Miscarriage support

emsbet

Thank you MV and Ali.

I thought it probably was just wanted to put my mind at rest.

xx

*Ro*

emsbet wrote: »

Thank you MV.

Can I ask is some mild cramping afterwards normal? It's not bad enough that I need to take pain killers and it comes and goes. I'm sure it's ok but just want to check (obviously not medical advice just experience )

xx

..... my experience was that the mc started tea time with major bleeding slowed by 8pm ish then very late evening into the early hours I did have cramping pain (which came in waves) which I thought at the time was things closing up so to speak. I think that I did have cramping pain on and off after this time.

emsbet

Last night went better than I expected. I haven't passed any clots since about 10pm and the bleeding has slowed considerably and I didn't soak through in the night.

Thank you all again for your support over these last few terrible days.

xx

SusanC_2

emsbet wrote: »

Last night went better than I expected. I haven't passed any clots since about 10pm and the bleeding has slowed considerably and I didn't soak through in the night.

Thank you all again for your support over these last few terrible days.

xx

I'm glad it was better than you expected.

*Ro*

emsbet wrote: »

Last night went better than I expected. I haven't passed any clots since about 10pm and the bleeding has slowed considerably and I didn't soak through in the night.

Thank you all again for your support over these last few terrible days.

xx

.... Glad that you are ok and last nite went better than expected. I am glad that the ladies on here have helped. I know that this thread in particular comforts a lot of ladies out there.
Take care both of you
Ro xxxx

MoneySavingMamma

Hi everyone,

Just dropping by as baby lost at 11w was due today & I'm trying not to make a big deal out of it, but really down today. Feel like I should do something, in memory.

I am very lucky that I am pregnant again, due Dec, but the mc has caused major problems in me bonding with this baby. I am very detatched & really worry I won't feel anything when its here. I've said to OH more than once we should give it up for adoption, which is just crazy as we planned these babies, but the knock of the mc seems to have messed with my head. (They told me I was losing this one a few times in early pregnancy) I'm sure it will be fine when he's here, it's just the reality that you can lose them so easily has caused me to step back

It hasn't helped that a mum at the school has given birth to a girl today & I'm convinced the lost one was a girl. When I see her I'm going to struggle with my emotions.

Sorry for the moan, don't fancy upsetting the family with all this.

Hugs to those who have lost.

pigpen

MSM It is normal to feel like that.. I felt the same when having DD1 after 2 losses but once she was here and placed in my arms nothing else mattered.. she was here and safe and I would die for her. It will work out. (((hugs))) I dont even remember the due dates of mine now which is a bit sad that loss has become normal

emsbet

MSM my thoughts are with you today.

I totally understand what you are saying. We lost our little one this week at 13+3 (baby died at 11+3) and I have already decided that next time I won't let myself get attached at least until we are past 12 weeks (this was our second mc) as I feel I can't deal with the loss again. I think once your LO is with you, you will find that you will be able to bond with him.
Have you had a 4D scan? They are so realistic and I wonder if that may help you bond with your baby? Have you spoken to your midwife about how you feel, she maybe able to help or put you in touch with someone who can help you?

Maybe you could light a candle in memory of your lost one? I have bought a charm bracelet in memory of mine (I'm waiting for it to arrive, it should be here Friday). I have got three charms, one for the first baby, one for Alex and one for the four of us, our little family who can't be together.

xx

portsmouthali

My colleague who is due at the same time as I would have been (give or take a few days) had her 20 week scan today. I am pleased for her that all is well but I had to choke back a few tears at times today, and think about something else very quickly :(

PP, I am also losing track of due dates which makes me feel very guilty, but if nothing else it probably helps me to stay sane. That doesn't mean I don't think of the ones who didn't make it, I think of them every day xxx

SusanC_2

MSM I think it's understandable to not feel attached to the baby - I guess it's a way of protecting yourself "just in case" but I'm sure that once you have your baby safe in your arms all those thoughts will go away.