MSE Parents Club Part 9

Fitzio

GISI – if you did 3 days per week, would they not want to fill the other 2 days with someone else on a kind of job share basis or would they be happy just to have the post filled part time? Can you fit childcare around your DHs changing shifts? Would your work let you work different days each week if they are not filling the other part of your job? I am probably going back around June/July which is 9 months + annual leave. Would like to take a year though!

Csh - I don’t feel I can rely on my mum for childcare even though she stays nearer than MIL. We don’t always get on particularly well, and I would not trust her to do what I want for H. She thinks she knows better and acts like I know nothing about anything. She has no attention span so can’t even concentrate when I am telling her anything (which I suspect is a sign of depression but nothing I can do about it). But yes, she would be insulted if I had MIL looking after H and not her (even though she has said she would not and I should give up work like a good mother would!).

Right, I am going back to bed with Holly for a nap which I never do. In fact, I will lie there awake for a wee while and then probably just go for a shower. Either way, I am going to relax a bit. Then make a pot of chilli or Bolognese (undecided). This afternoon it’s weigh in at Baby Clinic and then visiting a friend.

God that was longer than planned.

Catch you all later. x

3onitsway

redmel1621 wrote: »

3 - Is he nervous about tonight, I bet you will both have a great time. Yeah I though january was a funny time to do an outside walk, but our school does so many trips that I suppose they run out of days in the summer!

He's probably pooping his pants, but he won't show it. He's a big brave boy.
I can't wait to see him - i'm really missing him. Although having the big bed all to myself is very nice.

weezl74

oh and health visitors, I've never felt a need of one either. If Fergus is unwell, I would go to a GP, if he isn't then I'd seek advice from here/google/mum friends.

I have never understood their role or profession and find it hard to ask without sounding rude!

Searchie I agree with Fitz that you are lovely and deserve lots of nice RL friends I hope 2010 brings you some more. xxx

searching_me

weezl74 wrote: »

Searchie I agree with Fitz that you are lovely and deserve lots of nice RL friends I hope 2010 brings you some more. xxx

awww thank you xxx

Fitzio

Health visitors - surely they are important and whilst most of us would have no need for them, some people do.

When you look at cases of child abuse and neglect, I can see why there is a need for HVs to see people at home. Some poor little baby somewhere may be being abused and his mother is saying she doesn't need a visit from HV. Should they just take her word for it, and then nothing is done?

I know HVs take a bashing on here, but they are trying to help, and whether you take their advice is up to you, but I can see completely see the relevance and why they come out to visit people. If they only did it on request, I am sure the people who are neglecting their children would not be the ones requesting it.

Going now!! God, I can't tear myself away sometimes....

emlou2009

angela6834 wrote: »

Not sure how to re size them so hope they are not too big

She is gorgeous, I love her eyes!

redmel1621 wrote: »

Kai about 1 month ago

Kai last week

My two older boys

I hope they have worked ok!

Mel x

Wow Mel, Kai looks so much older than Seth, I think its the hair? He looks like a cheeky imp too They all look so alike!

Fitzio wrote: »

How skinny is Camilla Dallerup? I think her legs would snap like a twig if you kicked her.

It sounds like you want to :rotfl: I will if you dont!

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Sainsburys clothes are an ace fit for Benjamin...although he is now too long for the 9-12 month sleepsuits but not long enough for the 12-18 month ones :rolleyes: they kind of trail along the floor as he is crawling and then he can't stand up because his feet are stuck up in the crotch!!

:rotfl: Seth does this too, and sometimes his feet escape through the poppers and the babygrow legs flap around while he's madly crawling, it looks like he has 4 legs :rotfl:

csh wrote: »

If they get arsey with that they can run up ma ribs and pay me off.

:rotfl::eek: YOU SAID !!!!! Why are you special enough to say it when we arent? Hmm??

