Miscarriage support

TeamLowe

haven't seen this thread on the front page for a while and i don't like searching for it, i'd rather think no one else is going through this

big hugs to Rups, be thinking of you today. just make sure you take care of yourself. do what you need to do x x

on the subject of rose bushes, i bought a candle for my baby and i light it when i'm thinking of her so she can see

on the subject of religion, i'm agnostic and tbh it's helped me to think that there is no god (when i'm angry)/believe a bit more in evolution. it's easier for me to understand that humans evolved, which means it's all our organs are a bit trial and error and this includes our reproduction. so ttc taking a while and miscarriages and babies who unfortunately wouldn't survive are part of us not having everything quite right just yet, we're still evolving.
i find it hard to believe in a God that made us 'perfect' who didn't see fit to make it so that all babies conceived are healthy and carried to term.
my own personal vision of God is that he created the world etc but he's not all powerful. he just tries his best x x

colli

Thinking of you today Rups. x

Nicki

Just checking in to see if Rups is back yet, and to check that all went as well as it could do under the circumstances today.

Rups32

Hello ladies. how are u all? Thank you so so much for thinking of me and wishing me well. *hugs to all*

i am all done and dusted.. i was at St Thomas's and I wish I had read your post earlier portsmouthali, as we waited for 6 hours before i was actually seen.. it was really draining and tiring. was told not to eat anything after 6am so set my alarm and ate even though i felt so nervous and couldnt stop going to the loo.

then made it for 12 and then it faffing here, taken measurements there, blood test as they didnt get back what my blood groups was. then met the consultant, and was told i could be even seen at 5 and i was like what? then spoke to the anaesthesit (cant spell it) for a few seconds and waited around. i was freaking out then when i eventually got in and one of the anaesthesist guy was so sweet and gave me a hug and i was out before i knew it. i woke up and by the time went back to hubby, he said i was away for 1.5 hours. gosh it was draining.

thought i was going to faint as was starving and had no energy left. glad it is all done as when i woke up i had a little cry and then was given my drugs and sent home.. i am in pain though and still feel groggy and yuck. was meant to log on yest and let u know how it all went but i just couldnt. been out and about with hubby in the car today and wish i hadnt as my belly was hurting. i am sitting now resting and then my mum said she would come and see me later.

i hope u all are doing ok.. i feel weird, drowsy and just period like pain. a bit of bleeding but the pain is more. just want to sleep. i wanted to kill hubby as i asked him to make me an appointment to see the GP to get a sick note and he did for 8.40 am and i just wanted to sleep in. grrrr. he thought i was going into work. silly man. i couldnt change it though so will have to go.. he has been such a sweety though and so have you all.

ok you can tell i am on a roll. i still feel groggy. i will pop back soon. oh i went with hubby and gt my rose bush for the baby.. will plant it when better.
thanks ladies and will be back here. xx hugs

flowertotmum

Rups..glad your ok..you need to sleep and keep off your feet for a day or 2..take your painkillers and leave housework for another time..just rest babe..
I felt all groggy for a day or 2 after..got better as the week went on..
lots of love and hugs just for you
ftm

colli

thanks for the update rups, glad you're as ok as could be expected. keep yourself dosed up with painkillers and take it easy. Things will start to look brighter soon x

Rups32

thanks so much ladies. am thinking of having a nap before my mum gets here, so better check my Fb and then log off. hope to speak very soon. am home for the next two days so will take it easy. its better if hubby goes back to work otherwise he starts annoying me like this morning he had a go at me, because i booked a wrong time for a show we are going to watch and i burst out crying. naughty hubby. :0( yeah i feel battered so will take it easy. he has made me some peppermint tea so will enjoy that. xxx thanks again. x

colli

sorry to hear hubby's playing up . After my first mc my husband was frankly, awful sometimes. He was hurting and as upset as I was and wasn't handling it very well at all, brooding then getting angry at the smallest thing and it was very upsetting for me. Keep talking to each other, you'll be fine. Someone (maybe on here) suggested going for walks together (when you're up to it), it's sometimes a bit easier to let it all out to someone when you don't have to look them square in the eye if you know what I mean. x

Rups32

that is a great idea. hubby being half-Scottish always has this fiery temper at hand (his own words). hehe.. he gets very irritable at times and without thinking, he lashes out (verbally). i just started crying and made him realise when he was calmer (as he needs a few mins to be calm, grr) that we have been through a lot together and we need to stress less. that calmed him down and weirdly we started talking about my younger brother who was at the hosp yesterday as well. it was sorted quickly weirdly but his temper is fierce at times. sigh..

i think when i have some energy, i might suggest a walk. i did ask to go away with him somewhere before he starts his new job so we might go somewhere. i think he's such a macho man, he finds it hard to release his grief. silly man. thanks for the suggestion. xxx

portsmouthali

Good to hear from you Rups xx the anaesthetic will make you feel a bit weird for 2-3 days so try not to do too much and sleep when you can x

Colli, my fella was the same after my first 2 miscarriages - couldn't really seem to show any feelings of sorrow and just got angry over nothing all the time. Looking back I think it tested our relationship to the limit but we got through and I think we're stronger than ever now. Grief is a strange thing xx