MSE Parents Club Part 9

searching_me

right philips sparked so im dragging him to bed ... night night x

elle_gee

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Elle do you really think OH wouldn't agree?
I thought OH would say his mum but he actually agreed with me. (is it bad that I pray that nothing ever happens to just me? OH would run staight to his mummy and much as I like her I do NOT want her being a big influence on how my boys turn out )

I think he'd logically want to agree with me, but emotionally doesn't want to admit it :cool:

FIL is in bad health and in no state to cope with the responsibility of a small child; MIL smokes like a chimney and, well, you all know what I think of her efforts towards Rhys; SIL/BIL are very career focussed and when not at work have their own time consuming hobbies which they would never give up... added to all that, none of them have the slightest clue about Rhys' medical history, the medication he's on, appointments he has and people he sees. Not through us hiding it from them, we've always been open but it seems to go in one ear and out the other, if they even bother looking interested in the first place!

Whereas my mum would (and does!) do anything for Rhys, we're always talking/txting/on MSN all day so she knows exactly how he is (it's only that I know she's already gone to bed that's stopping her know about the stinky nappy we just had! ); I know my dad has the income to support Rhys (ILs don't); and with my sis and SIL, I know sis would keep working because she earns the most (well, almost everything) and SIL would give up work, dedicate her time to Rhys and be very good with him (even though she wouldn't like to admit it )..

Do I sound convincing enough yet? :cool:

ETA: Even though we've said we don't want to get Rhys Christened, I know OH would like a certain few of his friends to be Godparent-like / to have influence on Rhys' life and I'm more than happy with that. Much prefer his friends to his family!

Sami_Bee

sounds perfect Elle I was all ready to big up my sis to OH about it but he just said yea she'd be the best :T right just been solving a murder on csi on the wii but best get to bed! x

Buttonmoons

If we popped out clogs then I'd want Keira to go to OH's parents. They'd bring her up differently and even though they are older than my folks they are the more decent bunch! My mum would be letting Keira get up to all sorts, probably smacking her and telling her she is "stupid, a bleeper, useless, thick" well my mum and my stepdad talk like that and totally don't see an issue with it!

OH's parents would at least take Keira on educational trips and not just to the local boozer. As much as I love my mum for all her many faults, she is a totally CRAP parent. She never read a story to me once, not once!

Krystaltips

Ugh... Any time before 7am is sleeping time... Why doesn't my small child understand that?!

Krystaltips

If anything happened to hubby and I then my Aunt will have the children... She already knows that she's to get her hands on them as soon as possible lol... Much as my Mum supports us, she does it as and when she sees fit... Plus her and her husband smoke like chimneys and operate a 'It's my house, I'll smoke in here if I wish' policy regardless of my small persons lungs... (plus I had a semi-rotten childhood and I wouldn't want that for my children!)

I'm with you on the whole hope nothing happens to me first too Sami... I worry that hubby would run off home to Liverpool with the children and the people that do the most for us wouldn't get a look in... I know the In Laws are OK... But they're not really that supportive... And they're not the kind of people that do things (we took them to the park once for a picnic and a play... They had the picnic then went and sat in the car while the children played ) and they came round here yesterday and SMIL was downright ignorant, she barely said 3 words all day and wouldn't have any of the buffet that Hubby was very proud of... And also... The only member of Hubby's family that bought the girls a christmas present.. Bought Caitlyn a packet of wipes.... :rolleyes: Not even decent wipes... Cheap wipes.... It's all very bizarre....

Anyway... My baby's getting miserable so I'm going to try her back in bed... Just in time for hubby to get up for work...

feelinggood_2

LO is poorly for the first time. Will call GP at 8.30. It is horrible watching him suffer.

BrunoM

Aww Feely did you get an appointment ok? What seems to be wrong with Toby?

BrunoM

Oops sorry to have killed the thread! Off to Hampton Court Palace now, hope Toby and other sickly babies improve in my absence!

feelinggood_2

Got an appointment at 11. I've got to walk there, what should I dress him in on the way? He has a high temperature and has just been in a nappy all night.