Miscarriage support

Rups32

omg jules, i am so sorry for your loss. that is so sad.. hugs.. be strong though and it seems like you are as your reaction is positive (if you know what imean?). i think you should push for them to investigate no matter what your age is.. its not fair that only some people can get tested. as it is they say after 3 mcs they carry out the testing. its so wrong! iam sorry once again and i really hope you are successful soon. xx

msb5262

Very sorry indeed Jules - that's awful news. I can't start imagining how you feel but you will be in my thoughts. Please accept my sincere condolences and best wishes.
MsB x

SusanC_2

I'm so sorry for your loss Jules and that they won't investigate.

SusanC_2

Thanks for sharing that kitten pie. It made me cry partly because it reminded me of lots of things and partly because it is comforting to see those things written down by someone else and know that other people understand those things. I think for me the hardest thing was the burial and walking away from that little white box lying in the hole - I think for me that was the point at which it really seemed final/real.

Metranil_Vavin

So sorry jules. It's a cruel and unfair thing, and one that no words can comfort.

Feeling jealous of others pregnancies is 100% normal if you have suffered a loss. I don't think you have any idea of how fragile a pregnancy is until you have lost one.

I know that before I lost my first, it never occured to me that it could all suddenly end, and when it did it was such a horrible shock. Sadly I think as jules said above, you don't build your hopes up the next time, and for me every week I got through was a bonus.

Love to everyone here x

Rups32

i think that for me will def apply, i.e dont get hopes up and go with the flow. Hubby did that which is why his coping mechanism is much better than mine. i just crumbled yesterday.. have to think of what will happen in the future now. hubby came home yesterday and gave me a lovely big hug. bless him.

walby1993

Jules, I am so sorry for your losses. I can't imagine how you cope with going through that four times. Please push for investigations, could you even consider a private consultation?

I had a mc on the 19th Feb at 6w + 2 and was devastated. I spent the next two days [STRIKE]crying[/STRIKE] sobbing. I managed to go back to work the third day. I felt ok except on the weekend when I felt down about it all. 12 days on and my mood is all over the place - one minute I feel really positive about trying for another baby asap, the next I feel like its never going to happen, the next I feel that it will happen but have a desperate ache about wanting to be a SAHM and knowing I wouldn't be able to afford it. I don't know if I am up and down like this because of my loss or because my hormones are out of whack or a bit of both!

Rups32

so sorry about your loss walby. i know how exactly you feel regarding the moods. yest as i was working from home, i felt phew, as i ended up just sobbing as i was working. i am sorry walby, be strong and take your time. xxx

jules68

Walby, sorry for your loss xx

when I miscarried at 20 weeks we did go to specialist as the baby was quite facially deformed, but my OH refuses to have any blood tests done so that was the end of that road!! As my 3rd mc was an ectopic( in c section scar) and this one died at 5 weeks, we cant tell if it was the same thing.

I feel stupid wanting to try again as there is probably a high chance of it happening again and also I am 43 this year. The longing is still there tho.

Not feeling too good today, really bad stomach cramps and bleeding.Can anyone who has had an early mc tell me how long and how bad the bleeding was. Hospital have not told me anything.

Rups32

oh jules. so sorry.. Hugs.:( that is so sad.. I would say when you are ready still try. i got scared after my one but i am going to be ready to try again.

i had an early mc and had the surgery. i had bleeding for a few days (up to a week) and it started off as not a lot (like the second/third day of a period) and eventually it stopped. I still had blood when i used to wipe myself after going to the loo and then it just went.. my cramps were bad, so i had painkillers which i kept taking. i hated it. I have just finished my period after that. from the day of the surgery, it came after 5 weeks like they h ad said. was sad when it came actually.. i hope you feel better soon. take ibuprofen and paracetamol together if your cramps are bad. cant beleive the hosp havent said anything to you..