Wedding list: They have asked for money

Person_one

onlyroz wrote: »

When I got married we didn't ask for anything in particular - and everyone got stressed with us because we *didn't* have a wedding list.

Completely their issue, you did nothing wrong!

mrcow

Jilly5 wrote: »

Hello everyone,

I wonder if anyone would be kind enough to tell me what they would think if this came with the invitation for the day time -

We are sending out this invitation
In hope you will join our celebration
But if a gift is your intention
May we take this opportunity to mention
We have already got a kettle and toaster
crockery, dinner mats and matching coaster's.
So rather than something we've already got
We would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot
But most importantly we request
That you come to our wedding as our guest

Don't put a poem in at all.

It's really annoying.

It's not even a good poem.

If you want money, then just ask for it like a normal person would. Nice and politely. Job done.

LameWolf

onlyroz wrote: »

When I got married we didn't ask for anything in particular - and everyone got stressed with us because we *didn't* have a wedding list.

Same here; we're both "recycled", and had all we really needed, so we eventually just asked for "anything dragon-themed". We had some lovely gifts, which we will always treasure.

As to the invite..... how very, very rude! We didn't have children at the wedding either, but we simply didn't name them on the invite. No problem.
Tbh, as it's a work colleague, if it was me, I'd be "otherwise engaged" that day.

beccam

onlyroz wrote: »

When I got married we didn't ask for anything in particular - and everyone got stressed with us because we *didn't* have a wedding list.

Snap!
We didn't want a wedding list, we'd lived together for a year before getting married and had most things, however under pressure from my family (especially my Grannys generation!) we did a Debenhams list....I think it made it easier for a lot of family who were travelling over from England as they could order from the list and didn't have to worry about carrying 6 Denby plates in their hand luggage, also it's traditional to collect "a set" (Denby or similar) and Granny felt we really should have it!:o

Ended up our list was all bought, plus people bought vouchers and then resulted in cash gifts which was probably the best thing for us to get as I was able to walk into a furniture shop and pay cash (literally counting out the notes) to buy new sofas to replace our second hand ones.:T

I much prefer a list or a request especially if its people you don't know very well and are unsure what to buy....I was slightly miffed at a recent invite which included their HOUSE OF FRASER :eek: wedding list but lacked directions to the very remote church!

shellsuit

So some people would be annoyed if there was no indication of what to get a bride and groom in the invite??

We don't mind what we receive, whether it be money, vouchers, picture frame, or a knitted dolly toilet roll holder, so what would you suggest in that case?

Looks like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't!

Idiophreak

Person_one wrote: »

Ok, look at it from another angle, people in this country generally give gifts at birthdays too. Imagine if you got a text from someone saying "Hey, I've booked a private room in a bar for my 30th on Saturday, its from 9pm - 2am and I'd like either new GHDs or the cash, thanks."

Why is it only ok for a wedding?

I guess I'm just a terribly rude person...I tend to write a list for my birthday and expect one from people I'll be giving gifts to. These things aren't exactly taxing in the real world, I buy presents for the same people each year, the same people buy presents for me - I give them a list, they give me one - everyone's happier for it.

Person_one

Idiophreak wrote: »

I guess I'm just a terribly rude person...I tend to write a list for my birthday and expect one from people I'll be giving gifts to. These things aren't exactly taxing in the real world, I buy presents for the same people each year, the same people buy presents for me - I give them a list, they give me one - everyone's happier for it.

Wow, really? Well clearly we're never going to agree on this issue so I'll stop trying to convince you!

SugarSpun

shellsuit wrote: »

We don't mind what we receive, whether it be money, vouchers, picture frame, or a knitted dolly toilet roll holder, so what would you suggest in that case?

I would LOVE one of those toilet roll holders.

Idiophreak

shellsuit wrote: »

So some people would be annoyed if there was no indication of what to get a bride and groom in the invite??

We don't mind what we receive, whether it be money, vouchers, picture frame, or a knitted dolly toilet roll holder, so what would you suggest in that case?

Looks like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't!

Yeah, absolutely.

In your case, I suggest you think about it. You may not think you mind what you get, but when you receive 12 kettles, 15 toasters, a giant plastic horseshoe and 3 mismatched pairs of champagne flutes, you might feel differently.

cactuspotty

I don't think it's rude to ask for money - it's the way they went about it that is rude.

What I find more offensive is the 'no children' rule. I think weddings are a family celebration, so to not have children there is a real shame. We had lots of kids at our wedding. They were really well behaved and had lots of fun. A great moment was when one of the kids burped really loudly during the best man's speech - classic!