Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

I know, it is totally shocking when you go for a scan expecting everything to be ok, and then within a few seconds your whole world crashes down around you.
I remember so cleraly the day my bleeding started too. OH and I went to a local shopping centre and I dragged him into Mothercare. I was like a kid in a sweetshop, and I was desperate to buy something..anything.
I picked up a hat with teddy bear ears and a little face, and OH didn't want me to buy it. He kept saying we should wait as it was early days, and not to tempt fate.
I didn't listen (as per usual!) and bought it. Then about an hour after we got home, I went to the loo and when I wiped there was brown blood, and from there it started.
It went on for about 2 weeks, including the 3 visits to EPU etc. Having never been pregnant before, I had no idea about miscarriages or anything about the symptoms, but in those 2 weeks I read so much about them via Google and on here, that I felt like an expert by the end.
I remember the day after we found out I had mc'd, OH and I went for a day out down to the coast as I just wanted to get away from the house. It was the saddest day, even though he was brilliant and was trying to cheer me up and be silly. When we got home I remember a big bouquet of flowers had been delivered from my work with 'deepest sympathy' on the card...that just finished me off. It was like funeral flowers or something, and although I know they were trying to be kind, it made me feel even more depressed and upset.
You sound as if you have a wonderful husband, and you also sound like a lovely, caring person yourself. Be kind to yourself and lean on as many people as you need to until you feel stronger again.
Oh and don't go into work if you can't face it. You'll find that most companies are very sympathetic to things like this, and you need to take care of yourself and rest.
xx

emsbet

We've already had some flowers from my grandma. I know she means well but neither of us want them. I've put them on the dining room table so we don't have to look at them too much.

Thank you again for your posts.

xx

*Ro*

Emsbet - Bless your Gran, my neighbour did the same thing and brought flowers, I did find it uncomfortable but then thats to be expected. I did also find that support came to me from someone that I least expected it to, my friend was not well at the time but her mum came and took me out with her dog. She had come because she had experienced mc herself and wanted to support. It is comforting to know that others have experienced the same thing all be it in different circumstances and that you do come through it stronger. I have certainly found that I have a deeper bond with my husband after experiencing loss.
You mentioned that you had a warm bath early and that sounded like such a good thing to do as they are soothing.
Hoping that all is as ok as it can be tomorrow and that you are able to move forward.
Ro xxxx

emsbet

Thank you Ro.

I think things may have started.

xx

Metranil_Vavin

Hope you are ok Emsbet. Have you got pain killers to help take the edge off? x

emsbet

Yes I do. Alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen. It's not too bad right now so I guess it's one the start.

xx

Guess_who?

Hope tonight is gentle on you emsbet, thinking of you x x x

portsmouthali

Thinking of you tonight Emsbet xxx

It's almost 2 years to the day since my first mc, I can remember watching Strictly Come Dancing on all fours as it was the only way to ease the pain *TMI alert* I passed the pregnancy sac in the early hours of the following morning and it was the saddest thing that has ever happened to me - I thought I'd never stop crying. But of course I did. Time does heal :A:A

MV, your boy is beautiful :T and it gives me lots of hope to see the pictures of you all so happy together xxx

emsbet

Thank you ali.
Nothing happened in the end last night and all the cramping stopped so we are off to the hospital in a couple of hours. I'm scared but also looking forward to it been over so we can say goodbye properly and start the process of moving on.
Thank you all for your support and kind words. It as helped me greatly to know I'm not alone.
Sending lots of hugs to all our babies that couldn't stay

xx

*Ro*

emsbet wrote: »

Thank you ali.
Nothing happened in the end last night and all the cramping stopped so we are off to the hospital in a couple of hours. I'm scared but also looking forward to it been over so we can say goodbye properly and start the process of moving on.
Thank you all for your support and kind words. It as helped me greatly to know I'm not alone.
Sending lots of hugs to all our babies that couldn't stay

xx

... bless you Emsbet, I can see that I missed your last posts but I hope you are home soon and that it is all over.
Ro xxxx