MSE Parents Club Part 9

got-it-spend-it

You've hit the nail on the head there Feelie.

The other day I went to a NCT boobie club, but ended up leaving when Henry was crying because I had promised OH I would get Henry home in time to see hime before he left for work. A woman at boobie club rather snidely made out that I was leaving because I didn't want to feed Henry in public, which wasn't the case but made me feel utterly rubbish. I think we constantly feel that we have to justify ourselves, although I feel that much less on here than in real life!

We each do what we feel is right for us, both as mummies or daddies and as individuals and that's good enough for me.

BeenieCat

Some people are just ignorant feelie, were they already meeting before you joined, maybe they don't like to allow anyone else into their clique in general.

Hope the AD's do some good, i'm useless and never give them the 3 weeks or whatever to start working, and give up cos they didn't work straight away :rolleyes:

pinkpig08

Morning

Ooh GISI I have that book too! Did the shepherds pie the other day from the lamb leftover from Sunday. Was v. nice - however a tad too tomatoey and could have done with tasting a bit more meaty - an extra stock cube next time me thinks!

We are going to the childminders this afternoon - I want Caitlyn to get used to her before she has to go for real

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MM! Enjoy your massage

My fairies have a few sleepsuits 0-3 months that need new homes Oh, and some newborn socks too.

money_maker_3

OK, this is really upsetting me now. I think everyone has got the wrong end of the stick with what the origional post was about. This was my post that MOTM commented on

money_maker wrote: »

I think its harder for men to come to terms with though. Not in a bad way, but mums tend do deal with ''issues'' better than dads. I guess he always just assumes everything would be OK in the end ..

Chris keeps telling me there is nothing wrong with Dylan, he is just a bit slower developing, but I am not so convinced ... he is definately still in the denial stage ..

I personally do not see any part of this that says all men, or having a go at single parents or anything else derogitary to anyone. I was making a comment purely based on the conversation between myself and tia in how our OHs delt with our babies possibly having difficult long term issues

I am not a spiteful person and never post anything that I think will upset someone on purpose. I will not comment on this again, as I dont think I should have to defend a conversation I had.

I am going off line now to enjoy the rest of my birthday as much as I can.

Hope you all have a great day and I may catch up later xx

ManOnTheMoon

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

Just to add to the pro-men side of things, I think my OH has taken to this parenting lark far better than I have. He is devoted to Henry, so supportive of me, even when I am totally neurotic and unreasonable and I know we really complement each other. I couldn't have got through the pregnancy or the early days of Henry's life without him. Plus he let me have a lie in today . having said all that I am just as likely as anyone else to come on and moan about useless OHs when I'm having a bad day!

On the other hand, my Dad is a complete emotional cripple and utterly uncommunicative so I can see both sides of it. I really, really hope that Henry will take after OH not the men in my family.

MOTM- I'm sorry no-one remembered to ask about the disciplinary. To be honest I struggle to remember everything I am supposed to do in my life, let alone everything in everyone elses so I need people come on and report back. I am very interested in these things that are important to everyone on here, I just don't have the mental capacity to remember them all! Be grateful that males avoid the dreaded baby brain....it is a dreadful thing to those it afflicts.

I think i'm the opposite. I'd never bad mouth my partner, even on a bad day and even if I did for some strange reason, i'd feel the need to apologise to her, on here, where she never comes :rotfl:

Don't be sorry, I never expected a reply. I miss so much myself and know how fast the thread moves and that my life is full and busy. I was basically saying, I just didn't feel up to posting about it. The week i've had, if I had posted and it was ignored, possibly wouldn't make me feel any better I have no right to expect anyone to be interested, and I don't.

Trust me, I have a brain that saps all the time

BeenieCat wrote: »

I was 17 when i had my DS, and a single mother.

You'd be amazed at how people think it's okay to be blatant in their disapproval, and assume you're a chav slapper who will never work and belongs on jeremy kyle.

I used to thrive on proving them wrong, so i quite liked it that there was these sweeping generalisations about teenage mothers - instead of being upset that people assumed that way, i loved that i was better than expected. One old granny in town when i had my work suit on, commented on why my mother left me babysitting when i'd been to work all day :rolleyes: I thought - wut? Do i look 12? lol

Well, it's an admirable stance and I do thrive on being good at what I do when under fire from folk in real life.

Just to add to my bad week, I think i'm having a crisis with my own emotions :rolleyes:

feelinggood wrote: »

I think almost every feels judged. I know I've felt judged in real life and online for having a baby despite my Mental Health Problems. Very few people fit the 'ideal' and I think everyone feels looked down upon for some reason - wether it be working, not working, single, too many kids, spoilt only child, illness, bottlefeeding, late weaning, CIO, co-sleeping etc.

Well, it's clear to all of us here that you are a good mother. Plenty of mothers who don't get labelled with 'mental health' could take note from you and the way you parent your boy in such a good way.

SusanC_2

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Bruno probably has taken it the right way (thanks for making me look worse Bruno) maybe i'm just used to the single dad bolliocks and i'm ready for the fight before it's begun

I can understand given your situation why you might be more sensitive - everyone has their hotbutton topics. (Or at least I do and I'm sure a lot of people do.)

SugarSpun wrote: »

So I do get frustrated with him, but I know he's trying and that it's simply that his way of trying is not the same as mine.

I have that problem - I keep expecting him to be another one of me but he isn't. (Which is actually a good thing as he does lots of good/useful things which I can't/don't/never thought of.)

ManOnTheMoon

money_maker wrote: »

OK, this is really upsetting me now. I think everyone has got the wrong end of the stick

No need to be upset. Healthy debate and all that. After all it's me against you lot.

I wish I hadn't commented now. I didn't even comment aggressively, just pointing out that we aren't all the same. I didn't realise I was not allowed a voice, but if I do comment in future, rest assured it's not aggressive.

Enjoy the rest of your Birthday.

ManOnTheMoon

SusanC wrote: »

I can understand given your situation why you might be more sensitive - everyone has their hotbutton topics. (Or at least I do and I'm sure a lot of people do.)

Thank you for understanding.

Anyway, I wouldn't be brave enough to say 'most women'. Not with you lot

feelinggood_2

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

After all it's me against you lot.

I really don't think I should reply to this. Hopefully another one of 'us' can reply in a more calm and constructive manner.

Glamazon

morning

MOTM - Thanks for your PM, I'm glad it worked out OK but am sorry 2 of your girls are ill. Please don't stop posting, I enjoy reading what you are all up to

mookie - things have got rather heated lately, hope things die down now so you post more!

fed Jack at 10pm, he woke @ 2.30am, don't know why so came in our bed, he then woke @ 5am & 6.30am but not for food he took 2ozs @ 8am and then slept til 10.30am! Does that count as going roughly 12hours???? Might tank him up this afternoon so tht he has a bottle around 8.30pm and see how long it lasts him.

right busy day of cooking ahead, haved written a list of jobs for the week so will do while mince is cooking.