Do I have right to take my daughter on holiday?

flowerscotland

The informaton about the child being born after 1st Dec 03 is correct. You as a Dad have parental rights if your name is on the birth certificate.

I'm not sure if you would be allowed to take your daughter on holiday without full consent of her mother.

You should go to a lawyer, I am in a similar situation and I went for months without seeking legal advice, I listened to others that had been in the situation and researched on the net, but really you should go and get advice.

Good luck.

McKneff

What has her hair smelling of cigarettes got to do with anything.

You cant object to her mother smoking !!!!!!, its not actually against the law,
even if you dont like it, what do you reasonably expect from raising a concern.
It certainly wont stop her mother smoking, it will probably just stir up more trouble for you.

ses6jwg

McKneff wrote: »

What has her hair smelling of cigarettes got to do with anything.

You cant object to her mother smoking !!!!!!, its not actually against the law,
even if you dont like it, what do you reasonably expect from raising a concern.
It certainly wont stop her mother smoking, it will probably just stir up more trouble for you.

Oh wow yes I'm so sorry to be concerned about the potential for a 2 year old girl to be exposed to cancer inducing chemicals maybe next time I drop her off she should have half a can of Stella in her juice bottle?

What it demonstrates is if she is so wreckless to expose her to second hand smoke it brings into question the quality of care she is giving to MY FLESH AND BLOOD.

Blackpool_Saver

I too would be furious if a toddler smelled of cigarettes.
You need to see a solicitor and contact the CSA, note I said contact the csa, you can choose to make your own arrangements which is always preferable, but whatever you do you need a paper trail to prove payments.
What caused this break up if you don't mind me asking?

McKneff

ses6jwg wrote: »

Oh wow yes I'm so sorry to be concerned about the potential for a 2 year old girl to be exposed to cancer inducing chemicals maybe next time I drop her off she should have half a can of Stella in her juice bottle?

What it demonstrates is if she is so wreckless to expose her to second hand smoke it brings into question the quality of care she is giving to MY FLESH AND BLOOD.

So why are you objecting to her smoking so vehemently now, hasnt she been smoking the last 2 years of the babys life. :cool:
And there is no need for faceitousness. People are just trying to help.
If you get so defensive when anyone posts youre going to get nowhere fast on here matey.

Blackpool_Saver

Ignore the we shall smoke till the end brigade.

Let's get back to the welfare of the child please.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

The LO is her flesh and blood too, or had you forgotten that bit?

And before you say anything in that tone of voice to me, I don't smoke and I don't drink. But there's a pretty big leap in the imagination from someone smoking within 30 foot of a child to spiking their bottle with beer - get a grip on yourself.

By the sounds of your reaction to the first bit of difficult questioning from someone who is answering to help you, and the way you are talking about the woman you decided would be the mother of the child (wishing she were dead? You even sound like a stalker), I have a feeling that you're going to end up in court. Especially as there is a ready made property overseas for you and her.

Get a solicitor. And rather than talking that way about or to your ex, try some charm and respect, as even if she doesn't really deserve it, it's more likely to get you some contact successfully established.

DVardysShadow

ses6jwg wrote: »

Oh wow yes I'm so sorry to be concerned about the potential for a 2 year old girl to be exposed to cancer inducing chemicals maybe next time I drop her off she should have half a can of Stella in her juice bottle?

What it demonstrates is if she is so wreckless to expose her to second hand smoke it brings into question the quality of care she is giving to MY FLESH AND BLOOD.

Man, you got off lightly with your ex putting the ring and your stuff in the shed. Given the obvious incompatibilities between you, I would actually say that in an oddball way, it was a loving act! It is no criticism of you, your ex's life style sounds deeply unattractive to me. And i am sure that your approach to life is deeply unattractive to her. But so what! This will run better if we keep moral judgements out of it.

I think you just have to chill about second hand smoke - and you might not get very far with a complaint about first hand smoke after she reaches the age of 6. Just face it, you are never going to get control. You have to decide what you can realistically achieve. And the more realistic you are the more you are likely to achieve.

You have come to a very female dominated part of the forum. As I read it, people are actually on your side - even though you might not think it. Please do get laid back about what is being said - at the end of the day, you'll do better if you stick with listening to the folk here - if they think your ex is out of line, you can rely on them telling you and they will tell you what is going on in her head. They just won't tell you, ever, in the way you would expect a bloke to tell you.

pinkpig08

If you went through the CSA then I think she would only be able to keep the first £20 of any maintenance paid, the rest would go to the government to offset her benefits. So at the moment you (and your daughter) are better off with the arrangement you already have.

ses6jwg

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

I too would be furious if a toddler smelled of cigarettes.
You need to see a solicitor and contact the CSA, note I said contact the csa, you can choose to make your own arrangements which is always preferable, but whatever you do you need a paper trail to prove payments.
What caused this break up if you don't mind me asking?

:cool:

Unfortunately she won't say anything other than "I dont love you anymore", but apparantly it didn't stop her saying "Yes" ?

Like I said, she refuses to speak to me and has done since the day she left everything in a binbag.

The catalyst I think was new years eve, when she informed me that she wouldn't be spending it with me as we had planned (I was on my own as family had gone away) and said she was going out with her friends. I asked if I could come as well as I would be on my own, and she replied "No, because you will just wreck the night".

Amd before anyone says it, no I do not control her and when we were together she would go out every or every other weekend and I never had a problem with it.

McKneff wrote: »

So why are you objecting to her smoking so vehemently now, hasnt she been smoking the last 2 years of the babys life.
And there is no need for faceitousness. People are just trying to help.
If you get so defensive when anyone posts youre going to get nowhere fast on here matey.

Nope.