MSE Parents Club Part 9

ManOnTheMoon

3onitsway wrote: »

MOTM Don't leave us - you give good advice especially to those of us with girls coming up to the teenage years.

No, I don't The only good about me is that I love my girls and I try. I'm not very good at all. Maybe lucky.

harley1 wrote: »

And MOTM, please don't leave. I have had hideous experience of men, except my dad (and bruv) who is wonderful. But reading your posts reminds me that my experience is down to my lack of good judgement of character rather than 'all men are barstools', which I will admit comes out of my mouth every so often but it is men like you who remind me that I'm wrong. And that one day, when and if I choose to look, I might meet someone like you and be happy to share mine and Kezias life with them. Any of the ones I've dated so far wouldn't even be fit to be in her company, but again that's because of my lack of good taste and not that all men are the same.

Your first line sums it up perfectly, as I, and most importantly, my girls, have had hideous experiences of women.

I think last nights posts, which I feel were originally taken the wrong way (maybe I should have used 26 :rotfl: :T:money::j) will have changed opinion, but who cares

I hope you meet someone fantastic as there are some decent chaps out there. It's a minefield for men and women, trying to find someone decent.

SusanC wrote: »

I was going to write my own comment but Millie's Mum has said it so much better than I would have. (Although I do have some experience of disabilities through my brother and through past work but that is completely different to being the parent of a child with a disability.)

I have to confess that often I don't like the criticism/generalisations made about men but I know that a lot of people don't have husbands who contribute to child rearing as much as mine does so I just refrain from commenting and remind myself that other people are all in different situations.


Without wishing to sound critical of anyone who took it another way, I think that is the right way to take it.

Whilst I have no real experience of disability (depends what you call autism - brothers child) the closest I have come is twins being born 3 weeks early and very worried they wouldn't survive. Overworried in my case, when maybe their was less cause to be. I can only stand and admire Tigerstoonie and her little one.

Bruno probably has taken it the right way (thanks for making me look worse Bruno) maybe i'm just used to the single dad bolliocks and i'm ready for the fight before it's begun

SeptemberBaby_2

3, you allow V on the floor?!? :eek:;)

xx

ManOnTheMoon

SugarSpun wrote: »

MOTM I didn't know the disciplinary was on Friday - I was wondering when it would be. And please don't feel you can't talk about things because your girls are older - what happened to them and how are they now?

Edit: this is just a whinge because I want to have one - it is BALTIC in my office. I don't see anyone else dressed like an Eskimo for work so !!!!!!?!

Hi SS.

It's fine. I didn't expect anyone to reply to anything I said, nobody knows my clan. I'll leave it for now as i'm not typing myself very well at the moment and have other worries I need to deal with, so won't upset anyone

Is it cold where you are then? I feel quite warm in Devon today.

got-it-spend-it

Just to add to the pro-men side of things, I think my OH has taken to this parenting lark far better than I have. He is devoted to Henry, so supportive of me, even when I am totally neurotic and unreasonable and I know we really complement each other. I couldn't have got through the pregnancy or the early days of Henry's life without him. Plus he let me have a lie in today . having said all that I am just as likely as anyone else to come on and moan about useless OHs when I'm having a bad day!

On the other hand, my Dad is a complete emotional cripple and utterly uncommunicative so I can see both sides of it. I really, really hope that Henry will take after OH not the men in my family.

MOTM- I'm sorry no-one remembered to ask about the disciplinary. To be honest I struggle to remember everything I am supposed to do in my life, let alone everything in everyone elses so I need people come on and report back. I am very interested in these things that are important to everyone on here, I just don't have the mental capacity to remember them all! Be grateful that males avoid the dreaded baby brain....it is a dreadful thing to those it afflicts.

Feelie- fairies have been with the Lilypadz so thank you, thank you, thank you. I am so chuffed with them.

I've also got my Economy Gastronomy cookbook that I ordered from Amazon so I am mucho excited about that.

Happy Birthday MM! I really hope your OH is well enough for you to go for your massage. Is it just Dylan he has to look after or will Jas be home too?

feelinggood_2

GISI, I'm glad they arrived. I hope you can figure out how to use them! I think they are a great idea and hope they suit you.

SugarSpun

GISI I felt much the same way about Husband - for the first weeks he was wonderful. Unfortunately, the month that he was in hospital coincided with the month that Molly started needing more time and attention, and he still hasn't caught up with the idea that you really need to be entertaining her or she'll start yelling, and that she no longer needs 3-4 2 hour naps between 8am and 10pm. So I do get frustrated with him, but I know he's trying and that it's simply that his way of trying is not the same as mine.

If he was dodging responsibilities the way some parents do he'd be wearing his entrails as a collar.

Edit: I'm going home. Booger this, I'm FREEZING.

BeenieCat

I was 17 when i had my DS, and a single mother.

You'd be amazed at how people think it's okay to be blatant in their disapproval, and assume you're a chav slapper who will never work and belongs on jeremy kyle.

I used to thrive on proving them wrong, so i quite liked it that there was these sweeping generalisations about teenage mothers - instead of being upset that people assumed that way, i loved that i was better than expected. One old granny in town when i had my work suit on, commented on why my mother left me babysitting when i'd been to work all day :rolleyes: I thought - wut? Do i look 12? lol

got-it-spend-it

I will let you know (if that's not too weird) :rotfl:.

feelinggood_2

I think almost every feels judged. I know I've felt judged in real life and online for having a baby despite my Mental Health Problems. Very few people fit the 'ideal' and I think everyone feels looked down upon for some reason - wether it be working, not working, single, too many kids, spoilt only child, illness, bottlefeeding, late weaning, CIO, co-sleeping etc.

feelinggood_2

Today I started taking antidepressants This is the 12th time I've been on antidepressants, and the 7th type. I'm not overly hopeful!

I'm waiting for a call from the PALS guy, should be some time today. Care-Coordinator said she'd ring this week but I don't know when it'll be. HV said she'd be in touch too. Nanny starts on Wednesday (finally not snowed in).

Not had any contact with NCT Ladies this year. Last invite was a generic one to the 'Works Do' and I then got a text saying I probably didn't want to bother going. I think I get the message now.