Miscarriage support

Nicki

I've never had it happen so close to a booking in appointment DFD but I'd be surprised if they were organised enough to cancel the lab looking at the blood test. But I think the bloods at 7 weeks are just to check your blood count? The chromosomal tests are usually a bit later at around 12 weeks, and a chromosomal abnormality could certainly cause a loss.

The tests they do for recurrent miscarriage are quite different to the ones they do in early pregnancy, so unfortunately you are unlikely to get any answers from the bloods they have done. The good news though is that having one loss does not make it any more likely that you will have a second one, and that many women are more fertile immediately after a loss so hopefully it won't take another 8 months to conceive again. (that being said I am about to start my 9th cycle TTC since my last loss, so there are no guarantees).

I am very sorry for your loss, and your story isn't any less worthy or heartbreaking than anyone else's on the thread. We have all lost much wanted and loved babies, at whatever point in the pregnancy this occurred and we all understand how you feel and will be grieving with you for this.

abitofhelp

Hi debt free dreamer, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, its a horrid thing to happen to anyone. I had a miscarriage 12 years ago at 9 weeks, i thought my world had ended, two years later i gave birth to a little boy spookily born on the due date of my lost child. My thoughts are with you and your oh.

lauradora

Hi there guys

I have had to move here from the up to 12 weeks pregnant thread.

We went for our 12 week scan on wednesday, according to my dates I was 13+1. However according to the scan the baby had only developed to 9 weeks and had no heartbeat.

This will be my 3rd mc. this one undoubtedly the worst as I knew what was coming. In addition it had to be medically managed-something i've never had to contend with before, it meant being sent home from the scan on wed and having to wait until the friday, knowing theres a dead baby inside me, to be induced.
Had I known then what I know now I would have opted for the surgery.

I had to have tablets inserted vaginally, not a nice experience for me or for my husband who stood and held my hand whilst a doctor inserted them

Then the contractions started which again hubby had to nurse me through. i must say hes been fantastic through it all.
But it was full on labour, waters breaking and everything

I think that will trumatise me more than anything

abitofhelp

lauradora i am so so sorry to hear that, how awful for you and your oh, my thoughts are with the pair of you.

portsmouthali

DFD & Lauradora, so sorry for your losses. DFD, not really got much to add to what others have said, other than to say I hope you're OK. The sense of shock I felt with my first loss was like nothing I've ever experienced, it takes time to come to terms with everything so be kind to yourself over the coming weeks xxx

Lauradora, that really sounds horrific Hope you & your OH are OK xxx

lauradora

Thanks guys we are trying, lots of talking and crying.

He went back to work today, that was a bit daunting for the both of us.

He said people have been treating him like hes got the plague and have been ignoring him!:eek:

Needhelpsaving

Hi all,

Is it possible that I could join? I too was on the up to 12 weeks thread, but after some spotting and a viability scan, we found that I had miscarried.

Hospital found something on my ovary, but can't work out whether it's a cyst or the pregnancy, so I have been back and forth to the hospital for blood tests (something to do with hormones).

I am sorry to hear that so many people go through this

mishkanorman

lauradora wrote: »

Thanks guys we are trying, lots of talking and crying.

He went back to work today, that was a bit daunting for the both of us.

He said people have been treating him like hes got the plague and have been ignoring him!:eek:

Its horrible isnt it ? people just dont know what to say and in some cases ive been grateful when they have avoided me - some people come out with the most offensive dumb !!! things that are supposed to help but really just feel like another slap in the face !

Needhelpsaving

It sounds as if they are checking that the hormone level is dropping, do you have to return much more ?


hugs to you both anyway x x

lauradora

hi needhelpsaving

How are you feeling?

How far along were you when you had your viability scan?

lauradora

mishkanorman wrote: »

Its horrible isnt it ? people just dont know what to say and in some cases ive been grateful when they have avoided me - some people come out with the most offensive dumb !!! things that are supposed to help but really just feel like another slap in the face !

Oh my god yes. I had to stop myself puching my own dad on a few occasions this week. "Well it'll be ok next time" Di**head

:mad: