Miscarriage support

skintchick

Cozza I am on the minidose of aspirin. I've had four miscarriages, one live birth, and this time I am 8 weeks pregnant and on the aspirin after my Gp said it wouldn;t do any harm and it might help. I also asked for the big dose of folic acid but was refused

I know I'm not a success story (yet) but I don't know anyone else who has taken it.

emylou

I had an ERPC 3 weeks ago today. I am still having having cramp pains, backache & some light bleeding infrequently & I am still getting positive pregnancy test results I have also been feeling sick recently & not sure if linked to the miscarriage or psychological due to the worry/stress etc? I was just wondering how much longer this will go on for/if it's normal that I'm still experiencing these pains after 3 weeks. It's hard enough with all the emotional issues I have
Thanks for reading x

manda1205

emylou - I too had weeks of feeling rubbish, achey, pains in boobs and belly. It did stop eventually, but I found that it would come back every month when I was due on, and this went on for ages, I think, for me to feel properly "normal" again it was pretty much a year. (although I did have 2 MCs in 3 months). I don't think people actually realise the physical side of it, just when you think you're ok mentally and then you come on again and start feeling rough all over again. Time heals, as they say and everyone is different, you may be fine in no time.

TeamLowe

Emylou I'd be getting advice from my EPU, whilst the bleeding can go on for a while to still have HCG in your system suggests the ERPC didn't get get everything. I was getting negative results the day after I had a scan to confirm everything had passed x x

abis21

Mrs Angry - thanks for sharing your story Sounds like you went through an awful time - glad there is a happy ending to the story

Cozza - no experience of asprin - sorry. Fingers crossed it works out well for you. :A

Skintchick - fingers tightly crossed that this is your forever baby :A

Emylou - Have you spoken to a doctor or the ladies on the ward where you had your ERPC? My cramping went within a week of the ERPC altho I did have some slight cramping yesterday, and I am coming up 5 weeks after ERPC. I did wonder if it was maybe AF cramps, but nothing has showed so far and they went a couple of hours after they started.

I still have a slightly stained CM, but my bleeding tailed off after 2 weeks or so, and then spotting for a week or so.

I'm still getting positive pregnancy tests, but thats due to my molar aspect. As you had am ERPC, they will routinely test for this, but its quite rare so hopefully you won't have it. I have no idea how long it takes to get a negative pregnancy test after a 'normal' miscarriage though - so maybe it is within the normal time frame?

If you are worried about anything tho, phone the ward, midwife or doctor to discuss it. The sickness may be connected to worrying - I get an upset tummy sometimes if I am very stressed out.

Come and chat to us whenever you like tho :cool:

AFM - I'm awaiting my second HCG level tests tomorrow. Feeling ok so far about this. Was in a right stress this time 2 weeks ago - snapping at DH all the time. What will be will be. I can't change what my body decides to do. Just got to hope that my body behaves itself and the HCG levels reduce nicely and then the waiting time to TTC again will be reduced :cool::p

One of my favourite customers came in to work this week and she'd just lost her mum last week. Usually I would be completely useless in a situation like that, having been lucky enough to never lose anyone close to me before, and having a big ability to put my foot in things normally. But I actually did really well, and I'd like to think I maybe helped her when we were chatting.

I know that theres not many positives to having a miscarriage, but I do like to try and find positives (I am an eternal optimist), and it made me think that I might end up being a more thoughtful and nicer person for having to go through this. And also I will be definately taught a big lesson in patience and hopefully it may cure me of being a control freak seeing as there is absolutely nothing I can do to alter anything that is happening to me. :A:A

Hope everyone else is ok xx

cleofish

hi everyone sorry i havent been on for a while, needed to take a step back with what has been going on.

Hoping everyone is feeling good today.

abis21- glad that you had a good jubliee weekend did you manage to have good weather as well? It was horrible here for that weekend, the weekend before would have been better. Sorry to hear you are on weekly testing with sheffield, but least it means that they can monitor you more closley, how are your levels coming on now?
You will be surprised how big the drops in the hcg levels can be, fingers crossed you get good results for the next one.

dizziblonde- thanks for the heads up on the song, how are you feeling now?

can i ask what is the storyline going to be on eastenders? is anyone able to hint or even point to a website where i can look? i dont usaully watch eastenders but i would rather be prepared instead of seeing a storyline on the front of a magazine.

cozza123- im going to be seeing a fertility specialist (hopefully soon) as well after we have had 3 losses now, they have stressed to us, not to get our hopes up and that they might not find a reason and ill probably be put onto aspirin, so i am interested too in hearing of any success stories. have they said it is ok to try again now or best to wait till all results are back?

emylou- if you are still bleeding and having pains along with the positive pregnacy test 3 weeks after the erpc i would give your local early pregnancy unit a call or your gp where they can carry out a couple of blood tests, to check the pregnancy hormone is coming down and also to check you havent got any sort of infection.Its not nice it going on for so long, i hope it clears up for you soon.

afm i went to my scan last thursday hoping that it would show everything was clear especially as i had been bleeding for near 4/5 weeks by then and i had also passed the large tissue a couple of weeks ago which i thought was the pregnancy, However it wasnt to be, i went for the scan and they told me nothing had changed at all, not the size or anything, despite all the blood loss, the blood clots and the large tissue it was all near enough intact. We couldnt belive it, they think it might have been a part of the placenta that i passed but it couldnt have been the pregnancy itself.

Getting the results took us by surprise if im honest, we either thought its going to be all clear for the scan and go home or at worst there is still a little bit inside, maybe have the tablets and pass what was left, i really didnt expect everything including the pregnancy to still be inside of me.

