Miscarriage support

SusanC_2

jules68 wrote: »

I did have a scan about 3 weeks ago and they said that the baby was not there but there was a little ?tissue left but that should dissolve. I will wait another couple of weeks and see how yhings are then. The thought of going back to my local hospital fills me with dread!! I cant officially try again until the end of may at the earliest so I have time to wait, albeit frustration as age is not on my side!!

That does sound frustrating. I can understand not wanting to go back - between how rubbish my hospital is and all the bad news I've had there, I can't say I'm too keen on going to mine.

jules68 wrote: »

Hope you are ok Susan x

Thanks. Isabella was born at home yesterday afternoon Everything went well and the timing was probably the best it possibly could have been.

jules68

Susan Isabella, what a beautiful name. That must have been both a sad time and also happy(sorry I know what I mean but hard to word it) I would have loved having my little angel at home. They will be treasured memories along with the sadness. xx

MoneySavingMamma

Oh Susan, sorry for your loss.
Do you get medical assistance when delivering that far gone?
Do they still officially class it as a miscarriage? (Which is not the correct description at all! I know we have all gone through immense physical & emotional pain with our <12week mcs, we have lost a child in our hearts, but further along it is losing a child)

I hope your family are supporting you xx

SusanC_2

jules68 wrote: »

Susan Isabella, what a beautiful name. That must have been both a sad time and also happy(sorry I know what I mean but hard to word it) I would have loved having my little angel at home. They will be treasured memories along with the sadness. xx

It means consecrated to God. We intended on it being at home and I'm glad we did as it was so sudden there's no way we could have got to the hospital anyway and it meant we had time with her afterwards and our daughter was able to see her (she'd said several times that she wanted to and I think it was helpful for her to be able to) and we were able to take much nicer photos than the ones the hospital took after we went in.

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

Oh Susan, sorry for your loss.
Do you get medical assistance when delivering that far gone?
Do they still officially class it as a miscarriage? (Which is not the correct description at all! I know we have all gone through immense physical & emotional pain with our <12week mcs, we have lost a child in our hearts, but further along it is losing a child)

I was too far for surgical management but could have chosen to have medical management if I had wanted which would have been induction of labour.

If the baby is born dead and known to have died before 24 weeks then it is classed as a miscarriage. After 24 weeks it counts as a still birth. If they are born alive and then die it counts as a birth followed by neonatal death regardless of how far you were. Most other English speaking countries seem to count it as stillbirth from 20 weeks. So legally it is a miscarriage and is in my medical notes as a late missed miscarriage. Having had earlier losses though, I would say it is completely different both physically and emotionally and the term "miscarriage" probably communicates to people the kind of thing that happens much earlier.

msb5262

Susan - I'm so sorry.
What a very sad thing to happen to you and your family.
Please accept my condolences and best wishes for the next few days, weeks, months....I'm glad you were able to see your daughter and hold her, and that your pictures will be there for the future. I can't imagine how you're all coping. I will be thinking of you.
Love and best wishes
MsB

MoneySavingMamma

Did anyone watch Eastenders tonight? I was in absolute floods of tears, my son had to cuddle me & bring me tissue, I was still going 15mins after.
I hate Eastenders I really do, they torture each character so much - for our 'viewing pleasure'
I really felt for Ronnie, and can truely believe anyone can be pushed to behave like that if given enough trauma/grief.
I was crying for them, then crying for my baby, there is still alot of grieving to do, I had convinced myself I was through it and moving on.

Metranil_Vavin

I saw it msm and I was struggling with tears too.

So harsh and hard to watch.

Lauralou

Susan you are in my thoughts and i send you all my best wishes. I hope you dont mind me saying it sounds very peaceful things for your daughter and im glad it was in the comfort of your own home and it was a private matter for you and your family.

MSM eastenders made cry as well. OH told me to stop it!

gratefulforhelp_2

SusanC wrote: »

Thanks. Isabella was born at home yesterday afternoon Everything went well and the timing was probably the best it possibly could have been.

God bless you, Susan. x

98jdougl

Hi guys,
I had a m/c at the weekend, didn't know I was pregnant, had a suspicion because I was late and was going to be taking a test on the morning it happened
I don't know how to describe how I'm feeling but I can't help but feel that since I didn't know then it's not really a loss and I should be able to get over it. But keep crying with nothing to set it off

OH and I aren't actively TTC but we have stopped trying to NOT have a baby if that makes sense.

I've been having quite bad cramping pains today and was wondering if anyone else had experienced similar? Can't really remember what was said when I was at the doc's tbh, just been in a bit of a daze

Thanks for your help