Miscarriage support

cleofish

sorry for posting this news, really wish i could post on the good news threads instead.

i should be 11 weeks today, had some bleeding last night got admitted to my gynae ward because of risk of heavy bleeding and because of previous history of molars and miscarriages.
Had a scan in epu this dinner time, no heart beat and baby only measuring 8.5 weeks. I had an early scan at 8.5 weeks and everything looked ok, so it seems everything went wrong shortly after.

they wanted me to stay as an inpatient and have a d and c today, but i had such a bad night sleep on the ward with other patients i was knackered and just wanted to get home, so im going to phone on monday and arrnage to have the d and c then, so we have the weekend to get our head around it and hopefully have the op by the end of next week.

This is our third pregnancy loss so epu have referred us to a consultant and hopefully we might find out some answers, i understand this doesnt always happens and the epu lady did stress we might come away being told its one of those things.

But just wanted to ask if anyone has been down that road before?
i know its early days and epu lady said it could take up to 12 weeks to have the initial apt anyway but just wanted a heads up on what would happen.

she did tell us we could try again and maybe try aspirin but if we were pregnant again by the time the apt came through for the clinic i wouldnt have any testing as i would be considered pregnant. Again way early days, dont even know if i could try again without any testing or assitance in case it all happened again.

I just cant believe it has happened again and in the same way as it did last time, finding out nearly 3 months down the line. If you add the nearly 3 months i was pregnant this time, nearly 3 months i was pregnant in nov and all the time i spent with the molar and treatment i have spent a hell of a lot of time in the past 5 years either pregnant or recovering from pregnancy things but nothing to show for it at all, it just feels such a waste.

msb5262

Cleofish, I'm so sorry - that's really an awful thing to have happened and particularly for the third time. Please accept my condolences and sympathy. It sounds as if you're at the end of your tether.
I hope you will feel a bit less alone when you hear from a few other people on this thread...your loss is something we have all experienced at least once.
Take care of yourself and I hope you can get through the next few days ok.
Best wishes
MsB

TeamLowe

Oh gosh cleofish, so sorry to hear your news
Huge hugs to lauradora too and any other who have recently lost, you don't know how much I wish mine was the last ever mc

My EPU were lovely to me, but then again I didn't mind them being cold and clinical if they were as it helped me to cope by seeing the medical management as separate from losing my baby x x

lauradora

Hi Cleo,

Sorry to see that you have had to move over to this thread also.

I've been having a "Why me" day today. Feeling very sorry for myself and very sore.

Been to GP who has put me on anti biotics as a 'just in case' and has given me a large dose of pain killers :silenced:

Lauralou

Hi Cleo.
It always breaks my heart reading what people are going through.
I have had 4 miscarriages. I had blood tests and the chromosome tests and everything came back normal and was 'just one of those things' which really does break your heart to hear these words.
If you have any questions please do ask:)

Big hugs to anyone who needs them

lauradora

Lauralou wrote: »

Hi Cleo.
It always breaks my heart reading what people are going through.
I have had 4 miscarriages. I had blood tests and the chromosome tests and everything came back normal and was 'just one of those things' which really does break your heart to hear these words.
If you have any questions please do ask:)

Big hugs to anyone who needs them

"Just one of those things" :mad:

Metranil_Vavin

I remember the sonographer who delivered my bad news at EPU being heavily pregnant herself, and moaning to someone else there that she couldn't wait for her maternity leave to start.

I know you can't discriminate against a pregnant woman, but seriously...it's pretty harsh having to lie there being told your baby has died by a woman about to drop herself

abis21

Hey ladies,

Another newbie for the thread I'm afraid :(:(

Went for a dating scan yesterday at 10+3 (altho they thought I was 12+4 based on LMP) to find out it was a missed miscarriage and also a molar pregnancy.

Was scanned yesterday firstly at my local hospital where the equipment isn't so good, so they sent me through to the main hospital about 25 miles away. They scanned me and agreed it was a mmc, but couldn't confirm the molar from their scans. Had some bloods taken, and was booked in for an ERPC this morning so that they could send the placenta away to histology.

Been there all day today. Had to be there at 7.30, but there were a couple of emergencies which obviously were bumped up ahead of me, so there was a lot of waiting round to be done.

The bloods came up with abnormally high HCG and also the placenta when removed visually looked like a molar pregnancy, but they won't confirm anything until it has been properly tested.

Must say - every single person who we have seen has been amazing. Very helpful, informative and sensitive with everything. Both hospitals have been the best you could possibly hope for in the circumstances.

Feeling a little sore, tried, and obviously very very upset. DH is being amazing. It just sucks thats all.

Finding it hard to comprehend, that not only have we lost our baby, now we have added complications and may not be able to try again for some time. I know I need to cross these bridges when I come to them, and should wait to be advised further. My appt won't come through for 2-4 weeks tho to discuss the molar aspect, so its hard not to speculate on what may be.

Waited over 2 years to start conceiving, then 5 months trying to conceive, then 3 months here, and who knows how much longer I will need to wait. I just want a baby. Feel so sad that its 'over' with this baby. I understand that it died etc, but it suddenly feels more final now we are home and its no longer inside me.

I am very lucky to have a DD who is 6, but I just feel she will be the oldest big sister ever She has taken the news better than expected, but I don't suppose she understands it properly. Probably a blessing for her

Big hugs for all of us.

fly_dragon_fly

I'm sorry abis21 for your loss as I am to all of you, I had a m/c at the end of March after my first round of fertility treatment, I'm lucky to have a little one who will be 7 next week but it doesn't make it any easier, maybe write her teacher a letter explaining whats happened recently as my little one seemed ok then told a lot of his friends at school about it, he wasn't to know not to really talk about it but i still struggle thinking all those mums on the playground know.

my thoughts are with all of you at the moment x

SusanC_2

Cleofish, I'm so sorry to hear that it has happened again for you and I hope you are able to get some answers that help. It's so hard when you have spent so much time being pregnant with nothing to show for it.

Abis21 I think that having a child already makes it easier in some ways but harder in others - I know for me whilst it has definitely helped that I already had a child, seeing my daughter getting older and still being an only child especially while all her friends have siblings and I know how much she would love one has been something I have found particularly hard.