Miscarriage support

SusanC_2

emsbet wrote: »

I found this poem on the internet when I was looking for some information on miscarriages. It really sums up how I've been feeling today.

I only met you in my dreams,

But what dreams they were...

We danced and sang and laughed till we cried

I only saw you through my eyes

But how you made them shine....

With tears and laughter and hope and fear

You were only loved by two people

But that love could hold up the world

As only love can be that strong

You were never here

But you will never be far away

In my heart, in my dreams, forever in my love

http://www.breastfeedingmums.com/miscarriage-poems-for-my-baby-who-couldn't-stay.htm

xx

That's a lovely poem, thank you for sharing it. I wrote one after the first two miscarriages last year: http://sinnersavedbygod.blogspot.com/2010/11/until-we-meet_09.html

emsbet

SusanC wrote: »

I think it's natural to worry about the unlikely bad possibilities once you've had one unlikely bad possibility happen but it is still unlikely that it will happen. If it's any reassurance, all of my miscarriages have been natural miscarriages (which I think holds fairly similar risks to medical management in terms of potential complication) and I've never had any complications.

Thank you. It is a great reassurance.

SusanC wrote: »

That's a lovely poem, thank you for sharing it. I wrote one after the first two miscarriages last year: http://sinnersavedbygod.blogspot.com/2010/11/until-we-meet_09.html

It's beautiful, thank you for sharing.

xx

*Ro*

SusanC wrote: »

I think it's natural to worry about the unlikely bad possibilities once you've had one unlikely bad possibility happen but it is still unlikely that it will happen. If it's any reassurance, all of my miscarriages have been natural miscarriages (which I think holds fairly similar risks to medical management in terms of potential complication) and I've never had any complications.

.... Emsbet - just wanted to say agree with what SusanC has said in the above and my experience at 10 weeks was a natural mc, no intervention etc.
Ro xx

thebaileys

Hi Emsbet, hope you are feeling ok today x

I wouldn't give up on the medical management, as hopefully it will work for you, I know you have said that you don't want to have ERPC.

Its a really difficult time and hard to know whats best to do. I sat for hours browsing the internet trying to get as much info as I could.

Its an awful time, you are grieving for your loss, yet having to make a hard decision,I am thinking of you x

I did try medical management twice, but didn't work for me, but I am still glad I gave it a go, I ended up opting for ERPC because it had been 4 weeks since my scan, where baby had no heartbeat, and I was struggling for some kind of closure.

emsbet

Thank you everyone. I'm going to remain positive it will work.

I'm starting to get some strong cramps and the bleeding as started up again (not heavy though). I'm not sure how long this will go on before I pass the baby. I guess I have to just wait it out.

xx

*Ro*

emsbet wrote: »

Thank you everyone. I'm going to remain positive it will work.

I'm starting to get some strong cramps and the bleeding as started up again (not heavy though). I'm not sure how long this will go on before I pass the baby. I guess I have to just wait it out.

xx

..... (((hugs)))
Ro xx

Guess_who?

emsbet wrote: »

Thank you everyone. I'm going to remain positive it will work.

I'm starting to get some strong cramps and the bleeding as started up again (not heavy though). I'm not sure how long this will go on before I pass the baby. I guess I have to just wait it out.

xx

are you staying at home ? is hubby with you ?

dont let it get too painful, there is no need to suffer physically !

emsbet

Guess_who? wrote: »

are you staying at home ? is hubby with you ?

dont let it get too painful, there is no need to suffer physically !

I'm at hone today then in hospital tomorrow for second dose of drugs. DH is with me.

Just had a bath which has relaxed me a bit.

xx

Metranil_Vavin

Emsbet - so sorry for your loss. I have been reading your past few posts, and your story reminds me so much of mine from last year that it brought tears to my eyes.
I had seen a heartbeat on 2 separate occasions despite having bleeding, and had been told that all was fine, seeing a h/beat was a good sign etc.
The bleeding however continued (including TMI ALRET passing the baby in the toilet), and on my 3rd and final trip to EPU with my OH and my mother, I was told that my baby had died and I had already suffered the main part of a complete miscarriage.
I was totally devestated. I took a week off work as I just couldn't face anybody, and posted lots on this thread and got lots of fantastic support from the other ladies on here.
I felt like I was never going to have a baby, and my dream was so out of reach.That was in January 2010, and in April 2010 I found out I was pregnant again. I was terrified throughout the whole pregnancy, but gave birth this January (almost a year to the day of my mc) to the most beautiful baby boy I have ever seen.
I just wanted to let you know that there is light at the end of the tunnel, even when you feel so low you think you'll never get over it.
I hope all goes smoothly for you tomorrow and you can start to move on xxx

emsbet

Thank you MV. We saw baby twice (at 6 weeks and 11+1) and even the lady doing the scan (who was the one who did our 11 week one) was shocked that there was no longer a heartbeat.
I have read some of you posts from last year as I read the first 6-7 pages of the thread earlier today.

You posted pictures of your boy on the waiting to TTC thread didn't you? You are right he is beautiful

Thank you again for your post. I'm sorry you had to experience loss but it helps to know I'm not alone and also that it doesn't always end like this.

xx