Liquorice_Twirls wrote: »
I hope one day to be the sort of grandparent that loves having my grandkids over. I don't think I will view it as being some sort of obligation as I think the wonderful thing about kids is that you get to do many fun things such as baking, painting, getting to watch all the Disney movies, playing make believe silly games etc etc., even though I'm sure it's exhausting at times.
I feel a bit sad when I see some people saying that parents choose to have children and they should take 24/7 care of them. Surely being a supportive and interested grandparent means that sometimes you can step in to give your own kids timeout, and also you get that precious time with your own grand kids.
Grand parents should not be treated like unpaid child minders nor should they forget that they can get a tremendous amount of pleasure from their grand children. As my Mum says, all of the pleasure and when they've worn you out, they go home, you tidy up and it stays that way!
To the OP - it sounds like you have been a great Mum and Gran so far, but it's easy to be taken for granted. What your daughter did sounds very hurtful and I think you need to have a long conversation about what both your expectations of your role as a Gran and hers as a Mum are. Perhaps she needs to realise you're a person as well as a Mum and Gran.
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