Miscarriage support

SusanC_2

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

Thanks, I'm taking things slowly. Not even bothering with 'knicker-twitching' as PigPen calls it!
I'll try to leave it a few weeks before Dr, see if AF appears.
I have just got all my tests from round the house, 7 in total with TLP/VFPs.

I've still got all mine from December in a cupboard somewhere. I started charting my temperature with the previous ones as soon as I knew. This time I'll start charting whenever the bleeding stops although more just so I know what my body is doing as I know we won't be TTC straight away. Even if I'd been told to I don't think I could bring myself to do a pregnancy test.

portsmouthali

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

It's also sad to see how many pg immediately after mc have lead to another mc. Not great to think about

For what it's worth, I've always had periods between my miscarriages so I don't think it makes any difference if you wait or not. Speaking of which....

...CD1 today :j:j It's been horrible, heavy & painful but I'm so glad to see the old witch as it means I can start my blood tests. First round on Tuesday

Now, I think it must be wine o' clock. Happy long weekend everyone xx

norabatty_2

Could do with some advice. After 3 months of TTC our first child, discovered a week ago today that I was pregnant. Husband and I were ecstatic, drove 4 hours down the country to be with my family for Easter. We had a lovely week, started reading pregnancy books, even started talking to my tummy. Then, yesterday afternoon at my nephew's 2nd birthday party and surrounded by about every single member of my family and 10-15 kids under the age of 5, I started bleeding heavily,very heavily and was in a good bit of pain. I left after an hour, but not before 3 people asked if I was sick and my sister-in-law saw me crying. Anyway, we started to drive home, it took us just over 6 hours with all the stops for crying, toilets, crying, eating, toilets, crying, toilets, etc. When I got home, it was past midnight and rang the out of hours doctor who said not to bother going to the hospital unless I was in pain, which there isn't too much of now, but I should go to the doctors on Tuesday and they would refer me to an Early Pregnancy clinic the following day to check if I had miscarried (there's no way I haven't) and if so, make sure there was nothing left (sorry to sound cold, but I don't know how else to say it).

I'm completely devastated, I just cried all the way home and have been crying since 7am this morning. I feel sorry for my husband, he's lost a baby too but all the focus is on me cos I'm the one who can't stop crying. We'd only told one person, my sister, who lives 4 hours away so I've nobody else to talk to.

My boss has been through several miscarraiges and is off on maternity leave at the moment. I always thought it a bit strange that she informed us when she had a miscarraige at an early stage and then took a week off work - I understood taking the time off - I just thought that if it were me, I wouldn't want people to know that we had been trying and wouldn't appreciate the sympathy, but now that I find myself in this situation, I really could do with the sympathy! Am wondering whether to tell work or not, will have to take at least 2 days off anyway by the sounds of it but judging by my inability to talk at the moment without crying, it looks like I might need a few more days...

SusanC_2

norabatty wrote: »

My boss has been through several miscarraiges and is off on maternity leave at the moment. I always thought it a bit strange that she informed us when she had a miscarraige at an early stage and then took a week off work - I understood taking the time off - I just thought that if it were me, I wouldn't want people to know that we had been trying and wouldn't appreciate the sympathy, but now that I find myself in this situation, I really could do with the sympathy! Am wondering whether to tell work or not, will have to take at least 2 days off anyway by the sounds of it but judging by my inability to talk at the moment without crying, it looks like I might need a few more days...

:grouphug: If you need time off, take it. I imagine you will have to give a reason for being off (I'm self employed so don't know how these things work) but you don't have to tell everyone unless you want to. Feel free to talk to us on here if you want. It's such a shock when it happens - until it happened to me I never realised how significant it can be even at an early stage.

MoneySavingMamma

Take some time.

Tell those you feel comfortable telling. I am both glad & sad that people didn't know I was pg. It would have been nice to hear some kind words, rather than the indifference of ignorance. But think of collegues you don't get on so well with (if there are any) I'm glad no1 knew who didn't like me, I would have hated for them to know my pain (petty I know)
Close collegues of mine at work knew about pg due to work related dangers, one confided in me about their mc, it helped to talk to someone who knew how it felt.

