now it seems to much harder to imagine as a family of 3 Especially given that I have extra complications that means I probably won't be able to TTC before then anyway.

Don't be hard on yourself. One of the best things they said at the EPU was to be kind to myself - and its true. Nothing I did, or didn't do caused it to happen. It was just a bad piece of luck.

Things do get softened with time too - it is true that time is a healer. Thats not to say I don't have bad days still, or miss my baby - of course I do. Its just not a raw open wound anymore that stings all day long. Its just a dull ache that bubbles to the surface more on a bad day.

Come here anytime for a chat. Theres always someone around who has been through it and knows a little of what you may be feeling. Sad that there is so many of us, but comforting too in a wierd way that others know what you may be going thru.

Sending lots of hugs out to you all xxxxx

QQuaver

Thinking of you (((Skintchick))), (((Maire))) & (((mikwil))).