Future Ex Cuts Off All Financial Support

rocketdog_2

elliebobs wrote: »

Hi snowy


Maintenance is not taken into consideration when tax credits are calculated so essentially your award will be based upon an income of £nil. It won't be a great deal but...it is money that you are entitled to and money that you will receive independantly of your husband. He doesn't even have to know!

The tax credits helpline number is 0845 300 3900; give them a ring and they will send you a claim pack.

Good luck and I really do hope that things work out for you.

I don't think you can claim tax credits if you don't pay tax.

elliebobs

Rocketdog; I can assure you that you can claim tax credits if you don't pay tax!

Angela

snowy63 wrote: »

and you can be sure I won't make that mistake again, by the way, when I met him, we didn't have a large amount of money, it's been accrued during our marriage, i hope smug towers is comfortable for you!

Hear hear with you on that snowy

daska

snowy63 wrote: »

THE POLICE ATTENDED MY HOUSE THE WEEK OF XMAS, I don't want to start a whole new subject, but he has attacked me before and I called them before he could do anything on this occasion, and lastly, THIS IS ALL ABOUT HIM TRYING TO MAKE MY LIFE AS VILE AS POSSIBLE

Has your solicitor suggested a non-molestation order? Might be worth asking the question, and again, try ringing womensaid for some practical advice on what your options are - solicitors are not infallible.

jayII

Snowy, huge (((((((hugs))))))). I really feel for you, what an awful situation to be in.

You are doing well and should give yourself a pat on the back for sticking to your guns. From what I hear, ending an abusive relationship is one of the toughest things in the world, so again, well done you.

I am lucky enough to be in a 'good' relationship, we're perpetually skint, but that's neither here nor there. Smug people, who are putting you down, would do well to remember that money isn't everything.

Keep at it snowy, one day you and your son will be free and clear, and life will be great. But do make sure you have an emergency plan, just in case you need it.

Bonnie2009

I can't believe some of the replies here! Such vicious people around, who are seemingly able to live on absolutely nothing.

Her husband has only been able to work the hours he has because the OP has been willing to run the home single-handedly. He has doled out money, as if she was an employee - and now he's sacked her and thinks he doesn't owe her a penny.

The reason she's divorcing him is because of his violent behaviour - she has had to call the police out to deal with him. Would those of you who are so intensely jealous of her think she should put up with that and stay with him?

And as for the person who was choking because the OP wanted £50 a week - that is nothing! Have you ever tried filling a car with petrol? Why shouldn't she have that when the family is worth so much money? Just because he earned it, it doesn't mean it's all his to keep!

He is trying to control her with money - she needs to get a really good solicitor - she should get Legal Aid as she isn't earning at the moment - that will be paid back when there's a divorce settlement.

If I were her, I do everything I could to move out with my son. The longer she stays, the more likely it is that he will be violent again.

I can't believe a solicitor can't do anything about interim payments - please don't go for the cheapest solicitor - he will certainly be paying for the best he can find.

In the meantime, I think her son should ask his dad for a month's lunch money and bus fares at a time - it's disgraceful that they are having to ask this man for money.

Michelin

Hear, hear, Bonnie. Half of them aren't reading what she posts - they seem to have the same stock answers for anyone who posts in this situation.

thorsoak

Just because she has had more than some of us might have had - does not mean that she isn't suffering now!

Show some compassion - many people here have suffered from violent partners - just because they are wealthy does that mean that the violence is less???

snowy63

I want to send out massive thanks to all of you who replied to my thread, even the negative ones cos at least you made me feel like I'm a much better person than you, so a positive there! However, not only yr advice, but your support and understanding, gave me such a feeling of strength that I didn't have when I started this thread. I spent all of yesterday applying for dozens of jobs and am going to jsa etc on Monday. Wish I could reach out and thank each and everyone of you individually so I'll send you all a virtual hug and a virtual glass of red or white, whatever's your preference! Someone out there said I appear to be 'young enough'...thank you, thankyou, I'm 47 next month so, yeah, guess I am!! I'm going to do this and I'm going to get through it well, once again LOVE TO YOU ALL, THANKS XX

MrsE_2

welshmoneylover wrote: »

My advice is to get a job and never ever rely on a man for money again.

Thats a really hard (& sad) attitude to have to relationships.

I can & do earn money, but my husband earns more & is the main bread winner.

Should I live as if we could seperate anyday & I might have to manage on my wages?

Thats not giving your all to a relationship, thats holding back with a get out clause.
I know because I sort of did that for years & untill I let go & gave 100% it wasn't 100%.