Miscarriage support

emsbet

Thank you for your kind words thebaileys.

xx

*Ro*

Emsbet - I am not sure what to say to comfort you but having experienced a mc myself (in 2009 was about 10 weeks, it was at home) want to say that I understand some of the pain you are going through. I feel for you particularly as having had a scan it all seems so unfair.

I can see how frustrated you must have been as I know you felt that something was wrong and a womans intuition can be very strong.

Put work as far from your mind as you can as I am sure that they will help you by giving you the time that you need. I took 5 days off plus a bank holiday when I had mine and I was worried about going back because my colleague was pregnant who sat next to me. I emailed my acting manager everything so I did not have to explain in person and I found that helped. Whatever you do just dont rush back as you need time to recover emptionally and physically. I waited until I stopped bleeding (it was like a period) afterwards.

What your DH said about he/she waving goodbye is the loveliest thing he could have said and he is clearly a lovely husband. My hubby found it difficult afterwards as he did not have someone he felt he could talk about his feelings with,eventually he talked to a friend at work and this did help him. We also planned to go away together a month after it happened to give us something to focus on and time together to heal.

I wish you all the strength and support that you need to get throught this weekend and the coming weeks.
I will keep an eye on the thread to see how you are, I hope that is ok.
(((hugs)))
Ro xxxx

emsbet

Thank you for your kind words Ro.

When my husband said about the waving it made me cry but I also found it comforting. He really is the most wonderful husband and I feel so lucky to have him.

We've had a cry together and I've told him not to bottle things up and try and be strong for me because we are in this together and I will keep reminding him so that he knows it's ok to talk to me about it. I want him to grieve properly for our baby too.

xx

kavics17

Hi Guys,

Just found this thread. I was so keen to join the Pregnancy thread but unfortunately started to bleed on Wed. This is my second miscarriage, both babies died at 6 weeks. I feel sad and just would like a big hug but unfortunately my OH is away and won't get it till Monday.

We both knew that this might happen as I had a very bad lower back ache last week, could hardly walk and I had this feeling that I will lose my baby. I went to Early Pregnancy Unit yest and the scan showed that the bleeding is a complete miscarriage. The doctor said that we could try again straight away but this is something I need to discuss with OH. I called sick on Thurs but now wish I could be at work, being at home alone with stomach crumps is not a nice feeling:(.

xx

*Ro*

Emsbet it sounds as though you both love each other so much.
Take care hun
Ro xxxx

Kaviccs - So sorry to hear about your loss too.
Ro xxxx

emsbet

So sorry for your loss Kavics. It must be so difficult for you been without OH. Is there anyone who can come and sit with you even for a few hours?

I know it's not the same as the real thing but sending you big ((((hugs))))

xx

emsbet

*Ro* wrote: »

Emsbet it sounds as though you both love each other so much.
Take care hun
Ro xxxx

Kaviccs - So sorry to hear about your loss too.
Ro xxxx

We do. He is the best thing to ever happen to me and I know together we can build the future and the family we both so desperately want.

xx

kavics17

Thanks everyone, my brother will come tmrw but he did not know I was pregnant. We planned this 'fun' sibling weekend for ages, supposed to do something special but now not sure. He is 10yrs younger than me, in his early 20s so just hoping he didn't plan anything crazy. OH calls me 2/3 times a day but it's not the same obv:(.

euronorris

jediteacher wrote: »

However, I cannot help but wonder what went wrong all the times before. I'm rhesus negative and strongly believe that I should have been given an anti-d injection after each miscarriage but was told this was not procedure any more. I believe that I miscarried this many times as the babies blood was not rhesus negative - my son is rhesus negative. But I will never know.

They have stopped giving the anti-d injections now?? I didn't realise that. They gave me one when I miscarried, but this was 11 years ago now and I just assumed they still would.

My mother is also rhesus negative, and so is one of my sisters, but as far as I am aware my other sister and my 2 brothers are not. I am not sure if my Mum was given injections back then (I will check). I know she suffered 3 miscarriages in total, and these were spread out and one was as a consequence of getting pregnant with the coil in (IUD), so that one (at least) wasn't related to the rhesus negative. I shall have a chat with her and see what she says.

Huge ((HUGS)) for all of you have experienced miscarriages, and those of you going through it currently.

In one respect I cannot wait until the time I am able to try again (I was 17 when I fell pregnant accidentally and subsequently miscarried), but am also terrified at the same time.

Take care ladies xxx

kavics17

I am rhesus negative too but the dr yest didn't even check/ask so no anti-d injection. I wasn't aware of this .