Problem son (sorry long)

karen310

red_devil wrote: »

Thats a shame when you have to hide everything? have you ever asked him how he would like it if people stole from him?

Frequentlt when it was going on , he always denied it was him although we all knew it was , until the time he was caught red handed , then I took him to the police

karen310

I can hear him moving around now. God I hate this.

mumslave

Just stay strong karen, he needs to know you mean business. He isnt the enemy, he is your son, but its a parents job to help them stand on their own two feet, sometimes that calls for tough love. Try to remember that x

whitty999

oh hun i am so hoping that he be ok for you,try to stay calm hopefully your partner will give you a bit of support,hope he knows that christmas time shouldn't be like this for any of you.
hope he goes away from you to think things over x
all the best will catch up later keep us posted hun.

SkipE

Be strong Karen. You have done all you can for him. Its up to him now which path he chooses. You have made your decision and its time to stand by it. We are all here to support you xx

karen310

mumslave wrote: »

Just stay strong karen, he needs to know you mean business. He isnt the enemy, he is your son, but its a parents job to help them stand on their own two feet, sometimes that calls for tough love. Try to remember that x

I know , its all quiet again upstairs , he is obviously taking no notice of me whatsoever , this is my home and I am walking on eggshells here. I suppose I will have to go up and bloody tell him again

red_devil

have the two of you given each other a hug lately!

karen310

red_devil wrote: »

have the two of you given each other a hug lately!

no , its not been that kind of relationship for a long time , and at the moment I would probably find my hands round his throat because of his recent behaviour :mad: He is not a lad that confides at all , any info has to be practically dragged from him and he is very selective what he tell you , he is a practiced liar when he wants. Much as I love him and this situation is awful , I think a hug is a long way off at the moment
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karen310

Went up and told him I had said to get his stuff. He siad he had only come home cos he felt ill , so I told him this wasnt his doss house basically. He then told me I was sick , I had thrown him out 6 days before christmas , which wasnt the conversation at all. He said he had slept in his car christmas eve , which again I said was his choosing. He brought up the fact that I had thrown him out in the past , I pointed out that it had ben due to his behaviour , stealing etc , I also pointed out how much I had tried to help him financially abd other ways , he just shouted that he appreciated it , then I said that he had to show it by actions , words are easy. He then stormed out with no belonging , stating he is driving an uninsured car on new years eve and its my fault , he then took off at some ridiculous speed.
gone from bad to worse now

Sagaris

Try not to feel too bad, he's trying to make you feel guilty by turning it all round on you.

Hopefully this will be the jolt he needs to get him back on the straight and narrow - if he is driving an uninsured car he will probably get picked up by the police (there's always lots of them about on New Years Eve to catch the drink drivers). No one to blame but himself, IMO. You have done everything you can - the ball is in his court now.