Child wanting to please both parents

vik6525

Valli wrote: »

and when you TELL them what they need to do they look at you as though you are deliberately trying to ruin their time with the kids!

When exOH and I split I told him Ithat if he takes the kids on holiday it has to be during school holidays (because asd the parent with care I'll get the Ed. Welfare Officers round here!). No problem.

He doesn't take the kids on holiday at all.

HE goes abroad, with g/f.

I go abroad/on holiday with kids!

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR..............
Its exactlly the same here!
I take the booger on holidays, my parents take him, his 'other' grandparents take him. His Dad? Dont make me laugh!

And dont even START me on NYE just gone, when his father was meant to have him (we have the little one on alternate NYEs, this year was his Dads year...) What did he do?? !!!!!! off to Bristol with his girlfriend for a couple of days!
Didnt even want to spend NYE with his son!

child359

Valli wrote: »

and when you TELL them what they need to do they look at you as though you are deliberately trying to ruin their time with the kids!

When exOH and I split I told him Ithat if he takes the kids on holiday it has to be during school holidays (because asd the parent with care I'll get the Ed. Welfare Officers round here!). No problem.

He doesn't take the kids on holiday at all.

HE goes abroad, with g/f.

I go abroad/on holiday with kids!

oh I haven't mentioned about ex booking a holiday and wanting to take DS out of school for it in his SATS year!!! but that was alright because g/f was fine for her kids to be out of school but I am being unreasonable by saying no!!

Valli

Basically OP, we're all in the same boat, paddling like mad and not being appreciated. But in out heart WE know we are doing the best we possibly can for our children. I genuinely do NOT beleive that mothers set out to be single mothers - but when it all gets too difficult for the blokes we are shackled to we are left mopping up the fallout. So we pull together and support each other because that's what women do.

(I do NOT include the trollops who KNOWINGLY take up with married/attached blokes and then play mind games with the kids the men already have in this. They deserve the carp they get and then some. And my break up had no 3rd party involvement - so that's not a bitter comment. Women put up with enough carp - they should keep their grubby hands off other women's men, that's all!)

I have corrected the typos in the post you have both quoted BTW!;)

If HE wants to take your DS out of school for a holiday tell HIM he will have to apply to the school for permission which you refuse to do because you are not planning to take him out of school, he is. And this is a perfect example of unreasonable behaviour to tell the solicitor you are contacting.

child359

Valli wrote: »

Basically OP, we're all in the same boat, paddling like mad and not being appreciated. But in out heart WE know we are doing the best we possibly can for our children. I genuinely do NOT beleive that mothers set out to be single mothers - but when it all gets too difficult for the blokes we are shackled to we are left mopping up the fallout. So we pull together and support each other because that's what women do.

(I do NOT include the trollops who KNOWINGLY take up with married/attached blokes and then play mind games with the kids the men already have in this. They deserve the carp they get and then some. And my break up had no 3rd party involvement - so that's not a bitter comment. Women put up with enough carp - they should keep their grubby hand off other women's men, that's all!)

Ditto to that.

I didn't set out to be a single mother but tried to make the best of what me and DS had left.

valkirn

Valli wrote: »

Basically OP, we're all in the same boat, paddling like mad and not being appreciated. But in out heart WE know we are doing the best we possibly can for our children. I genuinely do NOT beleive that mothers set out to be single mothers - but when it all gets too difficult for the blokes we are shackled to we are left mopping up the fallout. So we pull together and support each other because that's what women do.

(I do NOT include the trollops who KNOWINGLY take up with married/attached blokes and then play mind games with the kids the men already have in this. They deserve the carp they get and then some. And my break up had no 3rd party involvement - so that's not a bitter comment. Women put up with enough carp - they should keep their grubby hands off other women's men, that's all!)

I have corrected the typos in the post you have both quoted BTW!;)
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Amen to that :T x

I didnt set out to be a single mum to my eldest but unlike her dad i couldnt put everything on hold and say actually this isnt what i want (my mum bless her did try to give me that get out clause by asking if i wanted her and my dad to raise my daughter while i got myself settled down)

And i will take this oppertunity to say im not a trollop my oh had already split from his ex for over a year before we got together

Valli

You're not a trollop if you take up with a single bloke! Even if he (or you) had been in a relationship. It's the women (and men) who KNOWINGLY start seeing attached people who are doing something they shouldn't, as are the people they're seeing, because somewhere down the line somebody is going to be hurt. And the children are innocent victims in this.

child359

No shock but ex said that he was constantly ask DS if he wanted to text or ring me this weekend.

Guess what??? Heard nothing

Can't wait til later when I can finally get him back.