Miscarriage support

portsmouthali

Well I think I spoke too soon about feeling OK physically. I did some food shopping after dropping my son at school this morning as I thought Asda would be quiet. It was, and I was in & out within about 1/2 an hour, but I feel like I've been run over by a bus! Feel very tired and a bit lightheaded. OH is finishing work a bit early and is going to come home & cook dinner, bless him.

How is everyone else feeling? xx

QQuaver

I had really strong cramps for about a week after the erpc op.
Take care(((hugs))).

hulagirl79

Ali- i had the lightheaded ness but i think mine was down to my blood pressure being through the floor because of the infection and bleeding. I am still in pain and heavy bleeding even after nearly 4 days of antibiotics. Not sure if this is right or not.
Ali- try to take it easy, you have been through so much, relax and let o/h look after you. He sounds really sweet.
Hugs to you and everyone.
On a slighty different note,has anyone on here had acupuncture? Did it help with relaxation. X

Leopardlady

Hi Ladies,

I have not been on here for a long time, as some of you might know that after my MMC in Jan 2010 I had the ERPC, a week later, having felt fine, i returned to work and walking down the corridor at work i had a huge clot drop into my knickers. This was an awful shock, horrible feeling, but also extremely emotional. Please take time to recover and Portsmouthali i know you have a couple of ERPCs but you need to take each one as a separate event as you are sadly experiencing.

Take care and i think of all you each day, and of my little angels i will never meet. But I have been blessed with a very beautiful little boy, now 4.5 months old Conceived following my first and only period following the ERPC.

Keep strong ladies

MoneySavingMamma

Hi everyone, hope your doing OK.
My bumps gone down, just fat blob left where i piled on the pounds so quickly. Physically, apart from that I'm back to normal, no bleeding, no pains, getting my energy back slowly.

Emotionally not so good, should have been 12weeks yesterday, the big 'safe' date. Could have been telling people this week. Should be having my scan at 2pm tomorrow.

Went to Dr on Wed, she was the only person so far who actually cares, she was really compassionate, even said to have a small funeral service (i do think this is a bit much, but I do feel like a church visit) or plant something that flowers in spring and to let my emotions out rather than hiding them. The only place I have discussed how I really feel is on here, I can't get upset at home because I don't want to upset my son, I don't have any friends/family nearby so it's all just staying inside.

I wish I just had one person I could be honest with

I've bought some cheapy preg tests, but don't know why I bought them, is it to see the negative? Or did I buy them for when TTC? My mind changes every 5mins.

I miss my baby so much

msb5262

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

Went to Dr on Wed, she was the only person so far who actually cares, she was really compassionate, even said to have a small funeral service (i do think this is a bit much, but I do feel like a church visit) or plant something that flowers in spring and to let my emotions out rather than hiding them. The only place I have discussed how I really feel is on here, I can't get upset at home because I don't want to upset my son, I don't have any friends/family nearby so it's all just staying inside.

I wish I just had one person I could be honest with

I miss my baby so much

Hi MoneySavingMamma,

You're really going through the mill and I do feel for you. Well done for telling the doctor a bit about it. Maybe you should seriously consider planting some flowers, getting yourself to church, lighting a candle or giving to a charity in memory of your baby - it may really help you.

Also, have you considered contacting the Miscarriage Association? They've got a very good reputation for offering support and help.

Whatever you do, keep posting here whenever you need to - you know there's always someone to listen and offer you a shoulder to cry on if you feel the need.

Keep struggling on and you will come through this. It's a horrible hard time and don't be afraid to seek help if you need it.

love from MsB

Penny35_2

Really sorry to see what you are all going through we had 2 MC last year one in Jan and one in June and I still regulary cry for my babies and sit in the beautiful nursery thinking about what should of been. The nursery is like something out of a magazine !!

We did decide to TTC but then decided we cant go throught with it the fear of losing a 3rd baby is too much, I dont think I could cope

Its important to reliase you will not feel better over night, it still hits me very strong but I am in a much better place than 12 months ago and you have to take the good where you can.

monkeychops

So sorry for anyone who has had a miscarriage. I had 3 and an ectopic pregnancy and never did have any children. Although the last one was almost 30 years ago I still think about them and wonder what they would have been like now

mummyinthevalley

Hi, I wanted to share my experience an hope it helps others. I am fortunate now to have 3 children age 11, 8 and 7 months but before each one of them I had a miscarriage, each of them at a later stage. First miscarriage at 6 wks, then 9 wks then 10 wks, doesn't seem to matter how long inbetween children it just always happens, no idea why?

Each time it is devastating and I never know if the next pregnancy will continue and I will be able to have a baby but I have been very lucky to have had a happy outcome and it all seems worth it when my baby arrives, hope this helps because I know miscarriage is a terribly upsetting experience and it annoys me when I hear pregnant women moaning when they have had no experience of miscarriage and have no idea how lucky they are!

Best wishes x

portsmouthali

Penny I remember you from the less that 12 weeks thread in Jan last year. Glad you are doing well xxx

Monkeychops, my mother in law miscarried her first child almost 40 years ago and still remembers the due date now. So sad xx

MITV, thanks for sharing your story with us, always cheers me up to hear of people having babies after losses. It is annoying to hear pregnant women/new mums moaning - I've blocked many people on facebook for that very reason! xx

MSM, I think we're in the same place. Noticed yesterday my little bump has gone My bleeding has also stopped, had no cramping either. I still feel lethargic and very, very sad. We will feel better soon xxxx