Now What Would You Do In This Position?

SallyUK

Hi Thorsoak,

They look around 7 and 5 ish - much younger than mine - mine are 13 and 17.

Sal
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thorsoak wrote: »

How old are the children? Younger than yours?

lavidaloca

Well Sally they do say revenge is best served cold!

angelicmary85

I would like to come back here in a few months/weeks/however long this takes to get sorted and read that the smarmy !!!!!! has been bled dry and has been banged up for bigamy...but that's just what I'd like to happen

I hope you guys get some much deserved cash out of 'hubby' and he gets his come uppance...but again, just my opinion

One thing strikes me as odd though...Why would he only have a few friends on his FB profile? Have you tried searching for another profile under the same name that may have his 'British contacts' on it? Surely if he was adding his children, he'd soon be adding other people aswell?

foxy-roxy

OMG!! what a drama this is turning out to be, how on earth can a man desert his wife and kids and go off and do it all again with someone else.
unbelievable when you think how many men would love to see their kids and can't.
I hope he is married again and gets banged up for bigamy.
so many innocent people caught up in one mans selfishness.

Bit of a risk him contacting your children like that as well if he is married.

Good Luck OP i hope you get a good outcome from this.

p.s my OH found a half sister on facebook and his dad also is trying to contact him after years of denying he was even his dad, suprisingly my OH doesn't want to know.

Greener_Grass

Hi Sally,

I have just stumbled upon your thread! What a nightmare it sounds like. I look forward to hearing more updates about what is going on

finnigan

Have you had a look through the birth and marriage registers for the last 10 years? I think I would be more than tempted to do so .

Best of luck Sally.

bugbabe1970

Hi Sally

Just come across your thread. I must say you are dealing with this so well. :T How do you feel about finding out he has another family? Must have been quite a ahock for you and possibly stirred up a lot of feelings. Do your children know about the other family? How are they coping with the knowledge.

I cant imagine how i would feel! Angry, upset, enraged, confused? Lots of emotions I guess.

Good luck to you and I hope the outcome is positive for you and your children.

What a complete !!!!!!!!!!!!

Steel_2

Saw this thread pop up again and thought I'd check in as I hadn't kept up with it and...

OMG!!!!

So he has more children and is a potential bigamist if that wedding ring is indeed real. He has got such a rude awakening coming...

You be strong and tactical SallyUK. As someone else said, revenge is a dish best served cold.

I know some people dislike facebook but I have to say, it's great for finding people...

Just a thought, any chance you could ring this middle eastern company and ask to speak to him and see if they put you through. If they say he's left to go self-employed, at least you'll know.

But if they put you through to him, hang up quick and alert your solicitor!

Personally I think he's a big fat liar.

SallyUK

Hi Folks

Thanks to you all for taking the time to reply, I really do appreciate it.

I hadn't told my children about any of the latest stuff that was happening, but I did this afternoon - you should have seen the look of shock on their faces! My daughter who is one of the most caring, thoughtful girls you could ever wish to meet and who wouldn't hurt a fly, just said, "Oh Mum, I'd better not say what I'm thinking out loud - (She's 13) - and I said, "No love, go on say what you feel" - and she said one word - B!!!!!!!!

I've never heard her swearing in her life before!!! lol

I let them see the first reply that he sent to the lawyer, where he said he liked to support his children and would agree to the divorce as long as he had access - and my son said - so he's now trying to claim parental responsibility?" - he said well if he likes to support his children, where's my bank book?!" LOL. He went on to say that even if the marriage had failed, it would have been better if his Dad had even tried to contact him, but he had lost all respect for him now for not doing that.

I also showed them the photos of their Dad and this woman and the children, you should have seen their faces, it was a look of disbelief.

Anyway, I found out from my friend - who has befriended a niece of his on facebook - (using false name as usual) that he is indeed married to this woman.

So I think it's safe to say he is a bigamist in UK law, but I need to find out what the case is with him living in the Middle East.

I've still not had a reply from my lawyer since Monday, but she's probably on holiday again!

Bugbabe1970 - you're so right, I'm not sure what I'm feeling at the moment, a mixture of everything. One minute I'm ok and the next I find myself drifting off and starting to think about things from the past - not that I'd want to be with him again or anything, but other things.

AngelicMary85 - He hasn't really had anything on his Facebook page until recently, but apparently there's more friends being added daily.

Foxy-Roxy - you can understand your OH not wanting to know his Dad, can't you - it must be an awful thing to live with knowing that your father is out there somewhere but isn't bothered about finding you.

gorgeouslatinrose

I think it depends on which country he is residing in the Middle East . From people who I know living there, they have needed to divorce before marrying again, and married twice can cause huge problems, but I think it depends on the country . Hopefully someone else with better advice can clear that up, if not im sure your solicitor will no. Good luck.