Rant about unsuitable xmas gifts

claire1234

if you feel strongly about this then stick to your guns & when the kids are at school go round to the friends house to give the item back to the mum explaining how you feel,
if its something your not sure let your daughter have it to make her own mind up.

when my i first met my OH my step-daughter was only 8, she looked up to me in a big way - thought it was sooo cool going out shopping with me n for a nice meal, she would go in my room n try on my clothing (like a skirt n put a belt tight round to make it look like it fits her) n explore with make-up, at that age there only having fun but like others say certain things are for "in-doors only", the only things i could encourage her was not to wear make-up that was cheap n to always clean it off and now she`s 15 and can come to me to talk about anything,
maybe if you were to let her have the pressie she would make her own mind up

cant we have a clue to what it is?!?


Edit to say:
when my stepkids wanted msn/facebook at a young age, i thought it wasnt appropriate so i stuck to my guns and said no, i know different situation but she`s your daughter and at the end of the day up to you, i always say "my house = my rules"!

flower24

aliasojo wrote: »

With respect, If I haven't put it on the thread, I'm hardly likely to pm someone I don't know and let them know. :rotfl:Anyway, like I said, situation matters more than item.

I was joking.....hence the :rotfl:faces

aliasojo

immynjoesmum wrote: »

I was joking.....hence the :rotfl:faces

Ah, I see.

Ok...I believe you. No, really I do. :rotfl:









(;) Just having a laugh.)

mrcow

I'm feeling really bad now.

I've bought my daughter (4) a Bratz doll and a make-up case for Christmas. I thought she'd really like the doll as it has long blond hair and shiny trousers (she wanted a disco doll). It never occcured to me for one second that someone would think it "sexualised". My daughters have loads of Barbies (and a few Disney Princess and Bratz dolls) - I wouldn't consider them any better or worse than Bratz dolls personally and certainly don't think that they are implying anything inappropriate to my kids.

cloverfan

may i ask? did i read it right that perhaps other girls in your DD class might also recieve such gifts?? have u thought to discuss with other classmates parents??

flower24

mrcow wrote: »

I'm feeling really bad now.

I've bought my daughter (4) a Bratz doll and a make-up case for Christmas. I thought she'd really like the doll as it has long blond hair and shiny trousers (she wanted a disco doll). It never occcured to me for one second that someone would think it "sexualised". My daughters have loads of Barbies (and a few Disney Princess and Bratz dolls) - I wouldn't consider them any better or worse than Bratz dolls personally and certainly don't think that they are implying anything inappropriate to my kids.

don't feel bad, my dd (3) was given some bratz dolls a few weeks ago, they are the ones with the clip on clothes and they are brill for her because she can change their outfits, whereas she gets mad with her barbies as takes their clothes off and cant get them back on! I do think they are ugly dolls lol but I really don't think they are that bad.

Buttonmoons

Oh, sorry if I offended you. It's just my opinion of them I've looked online and some of the dolls look worse than others, I once saw the cartoon and was like :eek: "like omg, can you BEEEELIVE she wore the same outfit as me?!"

I do like the look of the moxie girls, but it could be it's because they are missing the jumbo lips, just reminds me of Pete Burns.

Morglin

Snowmoredebt wrote: »

I would let her have it. The novolty will wear off in a week and with so much to keep her occupied over Christmas you can pick your moment and hide it, this is what I do and if asked I say I've put it their so it doesn't get broken.

That's exactly what I'd do - the whole thing will become much more 'must have' if the daughter finds out that she cannot have it.;)

If she's a quiet lass, and it's not her thing, then she won't wear it, (whatever it is), anyway.

Lin

rachelhen

as your daughter is only ten and you are responsible for guiding her and keeping her safe I think it's ok you opened it.
My daughter was sent a mobile phone by someone she spoke to on the net when she was 13 and I did open it and just as well....I realise its a bit different, but I do feel that it is justifiable where there is a concern.

cheepskate_2

Part of growing up is making your own decisions.
This may be where " your own decision" comes into play for your daughter.
Let her open it , then after xmas is sort of over(the day) ask her what she thinks of the said presents etc
At one point your daughter is going to have to make her own decisions and better to have started young with adult supervision than have it thrust on you at a late age.

If this child is such a "older child/parents very lax " i'd be more worried about her playing/friends with her than some non-descript item that will be in a drawer after about 2 days .

I have a friend who prob thinks all my sons toys are way too xxx rated(computer games-any- ), but then she would have her kids still watching the telletubbies. Due to this her kids want these items more and are desperate to have them, just wait till they are tenagers.