xmas pressie - am still peed off

Kirri

JBD wrote: »

Personally I would not be happy with pans for a christmas present. This is household equipment and presents should be personal.

I actually prefer a practical, useful present!

However I never ask for anything and I never complain about what I'm given, a present is a present and I think it's rude to be unhappy about it.

As regards the OP, if someone wanted to divorce me I wouldn't be buying them anything, I find it all rather strange to be complaining!! Oh, and did I miss was was purchased in return for him for Christmas??

JBD

Kirri wrote: »

I actually prefer a practical, useful present!

However I never ask for anything and I never complain about what I'm given, a present is a present and I think it's rude to be unhappy about it.

As regards the OP, if someone wanted to divorce me I wouldn't be buying them anything, I find it all rather strange to be complaining!! Oh, and did I miss was was purchased in return for him for Christmas??

I agree it is rude to complain about a present but it's not rude to be unhappy about something. I don't think anyone can be blamed if they feel unhappy about something. It depends on how you express your feelings.
I do understand why the OP is unhappy about her Christmas present. I understood her post to say that she has considered divorce in the past but they were back together therefore it's not unreasonable to buy presents for each other.

Kirri

JBD wrote: »

I agree it is rude to complain about a present but it's not rude to be unhappy about something. I don't think anyone can be blamed if they feel unhappy about something. It depends on how you express your feelings.
I do understand why the OP is unhappy about her Christmas present. I understood her post to say that she has considered divorce in the past but they were back together therefore it's not unreasonable to buy presents for each other.

Even if it's not something I would want or buy myself I am happy regardless that someone has given me anything at all!

I thought the OP was only with him for financial reasons, they don't sound happy.

shays_mum

Damn! be happy he even got you something like you wanted!. I have 'false'/real pearls & i know the price difference. I have black/gold pearls i have opened from oysters in Hawaii, but they are not the 'real real' deal as they are planted there artificially to make us tourists happy!.Unless your seriously loaded real pearls take years to develop & cost thousands, so the choice is yours, but at least he tried, give the man some credit!.
You totally have the right to feel disappointed, but is it not the thought that counts?

nickyhutch

tandraig wrote: »

shell - i feel so upset - thats why I am asking what others think. I may be overreacting. to another poster I would probably say - Your husband is insensitve.
I have actually tried to divorce my husband twice, and been defeated by the fact he isnt physicaly abusive and social services wont help. also, he turns charming when I leave. and i am really stupid and fall for it, and believe him when he says 'I am his soul mate' and he will change.
I see him now for what he really is. I stay, but , in my mind its on my terms.
thats no reason to insult me though - is it?

I managed to divorce a husband who wasn't physically abusive - what's the problem?

nickyhutch

tandraig wrote: »

right for those of you who think social services mean nothing to getting out of a relationship. I left my husband - and three months later - could still get nothing to live on. because i went out of area! didnt go to womens refuge. I should have I realise now. but i went to a friends where he couldnt find me. I came back - went to my daughters in a different county, but they insisted on interviewing me at home! and my OH was present!!! and - to top it off - turned me down! so what else could i do? no money, living off friends or daughter, sleeping on sofas. and no money of my own!! had to go back to him! since then the man has been a !!!!!! to me. nice as pie in front of everyone - in private totally uncaring! unless he fancies a bit - then its how much he loves me.......he thinks i am thick!!!!
we did manage a nice holiday in cornwall this year - no major arguments! it was fun and nice. wish our home life was like that! but, he knew then how much i like pearls (real ones as he was the one to suggest I had a go to find a pearl!) .
To the posters who think his money is keeping me here - the alternative is living with my mother - and i would rather shoot myself. she loves him to bits and thinks he is hard done by. he is very charming to her. my kids are sympathetic but cant help with money or even somewhere to stay. yes, there are issues, but, I still cant help feeling - he knew the pearls were fake (they had a label, simulated pearls?) sort of a clue) and he also knew I would probably know - as I saw them in local cash and carry - for, as i said, £7.99. including the box!

Get a job

pinkshoes

My best mate got a beautiful pearl necklace for her birthday from her now husband. It was SO beautiful (and expensive!), she was lost for words.

What really happened was I met him after work to go to the pub, & asked him what he'd got her for her birthday. His response was "oh sh*t", so we called into the jewellers on the way to the pub and he bought the first pearl thing he saw, and the shop wrapped it. We then went to Clinton cards, where he quickly picked a card, lent on my back to write it out, and I had to remind him to throw away the bag that the card came in. I also had to remind him to hide the necklace receipt, as it had the time and date of purchase on.

How romantic. not.

This pearl thing is obviously bothering you. How about you talk to him, and ask him where he bought it, and tell him you're worried he's been ripped off, as it's a fake, so you hope he didn't spend too much money on it. At least this way, you'll find out if he did just spend £7.99 on you, or perhaps he did actually spend a lot of money and get ripped of?!?!

thorsoak

I'm sorry if someone has already asked the question and I've missed it - but what did you get him this Christmas?

nickyhutch

thorsoak wrote: »

I'm sorry if someone has already asked the question and I've missed it - but what did you get him this Christmas?

It has been asked but OP hasn't answered (unless I missed it too).
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Primrose

Ask him for the receipt and ask whether he'd be offended if you took them back to the shop and exchanged them for real pearls as long as you pay the difference in the price. He probably doesn't even know there's a difference. To most men "a pearl is a pearl" in about the same way as "a sock is a sock" and they probably wouldn't realise there was a difference in quality.