MSE Parents Club Part 9

My_Fathers_Daughter

SusanC wrote: »

I have that problem - I keep expecting him to be another one of me but he isn't. (Which is actually a good thing as he does lots of good/useful things which I can't/don't/never thought of.)

Susan and SS I was thinking the exact same thing yesterday - DH is not another one of me and I shouldn't expect him to be so. I LIKE the fact that there are certain things that DH doesn't do and that moulds our relationship with our son.

Benjamin is at that stage now where he can choose which parent he prefers for a particular part of his care and I LOVE the fact that when he is really upset and crying he wants me. If DH was another me, Benjamin might choose him instead

3onitsway

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

3, you allow V on the floor?!? :eek:;)

xx

And she's even allowed to suck the dogs ear for a treat occasionally! :rotfl::rotfl:

BeenieCat wrote: »

I was 17 when i had my DS, and a single mother.

You'd be amazed at how people think it's okay to be blatant in their disapproval, and assume you're a chav slapper who will never work and belongs on jeremy kyle.

I was about to say similar. I was older, 29 before I was a single mother of two, but the stigma was still about. People used to looked shocked that I worked rather than hanging around town (after Jeremy Kyle of course!) with my children munching on Greggs sausage rolls and bottles of tea! :rotfl:

When I was at little school, a very, very long time ago, I was the only child in my class who didn't have a dad! (how times change!) My Nan wouldn't let me have free school dinners because that would mean everyone knew my secret! :rotfl:

Things have changed a bit over the years - but not enough!

Without sounding patronising, I do think single dads are viewed in a better light than single mums, iykwim? But probably because it's more acceptable/usual in society for a Dad to !!!!!! off than it is for a Mum.


Also, having a disabled child myself, and in my experience and opinion, I agree with MM. I remember some professional involved in DS's life when he was a toddler telling me the incredibly high statistics of the amount of couples with a disabled child who separate! (Looking on the bright side! :rolleyes: I was still with Ex at this point). And because in most families it is the Mum who does all of the running around with appointments it is usually the Mum who is left with the child.

money_maker wrote: »

I think its harder for men to come to terms with though. Not in a bad way, but mums tend do deal with ''issues'' better than dads. I guess he always just assumes everything would be OK in the end ..

Chris keeps telling me there is nothing wrong with Dylan, he is just a bit slower developing, but I am not so convinced ... he is definately still in the denial stage ..

MM you could be describing my Ex. He wouldn't accept anything was wrong. He had an almighty fall out with his sister when she suggested to him that something might be wrong.
I liked to think everything would be ok - but I was also more prepared in case it wasn't.


Anyway - enough of all this depressing talk. Go and have a lovely day, a relaxing massage, and enough Vodka to numb your bum for later.

aless02

SusanC wrote: »

I have that problem - I keep expecting him to be another one of me but he isn't. (Which is actually a good thing as he does lots of good/useful things which I can't/don't/never thought of.)

Ooo, yes, really struggled with this one yesterday. DH was off and I asked if he could "mind" Finn yesterday (as in, be the one who picks up when he cries, changes him, etc.) to give me a break. I kept getting really grouchy with him because when he does stuff with Finn he's always saying "help help!" and I can go and help him, whereas when I'm home with Finn without him I don't get that luxury IYSWIM? Guess I wanted him to get a taste of what I deal with, which is a wee bit spiteful, but was just frustrating as it defeated the whole purpose of him taking charge. That's just how he is though, and I know I have to genuinely leave the house to get a real 'break' (which I will do next time).

Anyway, he's generally lovely and even when he misses the mark I know 95% of the time he's at least trying.

Glam - sorry Jack was a wakey baby! maybe you guys can get a nap today?

happy a great birthday mm!

Sami_Bee

angela6834 wrote: »

Spag Bol in the slow cooker....I hate spag bol from a jar and much prefer making my own. I think from what i know that this has to be left a few hours for the flavours to taste their best. I brown the mince, then stick everything in the slow cooker. Mine is huge so i can make about 6 batches for 3 of us and then use these for chilli, lasagne etc. It is the best bolognaise ive tasted.

if you do say so yourself Jamie O has a bol recipe that calls for long slow cooking in the oven, BIL made it once and it was lush so that would be good in a SC I assume

on the cup I believe it is important to intruduce the cup by 6mths not for them to actually be able to work it, if she's better with an open cup then why not try her with a doidy cup or that amadeus 360 contraption that I hate but others love or a straw

chopsticks wrote: »

Sami - I know this was aimed at Glam, but what a good idea for freezing the juice. We've been buying the juice and I was at the amount of sugar in it. I've been diluting it loads as Caitlin plain refuses to take water (although I'm still working on it)

I got the idea from Weezl's USDA thread that she told me not to bother reading - silly weezlie aparently you can buy frozen juice concentrate in the US.

we strted to tackle Christopher's apaulingly late bed time this weekend and last night got him settled at a decent hour so he dragged me out of bed at 8:30 this morning - god I'm sleepy!! doesn't help that Edgar wakes me a million times a night at the mo too, woe is me

Glamazon

aless - he went back to sleep from 8am til 10.30am so I went with him!

lots to do today so no chance of anymore rest!

My_Fathers_Daughter

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Anybody fancy helping me (with a completely parenting related question obv )

I am trying to find a brief summary of the environmental advantages of having a mains plumbed water cooler as opposed to a water cooler with bottles and it is driving me mad!!!!

mookiandco

SM - are you about?

Weirdo question alert. What's Jayden's hair like? Only, Leila's hair has really started to grow and she is getting little curls which are like tiny springs sticking out of her head which are tangling. Just wondered if Jayden's is more like yours or Phillips or somewhere in between.

Sami_Bee

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

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Anybody fancy helping me (with a completely parenting related question obv )

I am trying to find a brief summary of the environmental advantages of having a mains plumbed water cooler as opposed to a water cooler with bottles and it is driving me mad!!!!

is it not on the sales garb for the plumbed in ones?
off hand you reduce emmisions from transporting it, from making/cleaning/refilling the bottles
HS reasons are good too, hefty weight those bottles plus have you ever had a bottle grow green slime in it _pale_

angela6834

Sami_Bee wrote: »

if you do say so yourself Jamie O has a bol recipe that calls for long slow cooking in the oven, BIL made it once and it was lush so that would be good in a SC I assume

on the cup I believe it is important to intruduce the cup by 6mths not for them to actually be able to work it, if she's better with an open cup then why not try her with a doidy cup or that amadeus 360 contraption that I hate but others love or a straw

Sami to be honest i think all bolognaise are supposed to be slow cooked ( not necessarily in a slow cooker ). I just think given the jars available its changed the way we cook it. Even on a hob i think they are supposed to simmer for at least a few hours. I throw everything in mine. And sometimes that may change slightly given what i have in but its always lovely ( well as sami says, I think so. Not tasted any nicer )

I'll google the cups you mention as ive never heard of them and take a look. I'll leave the straw suggestion, tho i did see you talking about it the other day, but i had a bad experience with one ending up DS nose once when he was a baby!!

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sami_Bee wrote: »

is it not on the sales garb for the plumbed in ones?
off hand you reduce emmisions from transporting it, from making/cleaning/refilling the bottles
HS reasons are good too, hefty weight those bottles plus have you ever had a bottle grow green slime in it _pale_

I just need some fancy words to convince the client that we have considered it seriously!! We just kind of went..'well no bottles has gotta be better, no deliveries, no bottle changing, cheaper, gotta be a goer' :rotfl:

Never seen a bottle with green slime!!