Forgotton ?

lynzpower

OP you give over very mixed messages. If we are confused god knows what he thinks.

You say you are not materialistic, but clearly you are, if you are upset you havnet had more.

You said no to more, and insisted on going halfers on the dinner.

Do you want him to slam his fist on the table and say "Im not listening to your opinion, you will do as I say".

When you say "what women doesnt want a sparkly thing" er plenty of us really are not interested- but if you are you are, be honest and say thats what you want instead of pretending no/ saying you dont need to/ insisting on going halfers.

I tihnk the flowers were a tester- to see if you accepted those, then you might want something else too. You said you didnt.

Like Zazen I am totally confused here. OP do you KNOW what you want??

squirrelchops

I think Zazen, like me just has no idea what to say re: adivce. Everything anyone has said is either dismissed or argued against by yourself.

Answer: just do what you think is right or actually what you want to!

xmaslolly76

I know how you feel chick my OH said he would buy me a phone i said no need but he insisted we went to the shop but it was closed he then didnt mention it again and months down the line still hadnt said anything. So yes i think we all say no to things when we secretly want them just so we dont look over eager or greedy and yes it can hurt when they forget about what they have said my friend casually asked him one day if he had bought me my new phone so maybe your friend could drop it into a conversation one of the days it jogged my OH memory and i know have a new shiny phone for xmas yay :-) xx

helena4_2

ok maybe I didnt put it right

all I wanted to ask is would anyone be offended if your partner said he would dearly like to treat you (whatever the item size/cost) then 'forgets'....how would you feel?

squirrelchops

As I said before, maybe he has conveniently forgotten because he can't afford it.

helena4_2

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

I know how you feel chick my OH said he would buy me a phone i said no need but he insisted we went to the shop but it was closed he then didnt mention it again and months down the line still hadnt said anything. So yes i think we all say no to things when we secretly want them just so we dont look over eager or greedy and yes it can hurt when they forget about what they have said my friend casually asked him one day if he had bought me my new phone so maybe your friend could drop it into a conversation one of the days it jogged my OH memory and i know have a new shiny phone for xmas yay :-) xx

he has never met this friend thank god I only told one friend what he was going to do, to be honest this friend is materialistic and thats the first thing she asked me 'what did he get you?' :rolleyes: the day after my b/day.

Zazen999

helena4 wrote: »

ok maybe I didnt put it right

all I wanted to ask is would anyone be offended if your partner said he would dearly like to treat you (whatever the item size/cost) then 'forgets'....how would you feel?

Mine wouldn't forget - either I'd remind him or we'd talk about the finance side and decide to leave it.

helena4_2

squirrelchops wrote: »

As I said before, maybe he has conveniently forgotten because he can't afford it.

He does have money he telle me all the time how well his property empire is doing, his well paid job is a peice of cake and that he is buying land to build house.

But your not getting my question its not the money or item its the 'thought' thats GONE

shellsuit

helena4 wrote: »

ok maybe I didnt put it right

all I wanted to ask is would anyone be offended if your partner said he would dearly like to treat you (whatever the item size/cost) then 'forgets'....how would you feel?

He hasn't forgotten though, you told him not to bother!

And you are materialistic otherwise it wouldn't have bothered you that the flowers cost £3.99 and the vase was under a fiver.

Plus he was going to pay for the whole meal for your birthday and you wouldn't let him.

What if you did agree to him buying you something and he got you some earrings?

He didn't say he was going to get you something 'sparkly', so where does that come into it?

Again, it doesn't sound like you know what you want. If he offers to pay for a meal, let him! You can't offer to pay half then moan about it.

lynzpower

helena4 wrote: »

ok maybe I didnt put it right

all I wanted to ask is would anyone be offended if your partner said he would dearly like to treat you (whatever the item size/cost) then 'forgets'....how would you feel?

i would actually ask him Helena.

I wouold sit down with hijm and say, "you remember you were going to buy me X, can I ask why you never did"

and then see what he says. :A

Qite simple if you are in a relationship with someone Id have thought