SusanC wrote: »

Ours was called "8-12 month check" and was at nine months. We were just asked if she babbled, had pincer grip, ate well and slept well. She said was meant to check sitting but Alice was walking round on the chairs in the waiting room so she didn't need to. Alice was weighed and measured too but only because we'd never been to have her weighed at the baby clinic.

Actually, that reminds me: I had a phonecall yesterday from a HV who wanted to do a home visit because we've moved house. She was very persistant and said she needed to come so I could sign an immunisation consent form because otherwise we wouldn't be sent appointments as we are in a different area. I told her that I had no problems and never had and didn't see any need to see her. Eventually she agreed not to come when I said she could post me the form and I'd send it back. She asked me if I'd had problems with my previous HV as apparently she doesn't think that having no need to see a HV is a valid/genuine reason not to want to see one. Am I the only person who has never had any need to see the HV? I wouldn't have expected it to be that unusual.

I asked our HV and she said ours should be done on LO's first birthday I said I would have better things to do on his birthday than have him have a check up and she looked at me like I was evil!
I think they are so used to people bending over backwards for them cos they dont really understand what they do, that when someone does they are really quite shocked! When mine came round after we took Seth to A&E, she told me on the phone that she was going to have to come round and check us out and if we didnt let her in she would raise the case with social services as there was clearly a problem! I made it clear that I didnt need the help and she couldnt understand why I was so "anti-her" as she put it, so I told her I know what a HV job role is and it isnt to threaten us with social services because my son fell off a bed. Havent heard from her since!

feelinggood_2

I feel I have a 'need' for a HV but so far not really received any help. Still feel a bit abandoned, after my email asking about giving LO up for adoption, they didn't ever offer to come and see me.

csh_2

Fitzio wrote: »

Health visitors - surely they are important and whilst most of us would have no need for them, some people do.

When you look at cases of child abuse and neglect, I can see why there is a need for HVs to see people at home. Some poor little baby somewhere may be being abused and his mother is saying she doesn't need a visit from HV. Should they just take her word for it, and then nothing is done?

I know HVs take a bashing on here, but they are trying to help, and whether you take their advice is up to you, but I can see completely see the relevance and why they come out to visit people. If they only did it on request, I am sure the people who are neglecting their children would not be the ones requesting it.

Going now!! God, I can't tear myself away sometimes....

I completly agree with this plus HV's are very useful for any non urgent health advise like sticky eye and things like that. The GP system would buckle under the pressure if you took your baby to them everytime you needed a wee bit of advice.

csh_2

emlou2009 wrote: »

:rotfl::eek: YOU SAID !!!!! Why are you special enough to say it when we arent? Hmm??

No idea :cool:

weezl74

Fitzio wrote: »

Health visitors - surely they are important and whilst most of us would have no need for them, some people do.

When you look at cases of child abuse and neglect, I can see why there is a need for HVs to see people at home. Some poor little baby somewhere may be being abused and his mother is saying she doesn't need a visit from HV. Should they just take her word for it, and then nothing is done?

I know HVs take a bashing on here, but they are trying to help, and whether you take their advice is up to you, but I can see completely see the relevance and why they come out to visit people. If they only did it on request, I am sure the people who are neglecting their children would not be the ones requesting it.

Going now!! God, I can't tear myself away sometimes....

Fitz, I think this is a fair point and that is a good reason to visit a home. Also sorry if I have bashed the role. I didn't mean to, I'm just baffled by it.

If it is for those reasons though, then I struggle with the lack of transparency. Questioning someone about a potential crime they have committed is done in the UK with the person's explicit consent.

I just struggle a bit that in this situation it is done in a 'just a friendly visit' way.

Our only example is that just before one visit we were taking a cast of fergie's foot for those little baby feet models you can make? so we'd finished but he had 2 little splashes of white stuff on his legs that we hadn't peeled off yet.

We stripped him off to be weighed, and the HV sees these and exclaims 'have you painted him with tippex?!':rolleyes:

so I just sometimes think their agenda is a bit hidden, in a way I'm not comfortable with.

But maybe that's just me....