Miscarriage support

hulagirl79

Thanks pig pen. Thats what i was thinking, i am going to make an appointment to see my doctor in two weeks just to make sure everything is ok. We have decided to try again as soon as it is ok to. Pig pen can i ask when you had your m/c when did you start trying again. feel free not to answer if its too personal
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pigpen

hulagirl79 wrote: »

Thanks pig pen. Thats what i was thinking, i am going to make an appointment to see my doctor in two weeks just to make sure everything is ok. We have decided to try again as soon as it is ok to. Pig pen can i ask when you had your m/c when did you start trying again. feel free not to answer if its too personal
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immediately. After all but 1.

I was pregnant 4 times before I had a period 2 I m/c'd and 2 I didn't (DD1 and DD5) I had 1 period after my last m/c and was pg with Squeak.

I'd had so many m/c they became normal and rather than expect a baby I expect a m/c.. if I got the baby that was fabulous.

miss_pixie_2

hulagirl79 wrote: »

As for the a and e well it might not make any difference now but i would complain ( to everybody, managers to the top) the nurses and doctors should never have treated you like that.
How has your o/h been? Sending you hugs. Xx

Yep ive written to the hopsitals exectvies and got a letter back full of crap excuses ya know the usual nhs spin.... They said apparently torches are commonly used (never heard that before!) and that i was just basically unfortuante to attend a&e on a day where all the rooms were taken for infectious people, but really they should have more, for situations like me. I had 2 sit there with curtains open, people looking at me etc and i just wanted to shut them and cry. As for the nurse she gave a statement saying i misunderstood her and she didnt itentionally say that, communication mixup (cos im partially deaf, basically shes saying i heard it wrong!)

OH has been brilliant, he has been there for me, even when ive been a moody cow, i was awful just before AF started, hormones but i feel like i cant mention it anymore cos it feels like whats the point in going over and over it, i dont wana make it worse for him. He doesnt ask me how im feeling about the baby and i just say im angry all the time. I never used 2 be so angry, i was quite a happy go lucky person, now i have no patience for anything, i lose my temper easily and i snap. Its not me

MoneySavingMamma

I'm sorry for your terrible time, I too had a torch up there. A very young Dr (younger than me? & I'm early 20s) opened it all up, then realised he didn't have a torch so left me there, with whatever was in there while he went to find one.

Seeing as this was my first ever 'examination' down there, never had smear etc (I was on so many drugs during birth of DS, whatever they did down there before the c-section I wasn't aware of!) I found it a bit upsetting.

My Dr has reffered me to counselling, I'v got the letter through, but they're all about an hr away so might not bother. Too much going on to be able to get a day away!

No-one has been in contact with me since the day I went in for ERPC, but I'v booked an app with GP for Wed.

My original scan date is this Friday, at a different hospital I went to for A&E, scan & nearly ERPC. It's a much better hospital with specialist etc (I was going to be under the care of a consultant)
I might either
a) ring tomorrow & see if I can see anyone, and if I need a scan to check everythings gone.
b) Turn up and demand attention, tests, blah blah.

Today I'm feeling polite, so thinking a. They'll probably tell me to run & jump.

Lastly, I must admit that I am mid-20s, I have only just realised this

MoneySavingMamma

Me again!

Very jealous of everyones OH. Mine has been completely useless on all but the day I went to A&E. He has ignored the situation, dragged me out of bed the day after scan, told me to get on with life, these things happen, we can try again etc.
I've been told I'm lazy, moaned at for dinners being rubbish (I'm not really eating much, so not putting much effort in) and shouted at yesterday for doing laundry, rather than something he's asked me to do.
This is my partner of 9years, father to my son. I really can't tell if he is upset & work stress (7days week, currently 10-12hr days) is whats causing his behaviour, or if he's a complete @#<+ and I should see this as a sign to leave and start a new life?!?!

Red_Cat

Hi all,

even though I have been on MSE for a few years, I never knew this existed.

I have a question, but first the background:

My wife had a late miscarriage earlier this year, At the 20 week scan in early February we found that the baby had died abour two weeks earlier. After my wife delivered our baby, we were asked about tests and chose to have tests on the placenta but no post mortem (we felt the poor mite didn't need this happening to her). The midwife told us the consultant would see us when the results came in, should take 6 weeks.

This was our second miscarriage, the first being in Dec 2009 at 8 weeks.

We had a funeral or our baby just over a month ago, and have slowly been moving forward, though I don't have to tell anyone here it's not easy.

Last week we received a date for the consultant appointment (still 4 weeks away) and was wondering what we should expect to hear from him and what he might tell us.

