MSE Parents Club Part 9

feelinggood_2

GISI, I'm glad they arrived. I hope you can figure out how to use them! I think they are a great idea and hope they suit you.

SugarSpun

GISI I felt much the same way about Husband - for the first weeks he was wonderful. Unfortunately, the month that he was in hospital coincided with the month that Molly started needing more time and attention, and he still hasn't caught up with the idea that you really need to be entertaining her or she'll start yelling, and that she no longer needs 3-4 2 hour naps between 8am and 10pm. So I do get frustrated with him, but I know he's trying and that it's simply that his way of trying is not the same as mine.

If he was dodging responsibilities the way some parents do he'd be wearing his entrails as a collar.

Edit: I'm going home. Booger this, I'm FREEZING.

BeenieCat

I was 17 when i had my DS, and a single mother.

You'd be amazed at how people think it's okay to be blatant in their disapproval, and assume you're a chav slapper who will never work and belongs on jeremy kyle.

I used to thrive on proving them wrong, so i quite liked it that there was these sweeping generalisations about teenage mothers - instead of being upset that people assumed that way, i loved that i was better than expected. One old granny in town when i had my work suit on, commented on why my mother left me babysitting when i'd been to work all day :rolleyes: I thought - wut? Do i look 12? lol

got-it-spend-it

I will let you know (if that's not too weird) :rotfl:.

feelinggood_2

I think almost every feels judged. I know I've felt judged in real life and online for having a baby despite my Mental Health Problems. Very few people fit the 'ideal' and I think everyone feels looked down upon for some reason - wether it be working, not working, single, too many kids, spoilt only child, illness, bottlefeeding, late weaning, CIO, co-sleeping etc.

feelinggood_2

Today I started taking antidepressants This is the 12th time I've been on antidepressants, and the 7th type. I'm not overly hopeful!

I'm waiting for a call from the PALS guy, should be some time today. Care-Coordinator said she'd ring this week but I don't know when it'll be. HV said she'd be in touch too. Nanny starts on Wednesday (finally not snowed in).

Not had any contact with NCT Ladies this year. Last invite was a generic one to the 'Works Do' and I then got a text saying I probably didn't want to bother going. I think I get the message now.

got-it-spend-it

You've hit the nail on the head there Feelie.

The other day I went to a NCT boobie club, but ended up leaving when Henry was crying because I had promised OH I would get Henry home in time to see hime before he left for work. A woman at boobie club rather snidely made out that I was leaving because I didn't want to feed Henry in public, which wasn't the case but made me feel utterly rubbish. I think we constantly feel that we have to justify ourselves, although I feel that much less on here than in real life!

We each do what we feel is right for us, both as mummies or daddies and as individuals and that's good enough for me.

BeenieCat

Some people are just ignorant feelie, were they already meeting before you joined, maybe they don't like to allow anyone else into their clique in general.

Hope the AD's do some good, i'm useless and never give them the 3 weeks or whatever to start working, and give up cos they didn't work straight away :rolleyes:

pinkpig08

Morning

Ooh GISI I have that book too! Did the shepherds pie the other day from the lamb leftover from Sunday. Was v. nice - however a tad too tomatoey and could have done with tasting a bit more meaty - an extra stock cube next time me thinks!

We are going to the childminders this afternoon - I want Caitlyn to get used to her before she has to go for real

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MM! Enjoy your massage

My fairies have a few sleepsuits 0-3 months that need new homes Oh, and some newborn socks too.

money_maker_3

OK, this is really upsetting me now. I think everyone has got the wrong end of the stick with what the origional post was about. This was my post that MOTM commented on

money_maker wrote: »

I think its harder for men to come to terms with though. Not in a bad way, but mums tend do deal with ''issues'' better than dads. I guess he always just assumes everything would be OK in the end ..

Chris keeps telling me there is nothing wrong with Dylan, he is just a bit slower developing, but I am not so convinced ... he is definately still in the denial stage ..

I personally do not see any part of this that says all men, or having a go at single parents or anything else derogitary to anyone. I was making a comment purely based on the conversation between myself and tia in how our OHs delt with our babies possibly having difficult long term issues

I am not a spiteful person and never post anything that I think will upset someone on purpose. I will not comment on this again, as I dont think I should have to defend a conversation I had.

I am going off line now to enjoy the rest of my birthday as much as I can.

Hope you all have a great day and I may catch up later xx