Sending hugs

pigpen

norabatty wrote: »

Could do with some advice. After 3 months of TTC our first child, discovered a week ago today that I was pregnant. Husband and I were ecstatic, drove 4 hours down the country to be with my family for Easter. We had a lovely week, started reading pregnancy books, even started talking to my tummy. Then, yesterday afternoon at my nephew's 2nd birthday party and surrounded by about every single member of my family and 10-15 kids under the age of 5, I started bleeding heavily,very heavily and was in a good bit of pain. I left after an hour, but not before 3 people asked if I was sick and my sister-in-law saw me crying. Anyway, we started to drive home, it took us just over 6 hours with all the stops for crying, toilets, crying, eating, toilets, crying, toilets, etc. When I got home, it was past midnight and rang the out of hours doctor who said not to bother going to the hospital unless I was in pain, which there isn't too much of now, but I should go to the doctors on Tuesday and they would refer me to an Early Pregnancy clinic the following day to check if I had miscarried (there's no way I haven't) and if so, make sure there was nothing left (sorry to sound cold, but I don't know how else to say it).

I'm completely devastated, I just cried all the way home and have been crying since 7am this morning. I feel sorry for my husband, he's lost a baby too but all the focus is on me cos I'm the one who can't stop crying. We'd only told one person, my sister, who lives 4 hours away so I've nobody else to talk to.

My boss has been through several miscarraiges and is off on maternity leave at the moment. I always thought it a bit strange that she informed us when she had a miscarraige at an early stage and then took a week off work - I understood taking the time off - I just thought that if it were me, I wouldn't want people to know that we had been trying and wouldn't appreciate the sympathy, but now that I find myself in this situation, I really could do with the sympathy! Am wondering whether to tell work or not, will have to take at least 2 days off anyway by the sounds of it but judging by my inability to talk at the moment without crying, it looks like I might need a few more days...

It is possibe to bleed very heavily and not miscarry.. so you do need to go to the GP and get a scan sorted at EPU. If there is anything left it can cause infection or long term heavy bleeding so do make sure you do that. The GP can also write you a sick note and if you don't want work to know ask if he will put something else on it.. you don't have to tell them and if you want or need time off take it so long as you are covered by a sicknote they can't do a thing.

You MUST get a scan though to make sure you are ok

And if you feel a trip to A&E would make you feel better right now.. go. They might not be very helpful but you don't know unless you go and some hospitals are great.

portsmouthali

So sorry you're going through this norabatty xx not much to add to what the other ladies have said, but just wanted to say you're in my thoughts. Take care of yourself and keep us updated xxxx

norabatty_2

Thanks guys, I'm truly baffled at how upset I am. I'm quite a rational, no-nonsense person normally and the idea that you could be so upset about "getting your period 6 days late", which is one way of looking at it, didn't occur to me, but I've literally spent the last week, complete with all the classic pregnancy symptoms, reading about how my little embryo was now 0.5cm long and was starting to have its own heartbeat and everything (6th week). So, although I knew it was early days, I just assumed that something like a miscarriage would happen to somebody else, not me.

Poor husband came in the door this evening, with pizza, chocolate cake and bunch of flowers. Bless him, all I could do was say thanks before I started bawling all over again!!

Anyway, I'll defo go to the doctors on Tuesday - have talked about it with husband and decided to tell my (temporary) boss as we have both dealt with my boss's miscarriages in the past so I know they'll be decent about it. Plus, my job involves standing up in front of hundreds of people and being very good humoured and confident at all times and I don't think I'm in that place at the moment!

Thanks a million for the hugs, I love hugs!! And thanks for all the support and advice too, I really appreciate it and needed it.

jules68

Feeling so fed up with my body!! Have done a few cheapy tests and have seen a second faint line on them, so went for a digi test this morning and is shows pregnant 1-2!!! I know I am not as I am just finishing 6 days of bleeding and 2 weeks ago I had the same.Its been about 8 weeks since m/c so thought I would be back to normal by now.Might ring epu on Tues for advice.sorry for yet another rant.

MoneySavingMamma

jules68 wrote: »

Feeling so fed up with my body!! Have done a few cheapy tests and have seen a second faint line on them, so went for a digi test this morning and is shows pregnant 1-2!!! I know I am not as I am just finishing 6 days of bleeding and 2 weeks ago I had the same.Its been about 8 weeks since m/c so thought I would be back to normal by now.Might ring epu on Tues for advice.sorry for yet another rant.

Jules, have you had any neg tests since mc? I had 2, now + but not 'feeling' pg.
Not had AF since mc, now 6weeks since mc.

Clearblues arrived today from Amazon (V.MSE!) going to leave it a week & hope to move to 2-3wk. Havent done cheapy for a few days, it gets in the way of ignoring it all.

Hate these baby events! Asda had big aisle, found myself walking down it in a daze, wanted to just touch stuff , loads of big fat preggies there! Jell!

It's easy to avoid baby aisle, but put it right in the middle of shopping aisle is plain mean!!