Miscarriage support

Rups32

cozza my heart goes out to you. i know how you feel. i mentally prepared myself to be OK to see kids but when i see preg women, i cant take it and look away. i feel sad for me thats all. i mean all you could try is mentally prepare that you will see children/babies and preg women and try your best to be ok.. I do try, trust me. this morning there was a woman next to me on the packed tube andi had to give her my back and listen to my music and read the paper. it worked but after i felt a bit sad.

and you know what/ its fine to get upset at work, as i have done that. I tired to be all strong but when a guy asked me if i was away on holiday, i just burst out and he was ever so symapthetic. so if you feel like it cry or if you want to tell your manager off if they are being an idiot, then do so.. just dont lose your job. lol. i told a girl yest and she started off the route of 'its very common and happens a lot' so i stopped her, and said yes i know as i have read up and i know people are trying to help or say the right thing, but it still hurts. and she understood! so dont worry and if you feel upset you do..

i have asked for my two days from tomorrow to work from home, as the travel is just tiring me out and am getting periody pains. do what you feel is right. listen to your body too. iam doing that now. xxxx hugs

SusanC_2

Cozza I think it's perfectly normal to feel upset by babies. I particularly find baby girls hard as my last baby was a girl.

Rups I'm really glad you were able to speak up like that and the girl listened - that is great.

Rups32

Thanks Susan. It was hard and I know i am telling more people now as i dont know why people dont talk about it, and by reading literature on how people should say stuff, i am getting more aware on how to stop people as its upsetting for us to hear that constantly as well. I know they mean well but they should be corrected.

today had a rubbish day so am glad am working from home tomorrow. Thing is i also think more and more about having a baby and am starting to get frustrated with hubby as am not in a rush but we have such a busy lifestyle now since getting married, that i was saying to him that we need to make an appointment with each other to make a baby. grrr

portsmouthali

Rups I'm sorry you felt rubbish yesterday It's good that you're working from home for a couple of days xxxx

Cozza, the first day back is always a bit daunting - my boss saw I was struggling and agreed for me to work half days for my first week back which was immensely helpful. If it gets too much don't be afraid to speak up, and get more time off if you need to - I'm sure you're GP would sign you off for a bit longer under the circumstances. Thinking of you xxxx

Rups32

Ahh thanks portsmouth. you are always up sp early arent you? :0)

At home today and feel like one of my throat glands is swollen and my eye feels weird. i am falling apart. lol. bit upset at hubby today as all week he has been busy and stuff and we are not spending enough time together so as well as feeling so rubbish about the baby, am starting to get annoyed at him, which isnt good. when i start asking him to make time for me, he sees it as nagging and it annoys him. maybe i should leave him to it and then see after a few days.. grrr

i told one of hubby's aunts about the MC and she wrote back to me, such a sweet email, and nothing about it happens and all that crap. she said sweet things like our baby was special and she said to take my time to heal. bless. the second person who has really said the right thing.. i felt upset reading it though and started crying..:(

i suppose i better start work. sigh...

ps. is it normal to start some sort of spotting inbetween when you are waiting for your period. I thought my bleeding had stopped after surgery but yest a bit of something came, like end of period blood. is that normal?

Nicki

That sounds like a lovely email rups. Just what is needed at a time like this.

Am having a bit of a down day. I really thought this might be our month to have conceived again as I've had strong symptoms since 2dpo and started spotting on 7dpo which I never do. But 11 dpo today, and I think I have to accept that spotting has moved into light AF and I am back to square 1 again. Strictly speaking my time to conceive has now run out, as DH only wanted to try for 6 months, so we shall have to see where we go from here.

Rups32

Oh no Niki.. im so sorry tohear that. hugs.. why did your DH only want to try for 6 months if you dont mind me asking? maybe you can chat to him if you really really want this and see if he can change his mind? i feel sad for you too but dont lose hope. it will happen. you got to keep thinking and believing it and it def will happen. i must apply my own advise to me too. xxx

Rups32

i went to the GP this earlier this evening as my gland is swollen up. The GP said the body obv goes throug a lot during a MC hence the feeling tired, but he said i look very run down.. (thanks) and then he said i need to get blood tests done as we need to check for iron or glandular fever so here we are again... have to find the hospital and go and give blood and then go to work tomorrow or friday. im tired right now

still sulking with hubby as hes out and this week, i am only seeing him properly tomorrow and i am not happy about it. talked to him about it, and it ended up in an argument. ;( better leave him alone i suppose. its just nice to be looked after when one isnt that well isnt it? sigh

cozza123

well going back to work was horrid was going into canteen with some friends only for one of the pregnant ladies to go with my friend before me so couldnt face following them so went outside the building only to come in and one of my friends try to be jokey about not going into canteen only for me to burst into tears and say how could I with..... in there which shocked them.

Then had my return to work with my manager which consisted of me nodding alot and my manager not knowing what to say really then me crying in the toilets on my break not the nicest of birthdays and now really upset cause all my OH has done is send me a text message not even rang me and havent heard from one family member at all so pretty depressed now

Rups32

cozza i am so sorry.. maybe you need to be at home for a few more days.. i thought i was coping well but like you, had a rubbish day.. i dont understand men as well. feeling a bit fragile, it would be nice for them to leave out whatever they are doing to kind of look after us. mine is out today and i have asked him to come home early as need some cuddles but i havent even heard from him. feel so crap too.. hugs for you. i hope we both feel better..maybe try and work from home if you can?