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AM, I, in the wrong??

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  • mrcow
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    Her dad was sat next to her, i was'nt being intimidating or standing over her shouting, i was just baffled as to why she was being so horrible,

    You said yourself that you went up to the girl and started asking her loads of questons and saying that your daughter was "heartbroken"

    The girl is 5. Five years old.
    You are an adult.
    She doesn't know you from Adam.

    Leave her alone !!!!!!!
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  • MrsE_2
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    I think you should have gone straight to her Dad.
    If it had been my DD & if a strange adult started having a go at her, if she was right or wrong I would have flipped.
    Can you not explain to your DD that some people just aren't very nice & to ignore them? Tell her don't try & be friends, just leave well alone.
  • mrcow
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    I think this childs ignorance must be coming from her parents, i teach my kids to be nice, polite .

    The fact that you refer to her as "nasty little girl" speaks volumes to be honest.

    I have no idea what you are teaching your kids, but stay away from other people's children until you learn how to calm down and behave appropriately around kids.
    "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
    Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."
  • kegg_2
    kegg_2 Posts: 522 Forumite
    You cant make a child like or want to play with another one and i would say your reaction has ensured they will never be friends now.
  • mrcow
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    Aw thanks for being so understanding, obviously never read the full post, whats up, no other threads to rip apart??


    I have read the whole thread and have been pretty revolted by what you've said.


    I'm also very sorry to hear about your sister.
    "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
    Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."
  • Rachel83
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    As a mother if i'd have seen you having a go at my little girl before saying something to me first i'd have given you a mouthful!
    It makes you look worse off for going to the little girl and having a go at her! You could have politely took her father asside after if this was been recorded for dvd it would have all been there for anyone to watch anyway it wouldn't have been missed. That little girl might be very worried about going to her dance lesson now because of you shouting at her, you maybe thinking well my little girls upset too, but your the adult.
  • *Louise*
    *Louise* Posts: 9,197 Forumite
    Sorry to hear your daughter has had trouble, but it's never a good idea to approach a child directly, you should always speak to the parent or teacher and sort it via them.

    I hope this incident doesn't put your daughter (or the other child) off going to their classes.
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  • claroc
    claroc Posts: 30 Forumite
    so sorry tootsie, i do understand my daughter was a victem of bullying which i think this is no matter how young the children involved, lots of luck claroc
  • Sorry hun but yes I think you were in the wrong

    Regardless of how the other girl acted, what would have been your reaction if the roles had been reversed and it was your daughter being questioned?

    I know it's hard to see your little one upset and that you are going through alot but how you reacted wasn't appropriate.
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  • shellsuit
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    Toostie, why are you being so rude?

    It's not right to question a 5 year old, one that you don't know and doesn't know you, even if you are being nice about it.

    If you can't see that you were in the wrong (that was the point of the thread wasn't it?), then it makes me wonder just how you really acted with the little girl, if you are flying off the handle with everyone here.
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