Forgotton ?

squirrelchops

Oh for goodness sakes just ask him. There you go end of. Tell him that his forgetfullness has hurt your feelings and see what he says.

If OH has borrowed money or we have been away and used joint credit card I just say 'oi you, you owe me xxx'. A bit different to a promised present I know.

As for your predicament.....for me it would never happen as my OH wants to spoil me and I am the one saying No as try to be MSE!!!

squirrelchops

AND.....the something sparkly thing.....been together 2 years...


were you secretly hoping he asked you to marry him and is it that that smarts?????

helena4_2

shellsuit wrote: »

He hasn't forgotten though, you told him not to bother!

And you are materialistic otherwise it wouldn't have bothered you that the flowers cost £3.99 and the vase was under a fiver.

Plus he was going to pay for the whole meal for your birthday and you wouldn't let him.

What if you did agree to him buying you something and he got you some earrings?

He didn't say he was going to get you something 'sparkly', so where does that come into it?

Again, it doesn't sound like you know what you want. If he offers to pay for a meal, let him! You can't offer to pay half then moan about it.

as I posted earlier the conversation ended in me saying ok AFTER saying he doesnt have to so he knew I may of been waiting, and him saying he wanted to buy me something like jewellry so thats 'sparkly in most peoples book! if you re read my earlier posts so no I did not say dont bother.

And I also have said I cant afford to pay dinners out and he is the one who decides we eat out so when the bill comes he will say something like if you give me 10 cash that means I wont have to go tot the ATM thanks thats after 'not offering' to pay half.

helena4_2

squirrelchops wrote: »

AND.....the something sparkly thing.....been together 2 years...


were you secretly hoping he asked you to marry him and is it that that smarts?????

Def not we are not close to marriage

squirrelchops

OK just thought I would pose that question!

helena4_2

shellsuit wrote: »

He hasn't forgotten though, you told him not to bother!

And you are materialistic otherwise it wouldn't have bothered you that the flowers cost £3.99 and the vase was under a fiver.

Plus he was going to pay for the whole meal for your birthday and you wouldn't let him.

What if you did agree to him buying you something and he got you some earrings?

He didn't say he was going to get you something 'sparkly', so where does that come into it?

Again, it doesn't sound like you know what you want. If he offers to pay for a meal, let him! You can't offer to pay half then moan about it.

he doesnt offer to pay for meals thats the point I have said I cant go out as much as you as I dont earn the amount you do (so no he is not skint) so if I pay for half the b/day dinner that was to compenstate for us not going out on his b/day if you re read my post earlier

Zazen999

helena4 wrote: »

as I posted earlier the conversation ended in me saying ok AFTER saying he doesnt have to so he knew I may of been waiting, and him saying he wanted to buy me something like jewellry so thats 'sparkly in most peoples book! if you re read my earlier posts so no I did not say dont bother.

And I also have said I cant afford to pay dinners out and he is the one who decides we eat out so when the bill comes he will say something like if you give me 10 cash that means I wont have to go tot the ATM thanks thats after 'not offering' to pay half.

There's a huge difference between saying 'goodie, how exciting, can't wait' and 'no, no, no, oh go on then'. Perhaps he thinks you don't actually want it therefore he may as well save his cash.

And, I'm not being funny, but if we can see the mixed messages in just a few posts; how are you coming across to him?


And what did you get him for his birthday?

Jo_R_2

squirrelchops wrote: »

If OH has borrowed money or we have been away and used joint credit card I just say 'oi you, you owe me xxx'. A bit different to a promised present I know.

Hahahah I like your approach squirrelchops!:rotfl:

I think (not talking from experience here, honest:D) that the OP basically wants her OH to buy her the sparklies and be treated like a laydee. Despite feeling like she had to offer half for the meal, and his flowers (which are lovely anyway), she was hoping he might just go on out anyway and get her something smashing... just because he could.

But as has been pointed out - maybe he's forgotten (men are like that unless you shove it in their face:rolleyes:) or he can't afford it but wanted to show he was bothered at the time?

I'd just ask him. Say you remembered his mention of something sparkly and wondered if the thought was still there because you'd love something special like x... (said whilst walking through town and pointing in the jeweller's:D) You could always point at something under the 'engagement rings' sign and gauge his reaction!

helena4_2

I just said I'll let you choose what it is

helena4_2

Jo_R wrote: »

Hahahah I like your approach squirrelchops!:rotfl:

I think (not talking from experience here, honest:D) that the OP basically wants her OH to buy her the sparklies and be treated like a laydee. Despite feeling like she had to offer half for the meal, and his flowers (which are lovely anyway), she was hoping he might just go on out anyway and get her something smashing... just because he could.

But as has been pointed out - maybe he's forgotten (men are like that unless you shove it in their face:rolleyes:) or he can't afford it but wanted to show he was bothered at the time?

I'd just ask him. Say you remembered his mention of something sparkly and wondered if the thought was still there because you'd love something special like x... (said whilst walking through town and pointing in the jeweller's:D) You could always point at something under the 'engagement rings' sign and gauge his reaction!

At last someone understands!