Invited to Ex's wedding - Problem with fiancee

Glen0000

loftus wrote: »

Take it from a bloke - that is complete and utter garbage.

Fair enough I understand your wife/gf may be reading over your shoulder, but when all boys are together we know it is true! 99.9% of single men would jump at the chance of nookie with a female friend.

loftus

Seriously mate, don't generalise. I am a single man (straight before you jump to the next conclusion!) with several female friends and really don't want to shag any of them. I'm sure that part of your post is for a laugh but it's an attitude that some men take seriously and can cause a heck of a lot of grief.

rictus123

Lol if i was a girl i would never trust a guy(knowing what i know ) Lucky mine does though But still girls can be just as bad, even worse a lot of the time.

RoxieW

Proc wrote: »

Probably "I Will Always Love You" by Whitney Houston. No doubt sang whilst gazing into the grooms eyes. Bride gets upset and storms out, then Eastie is left stood there. She looks at everyone and says "What?".

PMSL - I can picture it as well!

Dave101t

it is true guys, you all know it, even those who may hide it because you know-you-wouldnt-have-a-chance-so-wont-even-try.
ive done all my wifes friends in my minds eye, but would never actually do it for real.

as for the OP, i hope you have a tight lid securing that can o' worms.

Glen0000

Dave101t wrote: »

it is true guys, you all know it, even those who may hide it because you know-you-wouldnt-have-a-chance-so-wont-even-try.
ive done all my wifes friends in my minds eye, but would never actually do it for real.

as for the OP, i hope you have a tight lid securing that can o' worms.

At last, some honesty from a bloke. Yes ladies, we "do" every attractive women we come across in our mind. The lady behind the counter at Boots, the girl in the next car putting on her lipstick and especially you if you are a close friend and we can smell your perfume, hear your voice. Make it even easier to "do" you the closer we are to you.

Not your fault ladies, just the nature of the beast. If a man has ever spent more than 2 mins talking to you he will have given you a good seeing to in his head (unless he is a blood relative).

Pollycat

I don't think this thread is about whether men can have platonic female friends without fantasising about 'doing them' or giving them a 'good seeing to' (what disgusting expressions, imho).

There IS a thread here:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=2190285
that discusses this.

In my opinion, this is about whether the OP should attend the wedding of a long-time friend (who happens to be a member of the opposite sex and an ex boyfriend) after she has been caught out exchanging suggestive messages and making silly jokes, some of them with sexual innuendos (the OP's words, not mine) with him.

Pee

If he is your friend - and I'm not sure a few e-mails and messenger make someone a friend, I guess that depends how far apart you live etc - then you will avoid causing him any hassle with the difficult woman that he has chosen to be with.

If events are as you suggest, they will be married for a short time and then he'll be back crying on your shoulder.

I wouldn't go to a female friends wedding if the groom didn't like me and asked me not to be there.

Primrose

Remember "There were three of us in this marriage and it did feel a little crowded"?

Decline graciously, send them a present and every good wish for their future happiness and then step back from your friendship with your Ex. If these two are not well suited, there could be trouble ahead for them and you don't want to be seen to have played even a small part in undermining their relationship.

Tamsin_Temrin

Primrose wrote: »

you don't want to be seen to have played even a small part in undermining their relationship.

Too late. I'd be devastated if I started trashing someone's marriage even before it started