Miscarriage support

snowyz81

Hello all, not been on here for a long time.

Feeling abit down at the min, had a mc in Nov, luckier we managed to get pregnant again and we are due in October. This Wednesday would have been my original due date and it doesn't help with all the hormones at the min. :-(

TeamLowe

Lots of love to you snowy, it's hard not to think what might have been and it's only right that you mourn your loss. Would doing something to mark the day or as a distraction helped? DH and I went away for the weekend which really helped

Congratulations again on your current pregnancy x x

Chaos_Monkey

Hey everyone

Such a shame to find this thread, and find so many people in need of it

I miscarried at almost 7 weeks, last Saturday exactly 1 week after testing positive. It was an unplanned pg (and my first), and it's been quite a roller coaster as we've had to adjust to the pg, and now the mc, in such a short time. And my DH is working away at the moment, so I've had to deal with it by myself. We hadn't told anyone at all, having only known for a week ourselves and waiting for the 12 week scan.

I've got a Drs appointment on Thursday, so hoping to get more support from her than the terrible Dr I saw on Sat night at the walk in centre. I'm even paying more for the appointments and scans just to avoid going back to the walk in centre, which goes against my grain! I suppose I also want all my records in one place.

I've only read the last 2 pages or so of this thread (feels a bit voyeuristic), and I'm surprised to hear that it can take so many weeks/months to physically get back to normal - rather naively, I thought perhaps it would just a week or so. Quite frankly the Dr I saw on Sat should have said more then ''hmm, come back for a scan next week''. No wonder I'm still feeling a bit queasy sometimes. But I'm so glad I'm not crying ALL THE TIME like I was last week. That felt weird! And my boobs are considerably less sore (and smaller!) than they were.

I think I'm doing ok, but had a really horrible long day yesterday I'm not working at the moment, so can spend days without seeing anyone if I don't make the effort. I think I'm glad it happened so early on, and not later, though. It's all a bit surreal.

I don't really know what I hope to gain from this slightly rambly post.....but thank you to everyone for sharing your experiences, although I do wish you didn't have them in the first place! It must be truly heartbreaking to lose a much wanted and planned pg.:(

Hugs and best wishes to everyone on here xx
CM

dizziblonde

cleofish wrote: »

dizziblonde- thanks for the heads up on the song, how are you feeling now?

can i ask what is the storyline going to be on eastenders? is anyone able to hint or even point to a website where i can look? i dont usaully watch eastenders but i would rather be prepared instead of seeing a storyline on the front of a magazine.

I believe the Eastenders storyline is going to be Janine going into early labour and the baby possibly not making it is the heavy speculation since the actress is going on a break from the show or something... I'm just about at the point where I can deal with things miscarriage related since we came out of the other side of all that after our run of them (although at the time I did hit the brink of suicide), but stuff with premature babies I cannot cope with at all... we had the run of miscarriages and struggling to concieve again, then I finally got pregnant - was monitored by the hospital recurrent miscarriage consultant, including weekly scans in the first trimester, this one stuck good and proper... then arrived at 33 weeks gestation after a horrifically handled labour and birth by the hospital, a stay in NICU and then a really really grotty maternity ward being tube fed by her nose etc etc... anything with babies in incubators or prematurity gives me flashbacks to the hospital horror stay (I'm very sure I have PTSD - but won't go to the doctors for a diagnosis as I no longer trust medical bods).

The very daft thing that kind of seems too coincidental to BE coincidence if you get what I mean - is that her arriving prematurely, meant she arrived around the due date of the twins I lost - I kind of feel there's some grand cosmic plan behind that happening!

lauradora

Hey folks just dropped in to say hello. Hows everyone doing?

Things are still a bit of a struggle for me but am finding different ways of coping. I have moved to a quieter unit at work where clients arent as demanding.
At home im trying to organise my diary better so that I dont get a million things coming at me at once.

I watched the torch go through my villiage earlier today, surprised myself by being so happy....feel like im becoming human again

skintchick

I might be a bit premature posting in here but the less than 12 weeks pregnant thread is very quiet and I need some support.

I'm 10+5 today. Yesterday I started spotting. I had sone red when I wiped. It quickly changed to brown and has been getting browner since last night but hasn't stopped for 24 hours now.

I did go o the EPU but they can't scan me till tomorrow so just did a test which was positive and felt my tummy for pain.

I'm not in pain but ave slight cramps like mild period pain.

My boobs have stopped hurting but that has been on and off anyway. The main worry s on Thursday I could hear th placenta with my Doppler and now I can't hear it. I haven't found the heartbeat at all yet and the doctor at the EPU refused to even try.

I
I have a scan tomorrow and am on self opposed bed rest but starting o go stir crazy now and obviously concerned.

I've had four miscarriages two of them missed nes but one of them have been like this.

Just looking for oe support really if anyone is about.

skintchick

I might be a bit premature posting in here but the less than 12 weeks pregnant thread is very quiet and I need some support.

I'm 10+5 today. Yesterday I started spotting. I had sone red when I wiped. It quickly changed to brown and has been getting browner since last night but hasn't stopped for 24 hours now.

I did go o the EPU but they can't scan me till tomorrow so just did a test which was positive and felt my tummy for pain.

I'm not in pain but ave slight cramps like mild period pain.

My boobs have stopped hurting but that has been on and off anyway. The main worry s on Thursday I could hear th placenta with my Doppler and now I can't hear it. I haven't found the heartbeat at all yet and the doctor at the EPU refused to even try.

I
I have a scan tomorrow and am on self opposed bed rest but starting o go stir crazy now and obviously concerned.

I've had four miscarriages two of them missed nes but one of them have been like this.

Just looking for oe support really if anyone is about.

Nicki

Oh no, skintchick. I was hoping that this would all be plain sailing for you this time. I have no advice for you, other than to stay on bedrest so you will know you have done everything you can, and I will hope and pray that all is OK. I know some ladies do have unexplained bleeding in first trimester for a whole range of causes, and that happened to me with my second child, but was also how my last loss started too, so there are no guarantees. You are doing exactly the right thing to get it all checked out though.

lilymay1

Skint,

Just wanted to send big hugs and I will be thinking of you and praying it isn't bad news. xxx

maire1

I posted on this thread about my miscarriage in September. It took 10 cycles to conceive again and I got my much longed for bfp on 14th June.

Of course, as soon as I allowed myself to feel excited about the pregnancy, the bleeding started and now here I am miscarrying again.

Both times I have mcd at 6 plus 1.

I know nothing is done after two mcd but I feel desperate for answers.

I'm just so sad and feel like life just keeps throwing horrible things at me. When's it my turn for a bit of happiness?