Miscarriage support

portsmouthali

Hi Rups I've also been crazily busy at work which helps to take my mind off being obsessed with pregnancy (just as well as it's not happening!! :mad:) I'm also loving the warm weather, I love this time of year anyway and the sunshine certainly helps.

Hope everyone else is OK xxxxxx

cozza123

i know people haven't been on here in a while and i'm not expecting any replies just wanted to clear my head as i don't really have anyone to talk to about these things and think writing things down helps. went to have another scan and was all clear cystis have gone just got to wait till june for blood test results so want them to find something that they can fix know it may sound daft. just keep thinking first one should have been here next month and i don't know how i'm going to cope, keep thinking i should be on maternity leave enjoying pregnancy and i know enjoying will never come into it

skintchick

cozza123 wrote: »

i know people haven't been on here in a while and i'm not expecting any replies just wanted to clear my head as i don't really have anyone to talk to about these things and think writing things down helps. went to have another scan and was all clear cystis have gone just got to wait till june for blood test results so want them to find something that they can fix know it may sound daft. just keep thinking first one should have been here next month and i don't know how i'm going to cope, keep thinking i should be on maternity leave enjoying pregnancy and i know enjoying will never come into it

Oh hugs, cozza. My last one would have been due next month as well, and I know how hard it is. I'm glad your scan was clear, although what a pain to wait till June for the results of the bloods, that is ages.

I understand completely why you'd want there to be something fixable, that is the hardest thing about miscarriage, that we don;t know what went wrong and we can;t fix it.

All I can say is that, having had one pregnancy that did result in a birth, there is some enjoyment eventually , maybe not as much as if you'd never had a loss, but it does come. I'm sure your time will come too.

Keep posting, because we do lurk you know, and I know plenty of people keep an eye on this thread and will reply when it appears.

Big hugs xxx

cleofish

hi cozza, just wanted to say something without running as i lurk on the board from time to time.

Really glad the scan was clear for you the second time around and hoping the time will come quickly for you to find out the blood results. I can understand what you mean about finding something so they can fix it, hoping it works out for you and let us know what happens in june.
Sending you big hugs for next month, my last pregnancy due date would have been in may as well.

I hope you manage to find a way to get through next month, its hard to know what to say, due dates will always make you think back or think what if, but know you can always come on here as others will understand as well, sending you my thoughts and hugs.

SusanC_2

Hi Cozza, think it totally makes sense to want them to find something they can fix and I hope that is the result of the tests for you. Due dates can be hard so take care of yourself and do post on here if you want - I usually check for posts every day and I think there are quite a few others who check regularly too.

portsmouthali

Hi Cozza, I check on here most days so post away. I actually feel a rant coming on......

I should be on maternity leave too so know how you're feeling My due date was the 2nd March, and one of my colleagues who had a baby at the end of Feb is bringing in her baby on Friday. Deep joy :mad: Although I've been through this 4 times, all her milestones (like 20 week scan, finding out the sex, going on maternity leave etc.) were my milestones too, and made me think about stuff even if I didn't want to. I know this sounds like sour grapes (because it is!) but this whole thing sucks and I'm utterly sick of trying and failing to get pregnant, and then failing to stay pregnant for no apparent reason whatsoever.

Sorry about that. As you were

Nicki

Another one with a lost baby with a May due date, and still not pregnant again here

Hugs to Portsmouthali. I've had that happen to me with my first loss and it was very very hard. Would it be possible to work from home that day, or go in late/leave early/have an odd lunch break that day so you don't have to endure it?

portsmouthali

I do have to go in that day, but will try & find out when she's coming in & schedule a meeting elsewhere or something

Kitten_Pie

(I know this isn't the right place to post but I didn't want to start a thread and have been on here before so most of you know me. The pregnancy thread clearly isn't right and facebook wouldn't understand.) This is the first time I have written down what happened and not posted the link my husband wrote.


Six months ago today I gave birth to my beautiful baby boys who were sleeping.

Six months and 2 days ago I was disinfecting the cot ready for the mattress and bedding we had bought and were awaiting delivery of. All the clothes had been sorted and we were putting them into the draws ready. I was in a lot of pain and had been put on strong painkillers a few days earlier when I went to the hospital to check everything was OK. I got shown the boys and both heartbeats were strong. The painkillers helped with the pain but also made me and I assumed the boys sleepy.

After not feeling my boys kick for a while I went to the hospital to check they were OK, I had only been scanned 48 hours ago so thought they were just sleepy from the drugs. Hours later I was told they had died and I was given pills to induce birth.

Labour itself was incredibly painful, I think I would have handled it better like the rest of the pain if I had a reason but I knew that I was going through this and wouldn't have my sons at the end of it. I did get to hold my boys for a day and they spent the night with us.

It took us 3 weeks to take down the cot and put the stuff into storage. My husband had the insight to cancel the delivery which was coming the next day. Our stockpile of nappies were given to our community midwife to be distributed to anyone she felt needed them.

When I close my eyes I can still see the ultrasound picture of Lincolns foot, unmoving.

I hate knowing how much a baby's coffin costs and that I am on maternity leave with no children. Although the thought of going back to work fills me with dread. My husband had been in his job 10 years, he went back and quit. It is just too painful and lonely.


I am currently 5 months pregnant with a single baby and we finally told our familes two weeks ago. I have scans every 4 weeks and can't look at the screen, I cry with relief when we get shown the heartbeat. Every time I expect to get the sad news that the baby has gone. There is no underlying reason this would happen, my twins died because of a condition only caused by identical twins the likely hood of me ever having twins again are 1:750,000 this in itself is upsetting after all the plans and dreams.

I haven't researched prams because I spent months researching the right one last time only to have to send it back for a refund to pay for the funeral.

Lots of hugs to everyone,

Ps.
Heard this today and thought it might help/hinder make everyone sad http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_jSq1Pj7fZE

Nicki

I am so sorry kitten pie. You have been through more than any mum should have to bear. I will be thinking about you and your boys today, but also about your new baby, who will be so lucky to have a mum and dad like you and your OH. xx