Wedding list: They have asked for money

thatgirlsam

whoa dizziblonde !

maybe you need to accept that your idea of a wedding is different to other peoples ... i certainly do ..

heck , if we were all the same life would be pretty boring

thatgirlsam

actually, thinking about it , the people that specify no kids at their weddings are the very same people that cause a BIG stink when the kids they produced after marriage are not invited to other friends weddings !!

disclaimer - this is in my experience only , i am not accusing anyone on mse of anything ..

euronorris

thatgirlsam wrote: »

whoa dizziblonde !

maybe you need to accept that your idea of a wedding is different to other peoples ... i certainly do ..

heck , if we were all the same life would be pretty boring

That was dizziblonde's point. She re-iterated it, clearly, a number of times.

thatgirlsam

euronorris wrote: »

That was dizziblonde's point. She re-iterated it, clearly, a number of times.

kind of ...

she also stated ....

'no, kids do not make the wedding ' etc etc

that is HER view ...

maybe she should take her own advice ??

euronorris

thatgirlsam wrote: »

kind of ...

she also stated ....

'no, kids do not make the wedding ' etc etc

that is HER view ...

maybe she should take her own advice ??

Yeah, but she's not telling other people they shouldn't have kids at their wedding. She's simply saying that she doesn't want them at hers.

thatgirlsam

euronorris wrote: »

Yeah, but she's not telling other people they shouldn't have kids at their wedding. She's simply saying that she doesn't want them at hers.

Kids don't "make" the wedding - if kids make the wedding as opposed to the bride and groom there's something very very wrong.

thats what dizziblonde said ..

beleive me, i couldn't give a rats arsk what she has at her wedding , but she needs to follow her own advice and understand that to some people, kids DO make the wedding

:T

dizziblonde

The point I'm getting at with that is that kids running around a room could be a school disco, it could be any family occasion - if it's a wedding it's a wedding because a man and a woman are getting married. It would be a wedding without kids, it would be a wedding with kids... but without the couple - it wouldn't be a wedding.

It just seems a daft sentence in my mind - putting people's children above the couple the day is about... seems a somewhat distorted sense of priorities.

And please don't be abusive towards me - I'm not being abusive towards you - edited to add that

thatgirlsam

dizziblonde wrote: »

The point I'm getting at with that is that kids running around a room could be a school disco, it could be any family occasion - if it's a wedding it's a wedding because a man and a woman are getting married. It would be a wedding without kids, it would be a wedding with kids... but without the couple - it wouldn't be a wedding.

It just seems a daft sentence in my mind - putting people's children above the couple the day is about... seems a somewhat distorted sense of priorities.

believe me , i think you should have the wedding you want ..

i don't think anyone is saying the kids would be more important than the couple getting married ??

my point was , FOR ME , a wedding without kids wouldn't be the same ..

i love it , i love big family do's where everyone is there , kids to great grandma , everyone

i can understand those who can't afford to invite everyone ..

but for people looking for 'perfection' , i think they might be disappointed, as nothings perfect

i also edited to add, when have i been abusive to you ? .. why would you think i was going to be ?

savingmummy

Oh my!!
I wouldn`t go and i would say why too.
We had no wishlist at ours and i wouldn`t of dreamed to have said any of that especially the children bit - i`m shocked lol!x

monicaj

Just read the first post, but sorry, none of the replies. In answer:

OP - could never imagine making a statement/request like that myself, BUT I respect their views/thought process, just believe there could be a more diplomatic approach.

• We got married 3 1/2 years ago - second marriage for us both so not a "traditional" wedding by any means
• My 17 year old son "gave me away" - didn't want to bother my dad a second time round
• My 18 year old and 18 MONTH old daughers were my attendants
• My 9 year old Stepson was ring bearer
• We invited who WE wanted to the ceremony/reception - didn't invite any children apart from nephews and nieces and our own of course !!
• Noone had a problem (well they may have, but didn;t tell us !!)
• Didn't have a gift list, as in all honesty didn't want/need anything - we chose our guests based on who we believed were happy for us and would make our day memorable.
• Received over £7k in money/gift vouchers :eek: