I'm left paying for my ex bf's PC. Advice wanted

Sugar_Coated_Owl

No there was never any contract saying I would pay X amount each month. Before I moved in my bf was paying his parents just £100 a month so I just said to my bf that I would pay that as well.

MarkyMarkD wrote:

I'm starting to feel a bit less sorry for you now, razor. You had 5 months of accommodation with food for £600? And you are moaning about the loss of value of a computer (part of which has been paid)?

I know that there was probably no contractual agreement to pay rent or any similar thing, but I also feel you are being a bit one-sided about the financial consequences of the relationship.

Of course, if there are lots of other things where you paid more than your fair share which evens out the rent situation, that's different and I apologise.

The accommodation was half a room that I shared with my ex, the other part was his little brothers. Yes my evening dinner was cooked by his Mum but breakfast and lunch I bought out. I paid one month of £100 while I was living there and £600 I paid after I had moved out. During the time I was there I was lending my boyfriend money to pay various bills and always giving him money for petrol so that he could get to work.

Perhaps £700 isn't very much to have paid but at the time I was 19 and my job wasn't exactly full time.

I would have thought that if they had wanted more money for rent/meals e.t.c they would have mentioned it by now.

He came into work today and was having a go at me in front of my work colleagues and customers. The endless text messages and calls of hatrid made me wish I hadn't even started the claim.

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your friend iriahm. It sounds awful. What a !!!!!!! thinking he could get away with not paying bills and stealing her posessions :mad:

Thank you for your replies guys.

Iriahm

it will all work out ok, just keep focussed!

wigginsmum

Can you have a word at work to see if he can be kept out by security?

MrsTinks

Hun stick with it My ex went as far as death threats to me over the phone which sadly I wasn't able to record - I regret often that I rolled over and just let him take me for a ride (not a computer in this case but in fact a house... which HE got and I got - yup you guess it... DEBT!) It took a long time in my mind to get over being his doormat and infact it was when I found out that those of his friends I'd stayed in touch which stopped speaking to him because he did nothing but slag me off and I never said a word about him... the sweet revenge of him making them truely see him for what he was was truely priceless!
However I still wish I'd been able to stic to my guns and not look back at 3 years of wasted mortgage payments that HE is now benefitting from. DON'T back down, the pc is YOURS and either he pays for it or he returns it. I lived with my ex's parents for nearly 3 years (Ex's fault - we bought the house, he then ripped out EVERYTHING including floors and ceilings so the house was just a shell) and I pay as much rent as I could, I helped with everything I could and I still paid my bills and I was on 10k a year at the time...
Carry on with the claim and make sure you have the names of anyone willing to testify that he barged into your work place to harrass you and KEEP the texts and voicemails from him!
I WOULD consider getting a restraining order if you at any point feel like he is threatening you for real. If he then breaks the restraining order you can have him arrested... that should cool his temper!

If you need us we're here hun

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Work have mentioned that if he comes in again and starts shouting at me then they will ask him to leave and stay away.

Sorry to hear about your situation tine, that is awful what he did to you. I hope you managed to get it sorted. I will try my best to stick to the claim. I'm just scared/worried about what him and his family are going to do next.

Thanks for all your support. I really appreciate it.

Let_Robinson_Sing

well from my experience from working in a DCA i could do some 'illigitimate Debt collecting' if you want

if you dont want to do that then definately take it down the small claims passage. bearing in mind it'll take months to get a county court date

Rallya

Jim_B wrote:

Here's a trick I learnt in the marines. Go to his house and find a pebble and a brick. Right-handed? Good. Hold the brick in your right hand, and throw the pebble at the window of a room he is in. Count to three, and throw the brick. He'll get to the window to see what the pebble was just as the brick arrives.

OMG too funny, I'll remember this one if I ever have trouble with someone :rotfl:

isgman

Try contacting his Mum & Dad... they may help !! Or use the Brick...LOL

Mrs_Arkwright

isgman wrote:

Try contacting his Mum & Dad... they may help !! Or use the Brick...LOL

As mentioned above, his mum and dad are now trying to take OP to court for unpaid rent, so I feel it's highly unlikely they will help her.

frak

Unfortunately this is the kind of reaction you will get from him in this situation. it seems that becuase the relationship ended and he is not happy with that, that you owe him something. Complete rubbish of course but now he is venting it and trying to intinidate you. You will have to stand strong against him and any confrontation you have try not to get annoyed or upset and speak calmly and politely and tell him his actions and behaviour are not appropriate. His behaviour is intimidating and threatening and if you feel in anyway compromised by this report him to the police, as what he is doing now is harrassment and intimidation and that is illegal.
He owes you money for the computer, and if had any sense of decency and respect for you and the relationship he would pay up. Count yourself lucky to be out of that and dont lose any self respect. It's hard to move on when you have to be in contact for whatever reason. I know becuase my ex did it to me but hang in there. With regards to his parents well i think you more than paid yoru way there so don't worry your conscience with that.
Just keep doing what you are doing and ignore him from now on.
good luck