Death of a friend

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Jill - you're doing grand. Good to hear the Natwest agent was a thoughtful person, it makes all the difference.
I expect Registrars have seen every emotion from A to Z in people and pretty much take it in their stride. Gabrielle is being a good friend isn't she ? When the going gets tough the tough get going, and she certainly seems to fit that bill, as do you.
I shall be thinking of you on Wednesday, and of your friend. Take care

Broomstick

Jill, you are showing what true friendship is, your friend is so lucky. He must have been really special.

Please keep eating and drinking, even tiny amounts. Chocolate biscuits and soup are food so if that's what you can cope with eat them! You will need your energy for Wednesday and afterwards. Would it make it easier if you asked Gabrielle if she could have lunch or supper with you, even if it's just cheese on toast, or a yoghurt, or a small bowl or cereal? Sometimes it's easier to eat if you have someone to chat to at the same time.

I shall be thinking of you on Wednesday.

B xxx

Stephb1986_2

Jill I just wanted to say that I wish I had a friend like you. I'm sure your friend is looking down on you thinking what a wonderful and caring friend you are. He would be so proud of you.

Don't think that he has left you as he hasn't he will still be in your heart and close by to you for a very long time he will watch over you because you have been such a good friend to him.

Stay strong love well done I don't know if I could of done it.

Sending love and best wishes

Steph xx

Violetta_2

Good luck for wednesday Jill, I think you are doing your friend proud. I'm not sure but it sounds like your other friends are also young & have probably not experienced the "death" thing (lucky them) especially with someone of a similarly young age & just want to run away from it as far as they can, so can't understand how important it is that you do this for your friend. Most people assume family will deal with that sort of thing.

Savvy_Sue

I am really glad that you had a good, caring, decent person meeting you at the flat, and that you had someone with you to register the death. Don't listen to people who say you should or should not be feeling this, that or the other, but do listen to people who say that you should keep eating a bit.

It sounds as if you are responding in perfectly understandable ways to a very unusual situation - after all, very few of us find someone dead in their home when we call in, and very few of us are as young as you when we first encounter the death of a friend our own age.

You are doing a good job. And we'll all still keep thinking of you.

screamer

Oh Jill, I wish I had friends like you!!

I'm crying again, but only because I feel for you and I know what you're going through. Please keep your chin up, for your own sanity's sake. I hope you get through tomorrow as best as you can, and bear in mind when you get home, if you don't want to be alone, come on here and I'm sure there will be someone on to give you a comforting word or 2.

Which area are you in btw. I have read the whole of your thread but don't see any hint of it.

I hope the nasty weather isn't threatenbing your well laid plans either. My brother's funeral was last February and the ice threatened to stop everything in it's tracks.

Rest in Peace Jill's friend. You were one lucky lad to have had a friend like her. I hope you're in a better place and I hope you will continue to look down on Jill and keep her safe. I wish I had known you, but I can promise you had more friends than you thought you had (many of us are reading this thread). I shall say a prayer for you tomorrow, and one for Jill. No one can hurt you now, you are at peace!!

Take care Jill, and my thoughts are with you!!!! xx xx xx

Jill__2

Hey all

Sorry for the delay in a reply. Had alot to sort out today. Visited my friend and spent an hour with him, talking to him. Had another cry. Still not eating properly still working can't stand work. I feel he is looking down on me and is there with me when I need to have someone there.

As for my area, I am from Manchester We have had several inches of snow and more planned. I don't think some of the people will be able to come. Me and Gabrielle will give him a good send off. Hopefully the cemertery won't cancel.

I am not an amazing person, I'm quite the opposite. When I was attacked I refused to come out of my room for a week, He was sat outside my room because he said he was worried about me and I wasn't answering my phone. I love him, (I really love him like more than friends) I did nothing for him, If I was any sort of friend when he was alive, I would have made time for him over christmas.

Thank you for all your nice comments, I really don't deserve them I am a bad person I just hope tommorrow is what he imagined.

Stephb1986_2

Jill I'm sure your friend knows how hard you have tried to make tomorrow everything he would of wanted. I am not too far from you (wigan) I know what you mean about the snow it has to be more than 12 inches at least the snow is that thick it was touching the bottom of my jeep!!

You are not a bad person at all I don't have any friends that would do this for me let alone anything! If your friend thought you was that bad he wouldn't of left everything to you.

Please don't feel bad about things your friend really wouldn't want you to.

Take care tomorrow

Love and best wishes

Steph xx

Jill__2

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Jill I'm sure your friend knows how hard you have tried to make tomorrow everything he would of wanted. I am not too far from you (wigan) I know what you mean about the snow it has to be more than 12 inches at least the snow is that thick it was touching the bottom of my jeep!!

You are not a bad person at all I don't have any friends that would do this for me let alone anything! If your friend thought you was that bad he wouldn't of left everything to you.

Please don't feel bad about things your friend really wouldn't want you to.

Take care tomorrow

Love and best wishes

Steph xx

I don't want his stuff I want him back. If I was a good person I would have made more of an effort over christmas.

southoftheriver

I don't think you realise that this thread has given a lot of people (myself included) a bit of a lift to think that there are people as kind hearted as you out there. I am very sorry for the loss of your friend.