xmas pressie - am still peed off

euronorris

pattycake wrote: »

At least you got a present! I told my husband I did not want anything for Christmas and he fulfilled that wish. I got nothing. I was pretty peeved at the time but I am not still brooding about it three weeks later.

Why did you tell him that you didn't want a present and then get angry at him for doing as you asked?

pattycake

Did I say I got angry? No, I did not say anything because I HAD said there was nothing I wanted. My husband is not an ungenerous man and always says that if I want anything, I should just go and get it. And I do.

We had both said there was nothing we wanted for Christmas, but I did buy some stuff for him. He clearly misunderstood the pschology of women and took me at my word!

But, I did feel a bit miffed when I had nothing to open from him on Christmas Day. Even some fake pearls would have better than nothing.

Counting_Pennies_2

I would tread carefully in letting him know. It didn't go down too well when I said the handbag I was bought last year as a bit too big. It still comes up in conversation now!

Instead this year I was shopping, and my husband said if I see anything I would like for Christmas, get it.

So I did and I am very happy. I got a lovely cashmere cardigan, and, shock horror, some fake pearls!

DKLS

A lot of men Men really dont do themselves any favours when it comes to presents.
It really isnt that difficult to pick up on the hints of your loved one, and put the effort into a well thought out gift obviosuly this means planning a little earlier than 4.30pm on christmas eve.

I always put the effort in to buy gifts, and so far in 4 years I have hit the nail on the head each time, and have been asked by my OHs female friends if I will give hints to their men.

I know a millionaire, and what did he buy his missus this year, a set of le cruset pans!!!! !!!!!! what was he thinking?, what she actually wanted was a days experience driving an artic lorry. He wont be recieving a gobble til the summer holidays now.

euronorris

pattycake wrote: »

Did I say I got angry? No, I did not say anything because I HAD said there was nothing I wanted. My husband is not an ungenerous man and always says that if I want anything, I should just go and get it. And I do.

We had both said there was nothing we wanted for Christmas, but I did buy some stuff for him. He clearly misunderstood the pschology of women and took me at my word!

But, I did feel a bit miffed when I had nothing to open from him on Christmas Day. Even some fake pearls would have better than nothing.

You said 'I was pretty peeved at the time'.

And, of course he took you at your word, he's not a mind reader. So, if you did want a gift, even if only a small one, then you should have told him. Or at least not told to not buy anything.

Guys are usually very logical in this respect, so if you say you don't want anything, they will take you at your word. It doesn't really occur to them that you would mean the opposite. And why should it? lol

Mme.Hibou

DKLS wrote: »

I know a millionaire, and what did he buy his missus this year, a set of le cruset pans!!!! !!!!!! what was he thinking?, what she actually wanted was a days experience driving an artic lorry.

Did he know she might want to drive an artic lorry, or did she only let him know after the event?
There's nothing wrong with pans for Christmas.

JBD

Lydia82 wrote: »

Did he know she might want to drive an artic lorry, or did she only let him know after the event?
There's nothing wrong with pans for Christmas.

Personally I would not be happy with pans for a christmas present. This is household equipment and presents should be personal.

Dormouse

JBD wrote: »

Personally I would not be happy with pans for a christmas present. This is household equipment and presents should be personal.

One of my Christmas presents was a slow cooker, and I was very pleased with that. I did ask for it.

I did get other, more personal, presents, though.

And OMG, Le Creuset cost a fortune, so it's not to be sniffed at, I'd say.

Make-it-3

OP what is the significance of throwing in the line about trying to divorce him twice, unless of course you value your marriage on what gifts your OH gives you. I agree if you are giving signals you don't want to be in the marriage then I wonder why he's buying presents at all.

Pattycake - I totally get when men say they don't understand women, when they do as you and say the opposite of what you mean. Would you have rather he bought you useless gifts you didn't want then - not very MSE.

tandraig

right for those of you who think social services mean nothing to getting out of a relationship. I left my husband - and three months later - could still get nothing to live on. because i went out of area! didnt go to womens refuge. I should have I realise now. but i went to a friends where he couldnt find me. I came back - went to my daughters in a different county, but they insisted on interviewing me at home! and my OH was present!!! and - to top it off - turned me down! so what else could i do? no money, living off friends or daughter, sleeping on sofas. and no money of my own!! had to go back to him! since then the man has been a !!!!!! to me. nice as pie in front of everyone - in private totally uncaring! unless he fancies a bit - then its how much he loves me.......he thinks i am thick!!!!
we did manage a nice holiday in cornwall this year - no major arguments! it was fun and nice. wish our home life was like that! but, he knew then how much i like pearls (real ones as he was the one to suggest I had a go to find a pearl!) .
To the posters who think his money is keeping me here - the alternative is living with my mother - and i would rather shoot myself. she loves him to bits and thinks he is hard done by. he is very charming to her. my kids are sympathetic but cant help with money or even somewhere to stay. yes, there are issues, but, I still cant help feeling - he knew the pearls were fake (they had a label, simulated pearls?) sort of a clue) and he also knew I would probably know - as I saw them in local cash and carry - for, as i said, £7.99. including the box!