Grandparents I need your opinion.....

pimento

So the baby's great grandmother also looks after her when you can't?

candygirl

pimento wrote: »

So the baby's great grandmother also looks after her when you can't?

Yea it happened once but catch up with the rest of the thread, and all will become clearer:D

pupsicola

candygirl wrote: »

As some of you know, I have a lovely DGD aged 8 months:DI idoloise her and look after her at least 2 days a week as well as a weekend night most weeks so my DD can go to college, go out etc.I enjoy having her, and have even made her own bedroom for when she stays, and she is a really good baby:D
However sometimes I can't always say yea to babysitting, as I am going out, or as has happened this week I have been ill, plus have had a new kitchen fitted so my house is in complete disruption :oI have prob said no about 3 times in 8 months, and today I have said I can't babysit tonight as my DGD is ill, and I am, as well as the kitchen thing.My DD has now put on fb that i'm selfish and lazy!!:eek::eek:
I know it's childish and I know i'm not selfish, or lazy but I am really hurt:(:(
I'd appreciate any advice from any other Grandparents as how to move forward with this situation, as talking and trying to reason with her always results in more verbal abuse
The feeling I get is that she doesn't want/expect me to have any life myself, and every time I try to do anything independent I get all sorts of hassle :rolleyes:I do however feel like I do more than enough for her and my DGD, without any appreciation

Your daughter is behaving like a spoilt child. I have kids of my own and would never dream of asking my parents to do so much for me. They have done their bit raising kids and now it is time for them to enjoy their retirement and have fun.

They babysit every now and then and spend quality time with my kids, but that is as far as I want it to go. Your daughter will not be viewed well by other parents on facebook. This shows her in a very bad light. Let her stew and dont be so available to help her in future. She needs to learn the hard way that she owes you a huge debt for all you do for her and yet she has repaid you by being ghastly.

jackieglasgow

pupsicola the original message is from Nov 2009. Candy updated on the last page.

candygirl

jackieglasgow wrote: »

pupsicola the original message is from Nov 2009. Candy updated on the last page.

Thanks hun I CBA explaining it all from the start again:o

jenhug

if i spoke to my mum like your daughter does to you, she'd take my knickers down and smack my backside! And i'm 32! Where is the respect? Seems your daughter doesnt have any.

jackieglasgow

maybe edit the title Candy? Put please go to page 5 or something on it? x

candygirl

jackieglasgow wrote: »

maybe edit the title Candy? Put please go to page 5 or something on it? x

Done it from page 3 hun:D

elisebutt65

candygirl wrote: »

Here I am with an update over 13 months on.DD has been going out with her new v controlling bf for 18 months now, and on Xmas night she texted and rang us to say her bf had beaten her and thrown her to the floor 3 times, as well as run off with the baby in the pram.She had then come home and he had tried to get in the house so she rang the police who put him in the cells overnight.:mad:
Boxing morning we set off from OH's family who we'd been spending Xmas with, 70 miles away, and rushed back to make sure she was ok.We were met with her holding a positive preg test, and saying we had to go as he was coming round, as he had been released:o
Since then she has told me he has done similar to her 3 other times, and also put his ex wife's head through a window in a similar fit of anger.
I am understandably worried, about her , DGD and the baby to be, but she just thinks i'm being funny and not giving her bf a chance, as now she says it was only a drunken row:eek::eek:
I've tried explaining my concerns but have been met by the usual insults etc.Any ideas?:(

TBH I would probably be calling Social Services - what if he decides to go for your DGD?? It's a bit harsh but if they tell her she has to stop seeing him or she'll lose the kids then it might make the light dawn a bit sooner.

I agree with the previous poster about DV getting worse in pregnancy - My ex threw me down the stairs when I was 4 months gone:eek:. Luckily I finally saw sense about 2 years later and have a lovely son. But it does take time, energy and strength to get shot of the evil bstrds:(

pupsicola

I left an abusive relationship 4 years ago. Domestic violence only ever gets worse and pregnancy can trigger it.

The last poster was right to say your dgd could be next. Thats what a domestic violence officer told me when I finally went to the police.