Rant about unsuitable xmas gifts

red_devil

aliasojo wrote: »

This other girl in question has her own copy of this.

My son has this too but my daughter is not allowed in his room when he's playing it.

Each to their own.

I dont think that games even suitable for your son i have to quetion why anyone needs to play that? Good for the mind i dont think so!

I hate clothing with swear words on too. I took an item back once to a shop son had bought without me!

If no-one bought them they wouldnt stock them!

aliasojo

red_devil wrote: »

I dont think that games even suitable for your son i have to quetion why anyone needs to play that? Good for the mind i dont think so!

Personally I agree with you, I think this type of game is awful. However my son is a working adult, so is responsible for his own morality now.

misty_blue_2

my kids are older now, BUT if it were me i would let daughter open present, see what she thought of it (whether it is appropriate for their age") and then sugest it was put away for a while until she was old enough to use "whatever it is"
This way there are no tears and tantrums or any bad feeling towards you, if you just say its not appropriate and take it away .
For all you know she might find it revolting

skipsmum

Ive only got boys so dont have this problem.
But when they were smaller I wouldnt buy them guns as I felt they are inappropriate (army relatives). When other people bought them guns for their birthdays I would give them back saying as xx had died from gunshot I didn't feel it was appropriate.
I would never sneak around and replace things though, I think its important to have trust.
Little DS is now 9, and has refused to play with guns for a few years now so something must have rubbed off on him!

Ada_Doom

jennihen wrote: »

I'm glad I'm not the only 'strict' parent on here. I can't abide the bunny brand or Fcuk and refuse to buy it. I've always explained why I feel its inappropriate and thankfully we've had no major issues. I've learnt to compromise a bit especially as they have thier own money. (girls are nearly15 and 11.5)
I'm not a fan of body piercing or tattoos either so the rule on that is 'when you can afford your own rent you can do it if you still want to but as long as I'm putting the roof over your heads you have to respect my rules'. Its working so far!!??!!

So while they are not able to support themselves you have control over what they do to thier bodies/ how they express themselves?

Totally agree with the Playboy thing, but then I hate the fact that there is so much "pink" stuff for girls. I think it offers them a really narrow view of the world and of themselves

flippin36

aliasojo wrote: »

This other girl in question has her own copy of this.

My son has this too but my daughter is not allowed in his room when he's playing it.

Each to their own.

I overheard boys in the (primary school) playground discussing how to play this game :eek:.

thatgirlsam

not sure what i would do ... i have a 10 year old dd who is still a little girl thank god, wears her hair in plaits and happy in jeans / tees

BUT i rememeber that my mum banned grange hill when i was about 10 , she thought it a bad influence .. and i used to blag it round my mates to watch it cos i thought it must be something really interesting

depends if the present is aimed towards adults or children ...

tricky

thatgirlsam

Ada_Doom wrote: »

So while they are not able to support themselves you have control over what they do to thier bodies/ how they express themselves?

Totally agree with the Playboy thing, but then I hate the fact that there is so much "pink" stuff for girls. I think it offers them a really narrow view of the world and of themselves

when my friends dd got into the pink and playboy style she showed her the video by pink ( ironically ) of 'stupid girls'

very good and i will show it to my dd if she shows an interest in becoming a bimbo

ManOnTheMoon

With regards to kids 'dolls', i've never banned them from any, and if they ask about 'bits', I have explained to them, if I feel they understand. They learn about things from a young age and I feel it better if they hear it from someone who is with them more than anyone else and have trust in. It's done no harm so far, they are turning into fine young girls, if I may be so humble to take any of the credit.

They've learnt far worse in the playground. Some of the things they say some of the kids say :eek:

With regards to guns, my nephew was telling one of my girls about his new school teacher and she asked if he liked him and he responded 'no, i'm going to shoot him and kill him' - He's 7! My girl didn't know what to say and looked at me horrified.

lisadupreez

mrcow wrote: »

In terms of being given something unsuitable, did once get a size 22 top of my MIL (I had just had my first baby and was sized 14 at the time). I was really insulted and registered my disgust at the time (but that's because I thought she needed telling as it was a really rude present and she knew it).

Welcome to MY MUM. She is forever commenting that I'm large and how about this top (size 22). I keep telling her I'm only a 16 - and when i had a baby recently I only put on 5kgs, which were lost the instant baby was born (woo hoo).

Why do they do it???