Rant about unsuitable xmas gifts

seven-day-weekend

jamespir wrote: »

you really have no life if you feel the need to unwrap your daughters presents and then rewrap them cause you might not like whats inside your not thinking about your daughter your thinking about yourself

at the end of the day the daughters freinds have brought her a present and you say thank you and leave it at that if you dont you risk alienating your daughter and her freinds

Parents are responsible for their childrens' upbringing and this means instilling moral and ethical values as well as just filling their stomachs with food.

So you alienate their friends? Big deal. It shouldn't alienate your children if you handle it properly.

You'd let your child of ten have an 18-rated dvd or video game would you? I don't think so. If you would, then I despair.

ManOnTheMoon

jamespir wrote: »

you really have no life if you feel the need to unwrap your daughters presents and then rewrap them cause you might not like whats inside your not thinking about your daughter your thinking about yourself

at the end of the day the daughters freinds have brought her a present and you say thank you and leave it at that if you dont you risk alienating your daughter and her freinds

I think every situation is different. If aliasojo has reasons for concern, then as far as i'm concerned, it's a good enough reason. She is doing it for her daughter, not stopping her daughter. Her daughter needs to be a child.

The FCUK post by aliasojo earlier should point out why children should not have this material. Their are enough adults, mainly male, but not limited too, out there who will see it as a come on and think the child is older than they are. This is just a sad state of society.

As I also earlier posted, my Brother gives his boys toy guns. If I felt he was giving toy guns to my girls, I would feel the right to open it first. I don't, because my girls know my feelings around some things and would hand them straight to me and I would replace their present, but also my Brother would not do that as he know he'd incur my wrath, and he also knows it's not worth his effort. They are children and it's a parents responsibility to bring them up the way they see fit. My Brother gives his boys guns and the like. They are little sods and will be trouble when they grow up, because they are never told no. Just another problem for society.

cyberbob

jamespir wrote: »

you really have no life if you feel the need to unwrap your daughters presents and then rewrap them cause you might not like whats inside your not thinking about your daughter your thinking about yourself

at the end of the day the daughters freinds have brought her a present and you say thank you and leave it at that if you dont you risk alienating your daughter and her freinds

So to put it to an extreme if they gave her drugs you say thankyou and let your child have it because its a gift from her friends and you don't want to upset them

jamespir

daska wrote: »

you are so wrong I can't even work out where to begin...

I've been in the position of my children being given totally inappropriate gifts - should I have let a 10yr old out wearing a thong, hot pants and a boob tube just because another parent doesn't mind her child looking like a tart?

no of course not but if the op lies and decieves her daughter like some have suggested the freinds will find out and that will cause trouble

shes already decieved her daught by opening the presents in the first place

all she had to do when the ops daughter opened the present is say there nice but you can have them when i feel your older

jamespir

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Parents are responsible for their childrens' upbringing and this means instilling moral and ethical values as well as just filling their stomachs with food.

So you alienate their friends? Big deal. It shouldn't alienate your children if you handle it properly.

You'd let your child of ten have an 18-rated dvd or video game would you? I don't think so. If you would, then I despair.

i18 rated dvd =no 18 rated game id let them play it with my supervision and explain that its only a game and not a basis on real life


but if you lie to her (and you already have ) she's bound to find out

would you be happy if she went through your presents no you'd be pretty cheesed off

jamespir

aliasojo wrote: »

James you clearly have no clue about parenting so perhaps it would be best to stick to subjects you have knowledge of.

I feel your comments are less than helpful to the discussion. You've made them personal and are designed to denigrate my choices and me as a person rather than the situation.

you've edited your post is see i have kids and i know about parenting and if you dont like ,my comments tough


ive not made them personal ive simply pointed out youve deceived your daughter by going through her presents thats wrong

jamespir

cyberbob wrote: »

So to put it to an extreme if they gave her drugs you say thankyou and let your child have it because its a gift from her friends and you don't want to upset them

i didnt sya give them to her i just said that she should at least let her see the presents and then both decide what to do with them

tiff

I agree with Jamespir's point in that I dont think it was right to open the present before Christmas and to deal with it at a later time but its Aliasojo's daughter and her right to do what she feels best.

I certainly agree the type of things being talked about are not suitable for a 10 year old.

ManOnTheMoon

jamespir wrote: »

would you be happy if she went through your presents no you'd be pretty cheesed off

I'd actually laugh.

I'd just hope nobody bought me that R18 DVD from the sex shop I had my eyes on

No harm done, OP just wanted to do best by her daughter. Regardless if people think it's right or wrong, nobody can accuse the OP of not having daughters best interests at heart.

Zazen999

jamespir wrote: »

you've edited your post is see i have kids and i know about parenting and if you dont like ,my comments tough


ive not made them personal ive simply pointed out youve deceived your daughter by going through her presents thats wrong

No she hasn't, she has taken the role of responsible parent. If only more parents cared about what was going on with their kids, then the world would be a better place.