Because everything was still inside the only option we had was to have the d and c, it would have been about 4 weeks since i miscarriaged so the risk of infection was quite high so they really pushed for it that way, i couldnt really argue at that point either despite me initially not wanting the erpc at the beginning of all of this, i just wanted an end to all the bleeding and just the mental drain as well.Ive had to start taking iron supplements as well, i was starting to feel really tired and ill, sleeping lots and oh was starting to get really worried.

I went in for the erpc last friday and its been a week today, i feel such a different person, the bleeding has nearly tailed off, no more pain and just the different in my energy levels is amazing. mentally i feel better (i still have my moments but hopefully that will heal with time) but to finally draw a end to the miscarriage physical side of it is such a relief, i think i should have opted for the erpc in the first place, but after the last one, having a bad experience it put me off and i wanted to try to miscarry naturally but i dont think i would do that again ( and hopefully i wont ever have to go through another miscarriage- i can but hope!). The other good thing to come out of it was the pregnancy will get tested for any eveidence of molar (especially as i had a molar before) so at least that will be throughly checked over.

So now i just have the mental side of things to deal with, im trying to be positve fill my mind and hands with things to do and look towards the specialist appointment, but as i remember from previous miscarriages its hard, some days are better than others even within the same day i feel good and then bad, im just hoping over time it will get better and it wont feel so raw.

sorry for the long ramble- on a lighter note here is a picture of the actual cake i made for the jubliee, (hopefully it doesnt look too different from the proper picture) it tasted really nice and the sugar paste is good for covering up a lot if you happen to make any mistakes but i wont be making it again in a hurry, it took hours and weigh a ton, but tatsed lovely with a cup of tea or even a cheeky glass of wine!

abis21

(((((((hugs)))))) cleofish - sounds like you have been through the ringer with this one. Must have been a right shock that there were still products in there

Am glad you are feeling physically better from it all :A:A

The mental side of it is bound to take longer tho, especially considering this isn't your first one :( I'm doing the same as you - trying to fill my time with things and give myself things to look forward to. I think it does really help.

The cake looks amazing and very yummy too :T:j:beer:

AFM - HCG results are ok and coming down. I was really pleased with the first result and shocked when they said to put me on to weekly testing. Hopefully they will take me off it again soon. The computer decides apparently, but they aren't sure what the cut off level is to go back on to fortnightly.

Sent in another sample today, so results next weds for that. Am finding myself much more stressed out on the testing day rather than the results day for some reason tho :huh: Would have expected it to be the other way round - but I have been a right grumpy and snappy mare today and last friday too.

Had to explain it all to the mobile hairdresser who comes to my work place (I don't get my hair done by her) as my brother must have told her the news (I didn't), and she was offering me congratulations - so that wasn't very nice Have never had to explain it all in person before in full - it was mostly via text message or email. I did ok tho and didn't sob on her.

One of my friends announced a pregnancy on facebook this morning tho which is due same time as bebi would have been so I have taken that quite badly today She's had so many people congratulating her and 'liking' the piccie etc - and I'm so jealous. I wanted that. I know we will get there eventually - it just seemed to hurt a bit more as I was sending the tests off the same day that she was celebrating her good news. :o

Am gonna have an early night tonight and hope I wake up with my PMA back tomorrow. :A

cozza123

Hi cleofish

They said that it was ok to try again the results should come back in 6 weeks anyway, I'm trying to find as many successes as possible somehow it may make me feel better in trying again. I guess if you put someone different into it that was not like the last it gives more hope or it does in my case i think.

cleofish

hi all, up early this morning as both my cats seem to think its time to get up and who am i to argue, even though im sure in a hour they will be both back sleeping.

sending you hugs abis, hoping your wake up today with your PMA, (although the weather isnt helping here) its hard with the facebook thing and i havent figured out how to cope with it yet, im happy for people, its good they are pregnant and everything is healthy but it does feel like salt in the wound sometimes especially when you see and hear every milestone, scans, births, baby photos.
I dont really go on facebook much and it probably has a lot to do with being wary of seeing that black and white scan pop up as someone profile pic.
Sending you big hugs and a hamper full of chocolate its hard to get away from facebook these days. im sure it will happen for you, and you will appreciate it all the more because of what has happened, it will be extra special.

Hoping your figures come down as well, i used to feel really sad on the day i had to test (thinking i was the only one who needed to do this and why couldnt i be simple and be like everyone else) but i would get so anxious on the day i rang for the results. It will become part of your routine though and will get easier to do, even though i wouldnt wish it on anyone. With the weekly testing least you dont have to wait every 2 weeks and worry about the results in between, once the figures start to drop for you, it will get better.

cozza- i have my fingers crossed for you it all works out and you can be a success story for me then hopefully im looking forward to having the testing- is that weird? it just feels good to be able to do something productive to see if we can find a solution and like you if its aspirn least its something that i am doing different than before and might give me a bit of hope it might work. hoping it all goes well for you, keep us posted.

hoep everyone has a good day im being sumoned by the cats for their breakfast

melvis

cleofish wrote: »

its hard with the facebook thing and i havent figured out how to cope with it yet, im happy for people, its good they are pregnant and everything is healthy but it does feel like salt in the wound sometimes especially when you see and hear every milestone, scans, births, baby photos.

I changed my settings for people on mine so I rarely see any of there updates :rotfl::rotfl: they don't know I've done it but at least every other photo on my timeline isn't a scan and every other status isn't about morning sickness, it really gets me down seeing them all the time xx