We have waited a while for this appointment, so I would like to prepped and make use of the time as best we can.

Any advice is appreciated.

Hugs to all the people who have been through anything like this.

Red Cat

portsmouthali

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

Me again!

Very jealous of everyones OH. Mine has been completely useless on all but the day I went to A&E. He has ignored the situation, dragged me out of bed the day after scan, told me to get on with life, these things happen, we can try again etc.
I've been told I'm lazy, moaned at for dinners being rubbish (I'm not really eating much, so not putting much effort in) and shouted at yesterday for doing laundry, rather than something he's asked me to do.
This is my partner of 9years, father to my son. I really can't tell if he is upset & work stress (7days week, currently 10-12hr days) is whats causing his behaviour, or if he's a complete @#<+ and I should see this as a sign to leave and start a new life?!?!

Don't panic MSM!! My OH was like that after my previous miscarriages. With the first one, he was sympathetic towards me for a few days, but the 2nd one he was pretty awful, practically ordered me not to cry or talk to him about it and declared that we were not going to try for any more babies. I was heartbroken by this and it caused many, many rows. Obviously, I managed to change his mind and this time round, he couldn't be more different.

I can't explain why, and nor can he. I just think it's because men & woman are so very very different, and added to that, like your OH, mine has a very stressful job and works stupid hours too (that has worked to our advantage this time as he's worked so many extra hours he's built up loads of extra leave which he has to take before the end of April, so he's taken it now) added to that he's also been studying for the last 3 years so life for him has been stressful enough, without coming home to a hormonal, overemotional, needy wreck (which I have been at times - not saying you are!!) At times, I thought he was the biggest b***ard in the world and wondered why I ever considered breeding with him He's not at all, but we were just seeing the worst in each other. I wonder if it's a way of dealing with the huge kind of anger/sense of unfairness? Anyway, I'm rambling...

Don't be too hard on yourselves. A huge thing has happened and you both need time to deal with this in your own ways. You WILL get there xxxxxxx

portsmouthali

Red_Cat wrote: »

Hi all,

even though I have been on MSE for a few years, I never knew this existed.

I have a question, but first the background:

My wife had a late miscarriage earlier this year, At the 20 week scan in early February we found that the baby had died abour two weeks earlier. After my wife delivered our baby, we were asked about tests and chose to have tests on the placenta but no post mortem (we felt the poor mite didn't need this happening to her). The midwife told us the consultant would see us when the results came in, should take 6 weeks.

This was our second miscarriage, the first being in Dec 2009 at 8 weeks.

We had a funeral or our baby just over a month ago, and have slowly been moving forward, though I don't have to tell anyone here it's not easy.

Last week we received a date for the consultant appointment (still 4 weeks away) and was wondering what we should expect to hear from him and what he might tell us.

We have waited a while for this appointment, so I would like to prepped and make use of the time as best we can.

Any advice is appreciated.

Hugs to all the people who have been through anything like this.

Red Cat

Hi Red Cat, sorry for your losses I don't have any experience of your situation I'm afraid, as my miscarriages have all been before 12 weeks.

A couple of the regular posters have though, and I'm sure they'll be able to give you some idea of what to expect. Best wishes to you & your wife xxxxx

gratefulforhelp_2

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

Me again!

Very jealous of everyones OH. Mine has been completely useless on all but the day I went to A&E. He has ignored the situation, dragged me out of bed the day after scan, told me to get on with life, these things happen, we can try again etc.
I've been told I'm lazy, moaned at for dinners being rubbish (I'm not really eating much, so not putting much effort in) and shouted at yesterday for doing laundry, rather than something he's asked me to do.
This is my partner of 9years, father to my son. I really can't tell if he is upset & work stress (7days week, currently 10-12hr days) is whats causing his behaviour, or if he's a complete @#<+ and I should see this as a sign to leave and start a new life?!?!

I'm really sorry that you're having to put up with this, but please don't do anything hasty. Give it some time, and by all means talk to him and explain he's not being nice to live with, but you have both been through a trauma so it is normal for your relationship to have a wobble.

Red_Cat wrote: »

Last week we received a date for the consultant appointment (still 4 weeks away) and was wondering what we should expect to hear from him and what he might tell us.

I'm really sorry, I don't have any info, but wish you both well.

hulagirl79

Hi everyone.
Redcat- so sorry you have been through this, i dont have any advice i am afraid but hopefully someone will be along soon.
Well went to see my doctor this am, she said it sounds like an infection so put me on two different antibiotics 4 times a day. She also signed me off work till next monday as my job is very physical. X
hugs to everyone