Miscarriage support

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Kitten_Pie wrote: »

My OH just arrived home in tears, he went out after work for a couple of drinks and on the way home picked me up some fish and chips. The guys at the chip shop were asking after the twins and how they were doing.

I just want to hold my OH and make it all better but I can't.

Didn't know where else I could post this thought.

Oh no big ((hugs)) to you both, that must have been so hard.

All you can do for him is to hold him and let him know it's ok to cry and to miss the boys.

You are both doing so fabulously well, it's to be expected that you will have set backs but hopefully the good days will/do outweigh the bad.

Thinking of you both

xx

Kitten_Pie

thank you guys, he is currently asleep next to me. He knows its good to let it out but it is still hard seeing him so upset.

Rups32

so sorry kittenpie. hugs. must be so hard for your OH to feel that pain too with you. just be strong for each other and say that it will happen for you both very soon. they can't be forgotten ever, but the pain will heal with time.. im so sorry..

its so hard. sometimes i am ok and sometimes it takes me one minute and i am somewhere else. am currently writing a diary of how i have been feeling and sometimes when i sit down to write it, i start crying.. hubby's def dealing with it better than i am.. how do some men do it?

Rups32

Hello All. Its a bit quiet here. I am back at work today and at first, it felt weird esp when someone asked me if i had been away on holiday. Luckily it was just me and him, so got a bit upset. The others havent really been nosey.. Maybe they know?? I dont know but its kind of nice, taking it easy, clearing up my inbox etc..sigh.. life has to go on right?

Nicki

Hi Rups. Hope your first day back goes well. The first day is always the worst, and it'll get easier from here on in. Talk more tonight if you are on then. x

Rups32

On lunch now. The girls are quite sweet, just chatting about shopping, outings so its a good distraction. it was earlier on in the morning when i was feeling quite apprehensive. in the loo, i had a little mo of feeling sad..but that was it. thanks for your support. x

portsmouthali

Hi Rups, glad your first day wasn't too bad. I remember having a few "moments" in the loo on my first days back

You'll start to feel a little better each day from now on - you'll still have your sad moments but they'll happen less & less xxxx

Rups32

Thanks portsmouth... i thought i was doing ok but am not today.. i think i prob came back too soon, as the commute from croydon to london is horrible. i never get a seat and i am tired. i feel exhausted. again, i am surrounded by preg women everywhere and it makes me sad. last night, we saw a few pics of hubby's gorgeous niece and as much as i love her, i want my own. felt sad... think its just a sad day today..i will hopefully get over it. i saw a bit of spots on my panty liner, very little like at the end of the period type thing and my claf muscles are sore like i have been walking for days. feel battered. sorry to winge.xx

Rups32

sorry meant calf muscles. x

cozza123

its my first day back at work tomorrow and im dreading it. i'm scared that i'll snap at a few people mainly my manager who i have a feeling will try and dictate when I should start ttc again for 'business needs' and if she does I just know i'll snap at her also theirs a pregnant woman who started trying after my first mc and i'm scared that if she talks to me i'll get all upset as when i had my mc and was spotting she told me it happened with her first and she was fine now she's on her second.

Anyone got any tips cause I couldnt even go shopping yesterday without feeling physically sick when I heard a baby crying which clearly isnt normal.