Miscarriage support

SusanC_2

Walby, I'm sorry to hear of your loss - I think it's pretty normal to feel up and down.

Jules I had a mc at 7-8 weeks which started off as on/off spotting for a few days then I had maybe seven ish days of proper bleeding like the heaviest part of a period and with some noticeable clots later on and then it kind of tailed off so start to finish was about two weeks with one week of heavyish bleeding. I also had one that was very early (4 1/2 weeks) which was just like a normal period but a bit more clotty.

SusanC_2

And Jules I don't think it's stupid to want to try again. I don't think the risk of it happening again diminishes the desire for another child. I know for me my losses did not stop me wanting to try again. There have been times when I felt it was too hard and seriously considered giving up not because I didn't want another child bur because the thought of going through the same stuff again and again felt so bad. Sometimes people do get to a point where they decide it is better for them to stop trying than to continue but that is a very individual choice and neither stopping or trying again is a stupid choice. Sorry that's rather rambling - hopefully you can make some sense out of it.

cozza123

just wanted to say msb thanks and kitten pie that was so true to see how it makes us all feel written

made me cry, bit concerned my appointments for the specialist is friday and i've just had my first period after the 3rd mc and it was kind of weird small clots and lasted ten days and it was never like that after the other two and before and normally it lasts about 5days.

Also been getting a sharp pain just below me belly button like a knife stabbing in me every so often anyone know if i should be worried?

msb5262

cozza123 wrote: »

Also been getting a sharp pain just below me belly button like a knife stabbing in me every so often anyone know if i should be worried?

This is obviously new to you so I think you should see your GP. Don't let the receptionist fob you off, you need to have a chat with an understanding doctor and share all your worries.

Hope you are ok cozza.

Best wishes

MsB

jules68

Really having a pants day Still bleeding and earlier had to run to loo and passed what looked like the sac, really distressing. Was ok up til that point, but suppose it means things will settle down now. Sorry for TMI!!! Just cant talk to anyone in RL

walby1993

Oh Jules, it is heartbreaking when that bit happens. I was pretty lucky in that I started bleeding at about 5pm Sunday and had finished by about 5pm Monday apart from some spotting for a few days. I had some pain about 9am Monday morning and at about 11am I felt something come out of me and it was what I also assumed to be the sac. I quickly wiped myself and threw it down the loo because I didn't want to face up to the reality of what it was and then I broke down because I felt guilty for throwing it away like it was nothing. I thought about that often for several days after.

I hope this means you will stop bleeding in the next 24 hours and don't worry about TMI - you need to talk about it to deal with it emotionally.

portsmouthali

Walby, my experience with my first loss was the same - I was so utterly shocked at passing the sac, I was too terrified to look at it & flushed the loo very quickly. Still upsets me now

Jules, so sorry you find yourself here again. Talk to us whenever you need to vent, I check the thread most days as do others xxxx

snipzychick

I'm so sorry for all the latest losses on here, I feel a bit sad whenever there are new posts ((hugs))

I sadly have just had my 3rd miscarriage in a row. It was a missed miscarriage again and I was given medical management to help me pass the sac, which I did late on Friday night. I was 9+4 weeks. I just feel so sick and tired of this really. When I got my BFP at no point did I have any expectations that it would end in a healthy baby...I just seem to have given up hope

I am 41, 42 next month and have basically been told that it is probably due to my age, and no testing has even been suggested to me. Despite the fact that my loss last summer was tested and found to have a chromosomal problem (triploidy) and that is not age related!! I guess there is no money in the nhs budget to help us older ladies to have our hearts desire....

skintchick

snipzychick wrote: »

I'm so sorry for all the latest losses on here, I feel a bit sad whenever there are new posts ((hugs))

I sadly have just had my 3rd miscarriage in a row. It was a missed miscarriage again and I was given medical management to help me pass the sac, which I did late on Friday night. I was 9+4 weeks. I just feel so sick and tired of this really. When I got my BFP at no point did I have any expectations that it would end in a healthy baby...I just seem to have given up hope

I am 41, 42 next month and have basically been told that it is probably due to my age, and no testing has even been suggested to me. Despite the fact that my loss last summer was tested and found to have a chromosomal problem (triploidy) and that is not age related!! I guess there is no money in the nhs budget to help us older ladies to have our hearts desire....

I think that if you go to your GP, the NICE guidelines are that you get investigation after three mcs in a row, but you have to ask for it. So go see your GP. You're not old! Yes, I know the risks are bigger over 40 but it's not like you are 50!

Don't be fobbed off - see your GP.

Huge hugs to everyone who needs them.

emsywoo123

I hate seeing this thread on the first page, especially when there is a name I know as last poster (although sad for everyone IYSWIM)

Sending as much hugs and vibes to all as I possibly can over t'interweb

xx